You’re a Fool! What advice do you give a friend who’s been cheated on?

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Comment by Dr. Taffy Wagner on April 16, 2010 at 10:07pm

I just interviewed Nicole Cleveland, Author of So He Cheated, Now What on Money and Marriage Xposed radio on Blogtalkradio. She says if it is your spouse that cheated on you, if you decide to stay, then make sure you stay for the right reasons. Check your motives and so much more. You should really listen to the full interview.

Comment by Gloria Lewis on April 16, 2010 at 9:12pm

I would tell my friend weight the good and the bad ,i would support her with what ever decision she makes you know what you have u do not know what you are getting ,i would tell her to follow her heart .Its her life as long as that person is not being disrespectful they acknowledge their mistake and they are not physically abusing her .She will be fine . .If you are a true friend you go with the flow you support your friend but dont be too critical or judgemental of the situation .Sometimes your friends just need an ear not a voice .

Comment by Rose Mary Reed on April 16, 2010 at 5:11pm

You should give less advice as possible, there always two sides to every story. Do you know the whole story?

Comment by S. E. Ullah on April 14, 2010 at 1:03pm

My advice would be that in the end, it is the friend's personal choice. If they choose to stay, they know what they have and the rest of us do not want to hear them continually complaining, whining and confiding. If they leave, then they face the unknown--and when their bed gets cold or their finances suffer, friends are NEVER a long term solution and can only help in limited ways.

In other words, those in this situation, need to weigh the pros and cons and what it personally will mean to them and theirs- keeping on or giving up---the rest of us should mind our own business and butt out--unless there is abuse--for abuse--we all need to step up and take a stand.

Comment by Aaziah on April 13, 2010 at 6:03pm

I would not take back a man who has cheated if he wouldn't be able to forgive and take me back for the same transgression! How many men do you know have and will take back a woman/wife who has cheated on him?! Really! I dont believe anyone should expect something from someone that they, themselves couldn't give!

Comment by Laniker Hunter on April 13, 2010 at 5:18pm

Mike why try to explain whats already understood

Comment by Naisha on April 13, 2010 at 3:26pm

If the person is unmarried, I would tell them to haul ass.. there are plenty of successful singles looking for love...and they dont need that type of treatment.. If the person is married, I would tell them that the ball is in their court and it would be justifiable to leave the relationship...Before leaving and especially if the person is worth it, I would suggest they seek counseling or simply sitting down with the other person and discuss why the cheating took place..through a better understanding they may be able to work through it and salvage the relationship...

Comment by Southerngal on April 13, 2010 at 3:03pm

Ther are all kind of scernios for this.....You be supportive of that person and be neutral...Give little advice and stay out of it ....don't cause more drama than need be....If you let the person know they are being cheated on then they look at you as in their business or causing drama....This is hard to say how far to go with....depending on how close your with that person....

Comment by Milford Woodard on April 13, 2010 at 10:45am

Its hard to give advice because every situation is different. If that person is just a f---kup and you know it, walk away, don't blame yourself and be mindful the next time. if the person is really worth it, talk to him and resolve it, don't blame yourself and be watchful. Trust is something that has to be gained over time, just like a friend.

Comment by Mark in the ATL on April 13, 2010 at 9:10am

I think it depends on the circumstances and the level of involvement. If it was a one off , superficial thing and the cheater expresses ongoing and sincere remorse, then possibly the relationship can be salvaged. If it is a deep emotional affair where the cheater has withdrwn emotionally from their partner, that situation may be more difficult to overcome.

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