Why Secure Men Need Strong Women, Not Puppets By Michael Baisden
Pride is a terrible thing! And when it overcomes wisdom, it can obliterate a relationship. A wise man chooses a woman who respects his role as the leader, but he will not hesitant to utilize her talents and skills to move the relationship and the family forward. Too many men are intimidated by women who are smarter than they are, especially when it comes to business.
Instead of seeing her as an asset, she’s viewed as a threat. And don’t let her be confident and sexually adventurous, that can become a challenge to most men’s egos that can bring out some deep-rooted insecurity.
True leadership is also about delegating responsibility; it’s not thinking you know it all. Only a fool would allow his household or business to suffer because he was too proud to acknowledge that his woman was stronger in a particular area than he was.
I mean, what’s the point of choosing a smart woman if you don’t allow her to demonstrate her value? Keeping her in the background guarantees you’ll be less successful not more. A true leader is strong enough to know when he needs to take a step back and allow his woman to lead.
Lastly, I think it’s critical for men to understand that leadership is not a dictatorship. You can’t have the attitude: it’s my way or the highway. Men who rule by fear and threats are not leaders at all but cowards. They’re afraid of losing control, afraid of being proven wrong, and afraid to think outside the box.
When a man leads as a dictator, he doesn’t ask questions and he doesn’t seek ideas about a better way of doing things. He puts blinders on and charges ahead, certain that his way is the only way.
And when his way fails, as it usually does, he will look for someone to blame and lash out at his woman for not reading his mind and forcing him to do the right thing. Until one day he wakes up to find his woman has gone and there’s no one left in his life to lead. Maybe then, just maybe, he’ll realize that when you’re a true leader you need a strong partner, not a puppet.
~ Michael Baisden
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The Challenge Of Being A Successful, Strong, Independent Woman, By Michael Baisden
The number of men who can “handle you” are limited. The number of men who can challenge you are limited. The number of men who are not intimidated by you are limited. And finally, the number of men who are single who are all of the above are REALLY limited! And herein lies most women’s frustration.
We men don’t “Act Right” because we know we don’t have to. The true challenge for quality women is that other women will settle for less, less time, less dating, less sex, less money being spent, and less of a commitment. Not necessarily because they have low self-esteem, they simply value having a man enough to adapt.
Is this fair? No! Do women have to tolerate it? Hell no! But the game has changed and it’s not in their favor, not if their goal is to be in a committed monogamous relationship. Although it’s true that today’s woman doesn’t need a man financially and there’s less pressure to marry or have children, she still wants a man. But the higher her standards, the fewer choices she has.
If she has a degree, she’s too smart. If she has a high position in corporate America, she’s too threatening. If she owns a business, she’s too busy. And God forbid she earns more money and has a bigger home, how she’s perceived as not needing a man! Goddamn, what’s a woman to do?
Well, many women have decided they have no other choice stay single, focus on their family and career, hang out and travel with their girls, and buy a dildo and call it a day! The alternative is settling for men who are not up to their standards or share a man, which some women are perfectly fine with.
Am I telling women to settle? Of course, not! But they do need to address a mathematical reality! If the number of accomplished women with expectations of monogamy is growing and the number of single men who can match their success and who want to commit is shrinking how then will they compete with other women who aren’t as demanding and don’t insist on monogamy?
Yes, men want a good woman, a strong woman, and a quality woman, but men also want freedom. And truth be told men, like women, men fear their partner changing once they have them locked in, who will not be consistent about what they presented in the beginning. Or they will quit when the going gets tough.
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