Jesse Williams filed for divorce two years ago, and ever since the couple’s relationship has been a headline. Thirteen years and two kids later, the pair have been publically having financial disagreements.
Recently, People magazine reported that Williams asked the courts to deny Aryn Drake-Lee’s $200,000 request for attorney’s fees.
Last June, People reported that “Williams was ordered to pay more than $50,000 per month in child support in addition to the $50,695 per month in spousal support that he has paid Drake-Lee since January 2018.”
Williams reacted, stating “this isn’t a free ride” in the court documents.
Jesse Williams’ Ex Aryn Drake-Lee Breaks Her Silence on Split, Announces New Podcast for Moms: ‘I Found Community’ https://t.co/fA58cR6WkN
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This month Drake-Lee spoke with People to give us her experience.
“When the divorce process started, I had two nursing babies, and I am the one that ran our household for the 14 and a half years that he and I were together in the same house. And for our children, and for the creation of the businesses that we built together when I left my career in New York for us to move to California to pursue his, and then, as a result, built it…I knew, as the one that was really holding it all together, that I didn’t have a lot of room to fall, even though I was falling.”
Drake-Lee also admitted that the divorce was an incredibly isolating situation.
“I was in a place where I needed the support that was going to help to ground me. Most everybody I had spent the eight years here in LA with all went with him.”
In the end, she saw the events as a watershed moment. “It was a blessing in disguise because it was a real slap in the face to see who was around us and why, and at that point, it became very clear. And it cleared a pathway for me to make a shift and get back onto a path that was more in alignment with how I wanted to live my life” but in the end just proved to her who her real friends were.”
Drake-Lee admitted that the Hollywood scene was never for her.
“Hollywood and I bump heads. It was never my value system, and it was never something that I was striving for,” she says. “It never felt comfortable for me because of how superficial it was. And then that all became abundantly clear when everybody went left,” she told People.
An accountant discovered that Williams earns more than $520,000 per month. In April 2017, Drake-Lee asked the court for $27,000 more in child support and an additional $200,000 for her attorney’s fees.
After reports of the financial back-and-forth, Drake-Lee wants people to know the truth.
In her interview with People, she said, “Much of what they say is wrong. But I’m not interested in a tit-for-tat, because that’s just never-ending. People believe what they want to believe because it’s easy.”
The pair did not sign a prenup when they got married, probably because they had been together so long prior to the marriage. Sadly, because there was no legal document detailing
Important financial and child custody information – the two have had to have this very public, complicated divorce.
According to Spodek Law Group, 40 percent of first marriages end in divorce. Sixty percent of second marriages fail. So why are less than 10 percent of couples filing for prenups?
Nearly 62 percent of people in a recent survey said that the request for a prenuptial agreement sends a negative signal to the other person who hasn’t requested it. Sixty-three percent of people believe that they would be at a higher risk of divorce if their partner asked them for a prenuptial agreement.
Hopefully, the stigma around prenups can be forgotten. Prenups aren’t just to protect assets. Prenups also:
- Preclude costly court battles
- Define Marital property
- Protect the interest of the shared children
- Protect the interest of children from the previous partner
- Define future alimony
- Protect against debt liability
Williams addressed the crumbling of his marriage and cheating rumors on Jay-Z’s Footnotes for 4:44 the visual counterpart to JAY-Z‘s last album. “I was in a relationship 13 years, 13 real years, not five years, not seven years – 13 years,” Williams told cameras. “All of a sudden motherf—ers are writing think-pieces that I somehow threw a 13-year relationship. Like, the most painful experience I’ve had in my life like with a person I’ve loved with all of my heart – that I threw a person and my family in the trash because a girl I work with is cute.”
Drake-Lee is now interested in owning her story and not letting the media do it for her. Her new podcast BBSARETRASH (Babies Are Trash) is an honest conversation about “healing through mothering.”
“I think a lot of women are still in the place where we’re pretending like we can do everything. And it’s not realistic, and it’s not holistic, and it’s not sustainable,” says Drake-Lee. “I want to empower women to find their voice, to take the mask off so that they can really find the connection and the community that they’re seeking.”
According to People magazine, “Williams and Drake-Lee were granted joint legal custody of their two children in August 2017 and joint physical custody in March 2018. The agreement stated that Williams and Drake-Lee must alternate custody of the children for major holidays.”
Want more of Drake-Lee’s interview? Read more here.
Written By Michae’ Baisden