Why do some girls think they owe boys something because they spend money on them?

Whether we want to acknowledge it or not, this has been an issue for generations; just not spoken about! 
Young ladies either choose not to accept things from suitors and boyfriends, so they don’t have to deal with feeling as though they owe something.  On the contrary there are young ladies that pride themselves on acquiring gifts from those interested.  It makes them feel in control of their situation and therefore if they “share themselves with the young man”, it’s not because they felt they owed him anything, but rather it’s their choice.  
As a girl or adult, have you ever felt obligated to “give up the cookies” because a guy was generous with you?
Or have you known someone who “expects” to get nice things from guys and feels like she’s just doing her part in the game to get what she wants?
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Comment by Alisonty03 on April 9, 2010 at 4:11pm
There's nothing worst than having a man buy you something to wear, then he gets pissed off by you and he demands back what he bought you, right now!!!! OK, that's old school, but that rule is still in effect for some males. The saying,"if you allow a man dress you, don't be surprised if he expects to undress you" applies here, LOL!!!!!
Comment by Me'chelle on April 8, 2010 at 9:31pm
I was always taught not to take gifts, from men because there is always a catch,this is what I have taught my daughter, growing up in a female dominated family, where men tend to not stick around to long, usually do to the independence, that our great grandmother and grandmother instilled in us and it can sometimes show in our actions.
Comment by Kimmy on April 8, 2010 at 8:45pm
Because unfortunately, That's the mind set of a lot of guys. Some men actually feel that if they invest time & money in a woman then eventually she should give them what they want. Even if a man invests time & money after its been made clear in their mind that they no longer see you as a potential, they sometime feel that they should have at least gotten something out of it. A lot of men may not admit this, but that's what they think & feel.
Comment by ryan noel on April 8, 2010 at 7:26pm
i don't think that true.We are living in age were woman hav everthing they need.They can pay for it and see woman who are doing it.To be honest woman know wuz up poing blank.
Comment by jojo grace on April 8, 2010 at 12:39pm
Because they haven't been taught better.....I have a son and a daughter...I tell my son....no one owes him nothing, if he takes a girl out, it's because he wanted to...not because he had too...and I told my dtr, if a boy takes you out....you don't owe him nothing......it amazes me that not only do teenage boys and girls think this...but GROWN men and women....I am always prepared to my pay my portion...and at least, I leave the tip...by the popcorn....something...so it can be a mutual obligation.
Comment by Big_Emanon on April 8, 2010 at 12:30pm
Funniest thing happened to me this weekend. I went to a club with my people, was sitting at the bar. This good looking sister sat beside me and started talking to me. We chatted, 15 minutes later, i get up to go talk to my friends and she says, "What, you aren't even going to buy me a drink?" I was thinking to myself...HELL NO
Comment by Big Brother "D" on April 8, 2010 at 2:47am
We have been taught in this society that the male is expected to most times pay for the evening out, supply the transportation, pay for the dinner, pay for the entertainment and sometimes buy her something nice and in return if the female likes him she will show him he made her feel good by having sex with him (***give him some, so to speak) making him feel good. Females are trained at an early age to use what they got (sex appeal) to get what they want. Little girls will hug Daddy around his neck, sit on his lap or on his knee, making little whining sounds not being sexual but being feminine and most times Daddy gives in to his Baby Girl. Males are taught that they are supposedly the provider which may have been true back in the 50's, 60's but nowadays females make just as much or more than the male so she calls the shots now but you very rarily will find females paying for everything and if she does her girls will say she is crazy she should make him pay and if he pays and does not get any his boys will say man you are crazy, I would got something for my money. Females at the clubs still play that game try to get the male to buy drinks and/or dinner and the male expects to take them home when he does to get something for his money, it's part of the game. We need to teach our children to be friends before being intimate. There is nothing wrong with females asking males out, paying for it without expecting nothing more than his company and the same goes for our males they should be able to ask females out, pay for it without expecting something in return (like he paid for the sex, which in reality is prostitution, paying for sex). I taught my youngest daughter as I became wiser that she does not owe her date anything but her company if they go out on a date but on the other hand I also taught her that if there is no interest show no interest, don't use people.

*** GIVING HIM SOME is a misconception because it takes two to tango, let's keep it real, isn't he also GIVING HER SOME. So from now on let's flip a coin to see who pays! lmao
Comment by Tammy Hudson on April 7, 2010 at 8:52pm
because most girls are missing father figures. If a girl is used to being taken care or spoiled by her father or male figure she's more likely to have a higher self-esteem and won't think she owes a man anything because he's buying things. If a man knows a women is used to nice things and being treated a certain way he'll break his neck to keep her in that lifestyle.
Comment by Louis Slaughter Jr on April 7, 2010 at 5:59pm
michael and george i thought ya was keeping it real, im sure when ya was younger and you took a girl out you was hoping to get some, after she said no a thousand times with your lip poke out you just took her home and erase her from your memory bank then tried to get with laganda because you heard she would do anything for a colt 45
Comment by Anita on April 7, 2010 at 2:00pm
Well said mandinka


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