What Does It Take For A Man To Stop Cheating? Here’s My Story!
Many years ago I was married to a wonderful woman from Alabama. She was older, more mature and played her role as my wife impeccably!
At the time I was working for the Chicago Transit Authority (CTA) hanging out with friends and trying to figure out who I was and what to do with my life.
Unfortunately for my wife, she met me at a time when I was still immature and didn’t have anything to lose.
I didn’t own a home, I didn’t have a career, I didn’t have a reputation to protect, and mostly, I didn’t have a vision for my life.
And that’s the point of this article. Most men don’t fear the repercussions of their actions because they have nothing to lose.
Yes, they can lose the woman that claims to love and their family but men don’t think in those terms when they’re cheating. Which should be obvious by the number of men who destroy their relationships every day with their infidelity.
In my opinion, until a man values his reputation and his integrity will he go through the process it takes to become a better man.
Don’t get me wrong, men do dumb shit regardless of what’s at stake but the mature man will learn from his mistakes and realize it in order to build anything substantial it must be rooted in trust and honesty.
And here in lies the root of the problem, most men aren’t involved in building anything that defines legacy. Yes, they have jobs but most don’t have careers. Yes, some own businesses but they’re not growing them. So having mediocre relationships and a mediocre reputation is no big deal. He’s comfortable.
But when you want to lead and be the best you can’t afford to have people attacking you on social media, you can’t afford to have people showing up at your events shouting you down about some wrong you’ve done to them.
You can’t afford for some side chick to put you on blast for getting her pregnant or giving her a disease. Or for a man to accuse you of owing him money or having sex with his wife. My word is my bond and my reputation is my most valuable asset.
If you’re dealing with a man who isn’t passionate about doing what’s right and protecting his brand then don’t be surprised that he constantly cheats on you because he has nothing to lose…that he values.
That’s my opinion. What do you think? ~ Michael Baisden
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