Most Women Aren’t High Maintenance, Men Are Just Low Effort!
Most men say they want a woman who carries herself with class, elegance, sex appeal and style – but how many of them are ready to provide for such a woman?
Watch here about how women are often shamed for requiring more:
Women with something to offer, have usually spent years building her success, confidence and overall appeal. These women have put in the time, money and effort to become attractive and successful. So if this woman wants her suitors to provide emotionally, financially and mentally is it really asking too much?
Men of value understand that great women require an investment. Men of value want that type of woman by their side and in their life – and so they make sure they have something to offer before she moves on to the other men that are lined up.
But all too often, we see men telling women that they are requiring emotional intelligence, stimulating conversation and financial resources – is just too much. But that’s just not the case. As one man tweeted, “Self worth will teach you you’re never asking for too much.”
The fact of the matter is, the men who tell women they’re “asking for too much” really just want to talk women out of their standards so that they can have a chance.
I remember a classmate saying I was high-maintenance in business school and feeling somewhat horrified at the perception. Today, I accept he was spot on and there is nothing wrong with wanting and insisting on high standards. It only bothers those who can’t reach them.
— Aishetu Fatima Dozie (@TheAishetu) April 30, 2020
Let me say this loud and clear: Ladies, you are not high maintenance. These men are just low effort and self-serving.
Men who can’t meet your standards will try to talk you out of yours! And then in five years, he’ll have the “high maintenance” women he always dreamed about he finally found a career that can provide for a high-level lifestyle a high-value woman would find attractive and secure.
Here’s why low-effort men want wmoen to forget their worth and lose their standards
If you want a one-of-kind woman, you’re going to have to invest in her well-being. Otherwise, what does she really need you for if you’re not there to provide something valuable?
by Michaé Baisden
Being Single Is Not A Disease, By Michael Baisden
The reaction of most men when they meet an attractive single woman is, “What’s wrong with you?” But my question is, why does something have to be wrong? Why is it so unbelievable that an attractive woman would choose not to be in a relationship? Maybe the reason she’s single is because there isn’t anything wrong with her.
People can be very toxic, and they bring a lot of baggage from previous partners. The fact that a person who has many options is not in a relationship speaks to his or her high self-esteem, not their lack of it. It’s easy to just jump into a situation with someone and start calling him or her your man or woman. But it takes discipline and knowing your self-worth that makes it easy to wait for someone who values you and uplifts you.
Roni C. wrote: I personally find that I am happiest single. My life is drama free. My bills are paid. I don’t need to check in with anyone. I’m not concerned with what anyone else is doing. I’m comfortable going to the movies alone or going out to eat alone. If I want, I can definitely date when I choose, so that is never a problem. I am just comfortable in my own skin. I’m just happy!
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Amen, Roni! That’s precisely the attitude every single man and woman should have. Most people have never taken themselves out on a dinner and movie date and enjoyed doing it! And that’s a shame. What you do demonstrates the love you have for your own company and for yourself. That attitude is precisely what attracts healthy people into your universe.
Besides, being in a relationship or marriage is not an indicator that a person is emotionally healthy or even happy. I hear more complaints from so-called happily married people than single people. That’s not an attack on marriage; I’m just stating my experience. It’s surprising that a woman would even have to defend being single, especially to other women, but women are often the ones applying the most pressure.
~ Michael Baisden
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