Do You See Dating As An Interview? By Michael Baisden
Some people say you can learn more from observation than from talking, and there’s some truth to that, but my attitude is why not do both? How can you measure the consistency of what a person is showing you if you don’t have any information to compare it to?
If no one is asking questions about the other, how do you create a dialogue to learn what their values, beliefs, habits, and insecurities are? I don’t know about you, but I refuse to wait weeks or months to find out if the person I’m interested in has multiple sex partners or lives with their mother. My attitude is, tell me the truth up front so I don’t waste my valuable time.
As I said in the previous chapter, dating is a process of elimination, not inclusion, so let’s get this over with. If I don’t like your answers, I might be able to catch the last quarter of the Lakers and Clippers game. Ain’t nobody got time to waste on incompatible people. Just keep it pushing.
While most people are smiling and telling jokes during their first date, I’m looking forward to engaging in deep conversations to understand who they are. Yes, I have a sense of humor; in fact, I’m quite the comedian. But behind all those funny comments there is a thorough examination going on.
No matter how beautiful a woman is or how much cleavage she’s showing, I stay focused on my mission, which is to make sure my first date either moves us closer to a meaningful friendship or move us closer to the exit.
More men and women should approach dating with the mentality that dating is a process of elimination instead of walking on shells and holding back from asking too many questions they should come out the gate with guns blazing, or at least, ask the question you want answered.
When I ask women why they aren’t more direct, their response is usually, “I don’t want to scare him off!” But that’s precisely what you should be trying to do. If the truth about who you are, what you want, and what you don’t want will scare him off then count yourself lucky. It’s better to get rid of the man who’s not right for you today to make room for the man who is perfect for you tomorrow. Time is of the essence.
Here’s a response from one of my followers on Facebook. Now, this woman knows how to interview!
Diana Tyree wrote: I ask a ton of questions. Are you Married? Do you have Children? How many women do you have? Do you have a job and if so, what do you do? Do you have a car and a place of your own? Do you do boys? What are your dreams and aspirations? Can you cut the mustard in the Sac?
Why are you choosing me? Are you Family-oriented? Are you the jealous type? If we were to get together would you seek to change my Life? Do you love the Lord and have a relationship with God? Oh, and I would watch to see how he treats his mother, sisters, and if he has children. If you don’t hear from me just assume someone more qualified filled the position.