You, Me, and He: Can women love more than one man?


What is the absolute definition of love? Is there one?

The dictionary says this:

love (lùv) n
1.a. An intense affection for another person based on familial or personal ties. b. A strong affection for or attachment to another person based on regard or shared experiences or interests. 2. An expression of one's affection. 3.a. An intense attraction to another person based largely on sexual desire. b. The deep affection and tenderness, and concern felt for a person with whom one has or wishes to have a relationship based on sexual attraction. 4.a. Intense sexual passion. b. Sexual intercourse. c. A love affair. 5. An intense emotional attachment.

That's a lot of different interpretations of love - some sexual, some emotional! Based on those definitions, is possible to love two men at the same time, but for very different reasons?

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Comment by Nanci T on February 24, 2009 at 10:44pm
I believe that different people have different ways of loving more than one mate. I love a male friend because he is comforting and listens. I can count on him to fix my car if breaks. I also love another male friend that I have a sexual relationship with, he provides financial assistance as well. I want to not committ to either of them and have had the talk with them both separately. They do not know about each other but I do love them both.
Comment by Tomeka on February 24, 2009 at 10:41pm
I don't think a woman can truly love or be in love with two men. I think she may enjoy certain qualities each may have to offer but if she's dealing with two or more men there's no way she loves or is in love with either one. If she loves or is in love with one of them she'd let the other go without a doubt.
Comment by Tudah on February 24, 2009 at 10:36pm
THE QUESTION WAS NOT CAN YOU HAVE MANY MEN BUT CAN YOU LOVE MORE THAN ONE. THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT THERE IS FEELINGS IN THESE ENCOUNTERS. BUT HERE IS NO WAY YOU CAN SAY THAT IT IS LOVE. JUST BECAUSE YOU DECIDE TO GIVE YOURSELF TO SOMEONE DOESN'T MEAN THAT HE LOVES YOU. AS FAR AS THE REACTION YOU GET FROM THAT PERSON WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON'T RECIEVE IT ANY MORE THEN IT'S ON TO SOMEONE ELSE THEN TELL ME WHAT HAPPENED TO THE LOVE. I FEEL YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOUR MATE, BOYFRIEND, OR GIRLFRIEND FOR WHO OR WHAT THEY ARE NOT TRY TO FIND THE THINGS THAT THEY ARE MISSING TO SUIT YOU IF YOU DON'T LIKE WHAT YOU HAVE MOVE ON. DON'T TRY TO PACE TWO PEOPLE TOGETHER FOR ONE AND END UP WITH NONE. THAT'S JUST A MESS!!!!
Comment by mon'ye on February 24, 2009 at 10:25pm
YES I THINK THAT YOU CAN LOVE MORE THEN ONE PERSON AT A TIME.I SAY THAT BECUASE YOU GET DIFFERENT REACTIONS FROM EACH ITS LIKE IF YOU COULD PUT TOGETHER THE THINGS FROM EACH THAT DREW YOU TOGETHER THEN YOU WOULD HAVE THE PERFECT MAN AND WOULD NOT HAVE THE NEED TO HAVE MORE THEN ONE.
Comment by Tudah on February 24, 2009 at 10:12pm
