Cheaters Aren’t Greedy, They’re Insecure! By Michael Baisden
There’s nothing worse than a liar because liars ruin marriages and destroy the self-esteem of the people they lie to. Women lie and cheat on men nearly as much as men lie and cheat on women. The difference is women rarely cheat when they respect their man and are happy.
While men, on the other hand, will lie and cheat because it’s Tuesday! The point being, most men don’t need motivation, it’s in our nature to pursue multiple women for sex. But it’s not in our nature to lie about it, that’s learned and it’s a symptom of a larger problem.
The truth is most men don’t have the intellect or resources to attract and maintain a relationship with a quality woman, so they create several relationships with women of a lower caliber to compensate. Or to be there to catch them when they bail out or sabotages the relationship. He’s not only immature but insecure. He wants to escape before he gets hurt, or before he is exposed!
At the root of all lies is insecurity. Men want to exercise their freedom to see other women but want to take away that same freedom from the woman. A real man will tell a woman straight up, “I desire other women, I’m going to continue to date and have sex with other women, and you can accept that and stay or keep it pushing!” Instead, he lies to keep her to himself. That’s insecurity, not greed!
This is why I advise women not to fall into the trap of arguing about monogamy but instead challenge men on the principle of fair play. Instead of threatening him to “Only want my Vagina, or else,” which doesn’t work anyway, remind him that two can play at that game.
Remember, ladies, you have options, too! Don’t you dare give them up until you’re sure he’s holding up his end of the bargain. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
~ Michael Baisden
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Being Single Is Not A Disease, By Michael Baisden
The reaction of most men when they meet an attractive single woman is, “What’s wrong with you?” But my question is, why does something have to be wrong? Why is it so unbelievable that an attractive woman would choose not to be in a relationship? Maybe the reason she’s single is because there isn’t anything wrong with her.
People can be very toxic, and they bring a lot of baggage from previous partners. The fact that a person who has many options is not in a relationship speaks to his or her high self-esteem, not their lack of it. It’s easy to just jump into a situation with someone and start calling him or her your man or woman. But it takes discipline and knowing your self-worth that makes it easy to wait for someone who values you and uplifts you.
Roni C. wrote: I personally find that I am happiest single. My life is drama free. My bills are paid. I don’t need to check in with anyone. I’m not concerned with what anyone else is doing. I’m comfortable going to the movies alone or going out to eat alone. If I want, I can definitely date when I choose, so that is never a problem. I am just comfortable in my own skin. I’m just happy!
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Amen, Roni! That’s precisely the attitude every single man and woman should have. Most people have never taken themselves out on a dinner and movie date and enjoyed doing it! And that’s a shame. What you do demonstrates the love you have for your own company and for yourself. That attitude is precisely what attracts healthy people into your universe.
Besides, being in a relationship or marriage is not an indicator that a person is emotionally healthy or even happy. I hear more complaints from so-called happily married people than single people. That’s not an attack on marriage; I’m just stating my experience. It’s surprising that a woman would even have to defend being single, especially to other women, but women are often the ones applying the most pressure.
~ Michael Baisden
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