Being Single During, ‘The Rona’ Are Women Lonely Or Just Alone?
In the words of one of my female followers, “What a fucked-up time to be single!” I love her honesty! As a single man, I can relate to both sides. It’s always nice to have someone around you can spend quality time with. For me, it’s more about companionship than love and sex.
The truth is, this pandemic has provided me with an opportunity to reflect on who is valuable in my life not to mention to focus my attention on my work and health. But not everyone is as good at seclusion as I am, maybe it’s just the Cancerian in me.
When I posted this question on my Facebook page women shared their raw feelings about being single and alone during the Coronavirus Crisis.
Chris Thomas: I am single. No family, but lots of people to have a phone conversation with. I have been single for 20 years. Since Coronavirus quarantine, I regretfully admit not making relationships a priority. Thought I was good, until this. Attitude Adjustment when this is over.
Melanie Mills: Yep lonely as hell
Sarah Sarah: I HATE IT. 😷
Yvette Fambro: It’s been very depressing, I am single and have been for 13 years, I always pray that I meet my soulmate, but I guess it won’t happen now.
Shantelle Link: Being single is scary. I’m in healthcare and I think every day about possibly ending up with this terrible virus and dying alone, leaving my daughter alone. Being independent is great until you need someone to depend on.
But there are two sides to every story. Some women aren’t as disappointed about being single as others. In fact, some women see this crisis as an opportunity to be more introspective. Again, I understand where they are coming from. Relationships can be a huge distraction and add to your stress and anxiety.
Hell, most of us have enough to deal with to have to also manage a partner who is annoying or worse, annoying and not contributing. Now that will push you over the edge during times like this. Listen to what these women had to say.
Kattya Rojas: I’m good being single, I still enjoy my peace and alone time. There are many who are miserable being home with their partner right now, who needs that kind of added stress right now. Plus, I’m working from home, so I don’t have a lot of downtime. However, I think I will try to devote more time to dating and finding the right partner after Rona.
Michelle Morton: I think this is the best time to be single. I can get to know myself better and make clear decisions about what I want. I can tell you that this time has made me see where I was “settling” instead of waiting for what I deserve. #noworries #nodrama #memykidsmyGod #peace
April Cooper: I feel great! I can’t imagine being stuck in the house every day with the same person for weeks on end. I’d end up as a guest star on an episode of Snapped.
It’s easy to dismiss these comments as lies and delusional but I believe there are plenty of women who enjoy and even celebrate their time alone.
Whether they are healing from a painful and abusive relationship from their past or simply using this time to be introspective, work on their businesses, spend quality time with their children, or focusing on their health, some women are better off alone.
But you must admit, it’s sad that those women who want to be in a quality relationship can’t find one or haven’t made time for one. And it’s not until times like this that many of us, both men and women, don’t realize the value of having someone we can lean on until we are forced to be still.