Sometimes You Just Want To Say, F**k Love, By Michael Baisden
Of course, I believe in love! I’ve been in love a few times in my life and for the most part, it was a great experience! But it’s also true that some of the biggest mistakes I have made were because of love!
It’s not that love blinds you, which it often does, but loves causes you to compromise on things that you don’t realize until later…that you should not have.
You don’t necessarily lower your standards, but we do tend to dismiss them because of how euphoric love is. We trip over the emotions of love, the chemistry of love, and the finality that the search is over for The One! We’re all programmed to desire that Hollywood love kinda shit.
When you’re young you can afford to love unconditionally but when you’re older and have more to lose in terms of time and financial stability you understand exactly what I mean by Fuck Love!
Fuck being vulnerable to someone who is inconsistent! Fuck making life plans with people you are not truly compatible with. And fuck investing energy into someone just because the sex is great, and people say you look good together.
There’s too much at risk to get carried away by love. Love cannot be THE most important factor in choosing a partner when you’re grown; character can, integrity can, compatibility can, shared values, lifestyle, and attitudes about money! As well as kindness and loyalty!
I know some will argue that a combination of those qualities can cause you to love someone, and I agree. But too often we give Love too freely instead of insisting on a consistent demonstration of character.
So maybe I shouldn’t be too hard on love and instead say, Fuck falling in love! Let’s grow to love! It may not be as romantic, but it will be more authentic and longer-lasting!
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