Pride is a terrible thing! And when it overcomes wisdom, it can obliterate a relationship. A wise man chooses a woman who respects his role as the leader, but he will not hesitant to utilize her talents and skills to move the relationship and the family forward.
Too many men are intimidated by women who are smarter than they are, especially when it comes to business.
Instead of seeing her as an asset she’s viewed as a threat. And don’t let her be confident and sexually adventurous, that can become a challenge to most men’s egos that can bring out some deep-rooted insecurity.
True leadership is also about delegating responsibility; it’s not thinking you know it all. Only a fool would allow his household or business to suffer because he was too proud to acknowledge that his woman was stronger in a particular area than he was.
I mean, what’s the point of choosing a smart woman if you don’t allow her to demonstrate her value? Keeping her in the background guarantees you’ll be less successful not more. A true leader is strong enough to know when he needs to take a step back and allow his woman to lead.
Lastly, I think it’s critical for men to understand that leadership is not a dictatorship. You can’t have the attitude: it’s my way or the highway.
Men who rule by fear and threats are not leaders at all but cowards. They’re afraid of losing control, afraid of being proven wrong, and afraid to think outside the box.
When a man leads as a dictator, he doesn’t ask questions and he doesn’t seek ideas about a better way of doing things. He puts blinders on and charges ahead, certain that his way is the only way.
And when his way fails, as it usually does, he will look for someone to blame and lash out at his woman for not reading his mind and forcing him to do the right thing. Until one day he wakes up to find his woman has gone and there’s no one left in his life to lead.
Maybe then, just maybe, he’ll realize that when you’re a true leader you need a strong partner, not a puppet.
~ Michael Baisden
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