Is Having Sex With Your Ex A Good Idea?
Breaking off a relationship with an ex-boyfriend is easier said than done. It’s not a simple matter of waking up one day and deciding it’s over! After spending months, if not years, going out on dates, having a stimulating conversation, and having mind-blowing sex, strong bonds have been created. And it’s not only physical bonds that need to be broken but emotional ones as well.
It’s hard enough to stay away from someone that you have sexual chemistry with but when you also have a strong friendship, it can be mission impossible. In many cases, the ex was your confidant, your cheerleader, and someone who lifted your spirits when you were having a bad day. So, when your girlfriend criticizes you for going back to him by saying, “Girl, just move on, you deserve better.” Your attitude is: “And then what?”
To expect a woman to suddenly get rid of a man who has been a motivational force in her life and provides her with multiple orgasms is not only unrealistic, but it’s impracticable. Yes, there are other good men out there, but let’s keep it real, there aren’t that many! Besides, her mindset is she already has the perfect man, at least when it comes to companionship and sex! So why go through the headache and risk of meeting someone new who probably won’t measure up to his standard?
And what about if there are children involved? Even if she disconnects from the intimate relationship, they still have to see one another on a regular basis. And depending on how old the children are it may be necessary for him to come to the house to pick up his child or children. And we all know that spells trouble!
Here’s the typical visitation scenario: Daddy comes by late at night to drop off the kids. He puts them to bed and kisses them on the forehead. Of course, the woman just happens to be wearing something sexy that exposes a little thigh or cleavage to remind him of what he’s been missing. She walks him to the door to see him out and then leans in to kiss him goodbye, and then bam! The sparks start flying!
They start breathing hard and begin peeling each other’s clothes off as they head towards the bedroom. The familiar scent of each other is irresistible; besides, she’s been abstaining from sex for weeks or even months hoping for this moment. As for him, well, he’s a man.
Early the next morning they awake looking and feeling guilty, but they’re both satisfied. He begins to frantically put on his clothes to avoid seeing the children before they wake up for school. She follows him to the front door with a devious smile on her face. They exchange an awkward kiss goodbye and then she quietly closes the door behind him.
As she floats back towards the bedroom, she clinches her fist in celebration of her sexual victory, “Yes!” and then immediately begins to fantasize about how wonderful it’s going to be when they get back together and become a family again.
But the man is not floating on air. He knows he only created more problems. As he drives home, he’s full of regret. He knows that now that they’ve had sex, she will be expecting more from him, more than he’s willing to give. Not only that, she may be pregnant again because there’s no doubt the sex was unprotected. As he drives down the highway, he looks at his reflection in the rear-view mirror, “What have you gotten yourself into, you big dummy?”