Do Women Want To Be “Handled”?
Being handled can be interpreted in many ways. Most of us have heard women say, “Men can’t handle a strong woman!” Or “I’m too much woman for him to handle sexually!” Now, to be honest, I would have to agree with those statements, if you put the word ‘some’ in front of …men. But what does it mean for a woman to be “handled?” And do men want the challenge of needing to “handle” their woman in their intimate relationships? Let’s start with how women perceive being handled.
I think most women would define being handled as wanting a man who is confident in the way he deals with her. For example, women want a man who can engage in a conversation about a variety of topics without having to dumb down. The same applies to a man being able to handle her success without feeling intimidated by her corporate, financial, or social status.
And of course, there’s the issue of being handled sexually. We’ve all heard women say, “He can’t handle this pussy!” Again, some men can’t! Research shows that women reach their sexual peak much later than men, and because many men, over and under the age of 40, suffer from obesity, high blood pressure, diabetes, and erectile dysfunction, women are increasingly unsatisfied sexual businessmen aren’t handled their business in the bedroom. Next thing you know she’s ordering sex toys off amazon and taking long hot showers, and trust me, it’s not to get squeaky clean.
But let’s consider what being handled means from a man’s perspective. Most men interpret the need to “handle” a woman as being in a confrontational relationship. As one man put it, “If I have to handle you, I don’t need you!” Sure, men talk shit about how they handle their women but those usually aren’t men in committed relationships with jobs and careers. Who has the energy after dealing with “The Man” to then have to come home and “handle” his woman? Men want peace, not to have to deal with a woman with an attitude before he can step foot in the door, or before he can eat his big piece of chicken.
Now, don’t get me wrong, a real man has no problem putting his foot down when his woman takes things too far! Most women respect men who check them when they step outline. Hell, it turns them on! But those situations aside, the term being “handled” has no place in a healthy, compatible, and mutually respectful relationship. While I agree that a man should be strong, resourceful, and be reliable when it comes to handling everyday situations, he shouldn’t be expected to have to “handle” his woman, nor should she need to be handled.
A woman who is strong in her femininity and confidence in who she is will learn the value and power in being able to handle herself. That’s my opinion. What do you think? ~ Michael Baisden
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