I AGREE WITH DISTANTLUVA/DEBORAH THE DEFINITION AT THE TOP IS KINDA REDUNDENT TO ME IN DIFFERENT WORDS IT IS SAYING BASICALLY THE SAME THING. I BELIEVE THAT WOMEN ARE PLACED ON A HIGHER BRACKET THAN MEN. MEANING THAT THERE IS A CERTAIN PERSONA THAT WE ARE EXPECTED TO UPHOLD. WE ARE NOT SUPPOSE TO GO OUT AND GIVE OUR COOKIES TO EVERY TOM, KEVIN, AND TIM. REMEMBER THAT'S WHY WE CALL MEN DOGS. SO THIS IS MY RESPONSE TO THE SAYING IF MEN CAN DO IT WHY CAN'T A WOMEN. I DON'T BELIEVE THAT WOMEN NOR MEN CAN LOVE MORE THAN ONE PERSON. PEOPLE SEEM TO GET LUST AND LOVE CONFUSED. AND THOSE WHO BELIEVE THAT THEY CAN ARE JUST FOOLS. I DON'T CARE HOW MUCH OF AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE OR HOW MANY PEOPLE THE OTHER PERSON MAY KNOW ABOUT YOU ARE STILL GONNA HAVE SOME KIND OF JEALOUSY(DRAMMA). AND NINE TIMES OUT OF TEN HE/SHE IS MESSING WITH ALL THOSE PEOPLE TO MAKE UP ONE PERFECT MAN OR WOMEN. MEANING THIS ONE HAS GOOD SEX, OR ONE CAN COOK, ONE MAY EVEN PAMPER HIM/HER AND SO ON.
Comment by Sassy on February 24, 2009 at 9:38pm
No, I don't think it's possible to love more than one man at a time. I say that because no one deserves to have their feelings played with, and God forbid if the man decides he wants to love another women. Come on ladies. Y'all know we ain't having it. So why would you want to play a man like that? "Treat others as you would want to be treated."
Comment by coery .a.k.a island boy on February 24, 2009 at 9:22pm
YARD !!!ALL YAL THAT AGREE WITH MICHAEL TOPICS YA NEED TO GO LOOK UP AND STUDY THE WORD LOVE AN LEARN TRUE DEFINE. THE WHY NO STANDARD HERE . YA ALWAYS TRYING TO REASON WITH BAD AND WRONG. YA MAKE IT OK TO WEAK MINDS . BAD LIKES COMPANY. YA ALL HAVE CHILDRENS MOM FATHER S GRANMAMA .YA WANTS YA KIDS TOO BE VICTIM OF YA OKS AN REASON. YA ALL SET THE STANDARDS . YA HAVE UNDERSTAND ONE THING LEADS TO ANOTHER.TRUE LOVE DOSENT ALLOW YA HEART TOO HURT SOMEONE RULE ONE . THATS YA BASE!!!!WELLINGLY!!!!!!!!LIVE THAT LIFE. AN SEE HOW MANYS PEOPLE YA SAY THAT WORD TOO AN SEE HOW TRUE YA ARE!!!!LEARN THE WORD !!!!!!LOVEING TO MATES YA GIVING YA SELF TOO NO SUCH THING . YA MAY BE DOING IT BUT DONT CALL IT LOVE.JUST SAY YA GOT PROBLEM IN SIDE . GOD NO YA HEART EVEN WHEN YA LYING WITH YA LIP. NO TRUE HAPPY IN LIFE STYLE. NO MATTER HOW MANY [PEOPLE DO WRONG IT NEVER CAN BECOME RIGHT. YA JUST WATERING IT DOWN TO MAKE YA SELF FEEL GUD. PASSA PASSA RASPECT .
Comment by Tawitcha Mullen on February 24, 2009 at 9:14pm
Yes a person can love more than one person but a person can only be in-love with one. I still have love for my ex-husband, he is the father of my children and for that I have nothing but love for him. But I am in love with my current fiance. He is my soul mate. I feel something for him and with him that I have never felt with my ex or any other man...There is a big difference between the two.
Comment by Tim O on February 24, 2009 at 8:49pm
People you can only truly be in LOVE with one person, those of us who have had lust for another when you truly LOVED someone else knows that eventually the one you LOVE will lose trust and respect for you. To lose the trust and respect of the one you LOVE is a hurting thing know matter how good the punny was with the one you LUSTED for. So it is better to LOVE the one you with, and not the one you lust for. Just my take on the subject.
Comment by Starr on February 24, 2009 at 8:28pm
I don't think its possible to be in love with two men. who have to love one more than the other in my opinion.


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