Don’t ever slow down from pursuing your dream just because your friends, family, or partner are insecure about your success! If they were meant to be in your life they will catch up!
I always like to use the metaphor of a stick floating down a stream. I am the stick, the stream is my dream, and everyone on the bank of the river is standing on the sidelines. My attitude is, if you want to go with me you’d better jump in the water because I’m not getting out!
Sometimes it takes years to find your talent and passion, and it would be foolish to give it up or postpone it because someone in your life lacks the security to support you or the courage to pursue their own dream.
Every day I receive e-mails from men and women who are on the verge of leaving their significant other because they are dealing with insecurity issues. Just this morning one of my Facebook friends posted this question about why her boyfriend was suddenly trippin’ over her success.
Sarita wrote: How is it that a man can seems so confident in himself in the beginning of the relationship but then he starts to have insecurity issues?
I am one of the most loyal woman in the world, I don’t flirt and I give my heart and my best to my man. I’m very independent but not so independent that I don’t let him do things for me.
I strive for him to feel wanted and provide him with the sense that he’s the man no matter how much I have or can do for myself, so why do men switch up on woman like that? Please shine some light on this if you can.
My Response: Sarita, men in general are not programmed to handle today’s woman — independent, outgoing, ambitious, thinkers, and leaders. It’s really not in our DNA, which is why when someone like you, who is an entrepreneur, dreamer, thinker, doer, and, might I add, attractive, it’s a lot for a man to handle.
Short term it’s all about the sex and having a nice arm piece, but over time, a man sees the potential of his woman and begins to ask himself, “Do I fit into her future?” And “Does she deserve someone better than me?”
He sees that your energy attracts other like-minded people who are also doers, thinkers, dreamers, etc., so I can just imagine who else has gravitated into your universe. Regardless if you’re reacting to them or not, things are happening in your life and he notices it.
Unfortunately, you cannot manage someone else’s insecurity. His self-esteem issues come from “Self.” All you can do is leave yourself open to discuss it and reassure him that you’re there for the long haul. But you can’t fix him, that’s his job!