Dating Is An Interview! Here’s What You Need To Know About The Process

If you’re genuinely interested in someone ask lots of questions. Not just the basic Q&A crap, you should probe, dig, interrogate! And if they have a problem with that then peace out, see ya, adios, lata…ba-bye! LMBO

Besides, how else do you get to know someone if you don’t ask about their perspective on belief systems, family, sex, racial attitudes, etc.. and if you share an interest in sports, politics, raising kids, social activism, and a multitude of other issues. In fact, I think you should beware of people who don’t ask questions.

Some people say you can learn more from observing than talking, and there’s some truth to that, but my attitude is why not do both. I mean, how can you measure the consistency of what a person is about if you don’t have any information to compare it to? And if no one is asking about the other how do you create a dialogue to know what their values, habits, and insecurities are?

But maybe the reason why people don’t ask questions is because it doesn’t matter, they just want the sex, money, or are desperate to be in a relationship. But for those of us who value our time, health, and our reputations, we don’t give a damn how people feel about our interview process. We have too much to lose and no time for foolishness. Our attitude is, “I don’t know you…fool!”

Also, dialoging gives you an opportunity to see if your partner knows how to engage in a back and forth conversation. You’d be surprised by how many people don’t know when to let the other person in. You ask them a question and they go on for 5 or 10 minutes without taking a breath. Meanwhile, you’re sitting there holding the phone thinking, “Can I get a word in edgewise?”

Being able to have a conversation that flows is crucial in having a relationship. Your partner should be conscious of whether or not they are allowing you equal time to engage and respond. A lack of communication skills has been the demise of many relationships, regardless of how good the sex is.

Lastly, beware of people who only talk about themselves. There are more narcissists out there than you can imagine. And that, my way or the highway, mentality can not only be irritating but turn into abuse. Don’t give your heart and body to someone who doesn’t care to know your birthday, your favorite foods, or ask about your dreams.

~ Michael Baisden.

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Christian Women Aren’t For Everyone, By Michael Baisden

I don’t date Christian women, at least not Christian women who profess to be Christian at every opportunity. I don’t date Christian women who constantly mention Jesus on their social media page. And I don’t date Christian women who don’t believe in premarital sex. And if you’re a Christian man who isn’t prepared to live a truly Christian life you shouldn’t date Christian women either.

Now, I know my words may shock some of you but that’s my honesty. I’m not a Christian man, and I don’t live a Christian life, and I don’t follow Christian rules. But most importantly I don’t pretend to be Christian to get next to Christian women. The lowest thing a man can do is pretend to have a relationship with God just for the purpose of getting close to women who take their God, Jesus, and religion seriously!

I decided a long time ago that I would respect Christian women by not wasting their time. You see, they are many beautiful Christian women that approach me and that I am attracted to but the moment I see that they are serious about living a Christian lifestyle I know that we are not compatible, or equally yoked! So I keep it pushing!

I realize that speaking so frankly might turn-off some Christian women but I’m more concerned about maintaining their respect then faking it to appeal to them. And this honesty is as much for men as it is for Christian women. If you don’t believe in God and are not willing to live by God’s word, stop playing with God and stop blocking Christian women so they can choose a man who is true to his religion and true his relationship with God!

Michael Baisden