I Don’t Want To Be The Only Good Man You’ve Dated, By Michael Baisden
A man should want to add to a woman’s life not be her life! He should want to enhance her happiness not be her happiness. And he should want to supplement her finances not be her means of supporting herself. My point is, a real man doesn’t need a woman to NEED him to be valuable to her, he should want her to be whole. In my experience, the women who are the most whole are the ones who are accustomed to being treated well in their past relationships.
You see, you don’t need to be the richest man in a woman’s life to be the most impactful. And you certainly don’t want to be the only good man your woman has dated. The more good men she’s been involved with the better. And if she had a good dad, that’s icing on the cake. Real men, good men, and mature men have no problem following another good man. In fact, he did you a favor, at least you know she’s had a history of being treated well and with respect and fairness.
And consider this, the woman who’s had a history of dating good men or even rich men, means that she chose you above all of them. I think that’s a compliment, not something to be intimidated by. Now don’t get me wrong, I understand how some men can be threatened by a woman whose dating accomplished men, attractive men, and men we assumed “laid the dick down!”
But that can’t be your focus when you step to a woman who has her shit together. Your energy should be spent on bringing what you have to offer to the table. If she wanted to be with the guy with more money, Pretty Ricky, or the guy with the bigger penis she would still be with him. But she’s not, she’s with you. So, stop tripping and enjoy the experience before you fuck it up being insecure. That’s my opinion. What do you think?
~ Michael Baisden
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