Are You Transparent? Why You Need To Be Honest…From Day One!
Honesty and transparency are so rare it’s no wonder we end up in f’d up situations. Most people settle hoping to change the person or they lie to themselves into believing they can handle their partner’s inappropriate behavior or lack of commitment.
The truth is most women want monogamy and most men don’t. Most women want commitment and most men want options, or maybe it’s the other way around. The point, we’re not communicated our true desires and standards from day one.
Not only that, most people don’t know what the hell they want, it changes based on the person they’re dealing with. Ladies, how many of you have girlfriends who swore they would never date a married man?
Next thing you know they’re kicking it with a married dude! And I know men who are into open relationships but constantly date women who are traditional and expect monogamy. I’m like, “Dude, what are you doing?”
Not me, I tell women straight up this is who I am, this is how I live, and this is my ideal woman. Either you are down or not, and women respect that.
And I respect when they tell me, “I’m looking for something different than what you’re offering!” Cool, let’s agree to go our separate ways and still be cool. What’s so complicated about that?
And regarding being delusional OMG! How many times has someone tried to holla at you, and you went back to your page to see what comment or photo you could have possibly posted to give them the impression that they had a shot!
I’m convinced people do not see their true selves. Or maybe they do and they’re just lying to you. If you’re broke and unaccomplished don’t insist that your partner be successful.
If you don’t eat healthy and don’t exercise, why would someone who is fit want to date you? I posted a meme that read: Before hitting up my DM, Look at me, look at yourself in the mirror, and then ask yourself, does this make sense?
It’s hilarious when you think about it but it’s true, people don’t evaluate themselves before contacting you. My point is, stop asking for what you’re not offering. And for goodness sake look at your profile pages and pics and ask yourself if a quality person would consider you as a serious partner based on how you present yourself. Some of ya’ll are putting out canned tuna thinking its caviar. That goes for men as women.
~ Michael Baisden
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