You’re a Fool! What advice do you give a friend who’s been cheated on?

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Comment by Dr. Taffy Wagner on April 16, 2010 at 10:07pm
I just interviewed Nicole Cleveland, Author of So He Cheated, Now What on Money and Marriage Xposed radio on Blogtalkradio. She says if it is your spouse that cheated on you, if you decide to stay, then make sure you stay for the right reasons. Check your motives and so much more. You should really listen to the full interview.
Comment by Gloria Lewis on April 16, 2010 at 9:12pm
I would tell my friend weight the good and the bad ,i would support her with what ever decision she makes you know what you have u do not know what you are getting ,i would tell her to follow her heart .Its her life as long as that person is not being disrespectful they acknowledge their mistake and they are not physically abusing her .She will be fine . .If you are a true friend you go with the flow you support your friend but dont be too critical or judgemental of the situation .Sometimes your friends just need an ear not a voice .
Comment by Rose Mary Reed on April 16, 2010 at 5:11pm
You should give less advice as possible, there always two sides to every story. Do you know the whole story?
Comment by S. E. Ullah on April 14, 2010 at 1:03pm
My advice would be that in the end, it is the friend's personal choice. If they choose to stay, they know what they have and the rest of us do not want to hear them continually complaining, whining and confiding. If they leave, then they face the unknown--and when their bed gets cold or their finances suffer, friends are NEVER a long term solution and can only help in limited ways.

In other words, those in this situation, need to weigh the pros and cons and what it personally will mean to them and theirs- keeping on or giving up---the rest of us should mind our own business and butt out--unless there is abuse--for abuse--we all need to step up and take a stand.
Comment by Aaziah on April 13, 2010 at 6:03pm
I would not take back a man who has cheated if he wouldn't be able to forgive and take me back for the same transgression! How many men do you know have and will take back a woman/wife who has cheated on him?! Really! I dont believe anyone should expect something from someone that they, themselves couldn't give!
Comment by Naisha on April 13, 2010 at 3:26pm
If the person is unmarried, I would tell them to haul ass.. there are plenty of successful singles looking for love...and they dont need that type of treatment.. If the person is married, I would tell them that the ball is in their court and it would be justifiable to leave the relationship...Before leaving and especially if the person is worth it, I would suggest they seek counseling or simply sitting down with the other person and discuss why the cheating took place..through a better understanding they may be able to work through it and salvage the relationship...
Comment by Southerngal on April 13, 2010 at 3:03pm
Ther are all kind of scernios for this.....You be supportive of that person and be neutral...Give little advice and stay out of it ....don't cause more drama than need be....If you let the person know they are being cheated on then they look at you as in their business or causing drama....This is hard to say how far to go with....depending on how close your with that person....
Comment by Milford Woodard on April 13, 2010 at 10:45am
Its hard to give advice because every situation is different. If that person is just a f---kup and you know it, walk away, don't blame yourself and be mindful the next time. if the person is really worth it, talk to him and resolve it, don't blame yourself and be watchful. Trust is something that has to be gained over time, just like a friend.
Comment by Mark in the ATL on April 13, 2010 at 9:10am
I think it depends on the circumstances and the level of involvement. If it was a one off , superficial thing and the cheater expresses ongoing and sincere remorse, then possibly the relationship can be salvaged. If it is a deep emotional affair where the cheater has withdrwn emotionally from their partner, that situation may be more difficult to overcome.
Comment by Steven on April 13, 2010 at 7:44am
It seems that when someone cheats that there is a reason. Sometimes the person inside pushes them out there by some act of comission or omission. Sometimes the person who cheats was prone to that coping mechanism behaviour and boredom/ opportunity/ depression/ come into the mix and the spouse does not see it and cannot or will not address it. It has been proven over and over again the cost of cheating is MUCH HIGHER than most people think when they enter into that type of situation, not only in money but in terms of losing personal integrity with the people who are most important to them. If you must get married you MUST know you are in for a fight but when you raise sucessful children who are respected, when you as a couple become role models, when more people want to be like you, then you know the rewarding feeling that cheaters will never know. It can be tough but it can be worth it if you marry for the right reasons and are on the same page.


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