The Challenge Of Being A Successful, Strong, Independent Woman, By Michael Baisden
The number of men who can “handle you” are limited. The number of men who can challenge you are limited. The number of men who are not intimidated by you are limited. And finally, the number of men who are single who are all of the above are REALLY limited! And herein lies most women’s frustration.
We men don’t “Act Right” because we know we don’t have to. The true challenge for quality women is that other women will settle for less, less time, less dating, less sex, less money being spent, and less of a commitment. Not necessarily because they have low self-esteem, they simply value having a man enough to adapt.
Is this fair? No! Do women have to tolerate it? Hell no! But the game has changed and it’s not in their favor, not if their goal is to be in a committed monogamous relationship. Although it’s true that today’s woman doesn’t need a man financially and there’s less pressure to marry or have children, she still wants a man. But the higher her standards, the fewer choices she has.
If she has a degree, she’s too smart. If she has a high position in corporate America, she’s too threatening. If she owns a business, she’s too busy. And God forbid she earns more money and has a bigger home, how she’s perceived as not needing a man! Goddamn, what’s a woman to do?
Well, many women have decided they have no other choice stay single, focus on their family and career, hang out and travel with their girls, and buy a dildo and call it a day! The alternative is settling for men who are not up to their standards or share a man, which some women are perfectly fine with.
Am I telling women to settle? Of course, not! But they do need to address a mathematical reality! If the number of accomplished women with expectations of monogamy is growing and the number of single men who can match their success and who want to commit is shrinking how then will they compete with other women who aren’t as demanding and don’t insist on monogamy?
Yes, men want a good woman, a strong woman, and a quality woman, but men also want freedom. And truth be told men, like women, men fear their partner changing once they have them locked in, who will not be consistent about what they presented in the beginning. Or they will quit when the going gets tough.
Michael Baisden
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