I’ve asked this question several times in my head, I could not come up with a legitimate answer. I told my childs father “I put him on child support” and he just freaked out. Child support doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a horrible father, it’s just saying more has to be done on your part financially. If we can’t come to an agreement then I believe a third party has to step in and that third party should not be another relative.
Some men think if their put on child support their life is ruined, that’s not true. I’m a single mother and being a single mother you have to do everything with a smile on your face for child no matter how much it hurts you financially. For instead, health insurance, school, sports, lunch money, hair cuts, after school snacks, winter clothes, extra curriculum activities and the list goes on and on. Some men don’t take all that into consideration. Don’t get me wrong, I love to do these things for my baby, but if the father is in the picture then you should not have to call to ask him, are you sending anything this month? Can you buy this or that this month? You shouldn’t even have to ask questions like that, that’s not necessary.
Men don’t like to hear or mentioned the words “child support”. If you’re a terrific father then child support should not be an issue. Honestly what’s the big deal? You love your child, you respect you childs mother then, what’s wrong with doing for your child financially? Child support is not something mothers do to be malicious against the father. Child support is something mothers do to SUPPPORT THEIR CHILD. If you believe there’s no need for a third party to be involved, come to an agreement with the mother and fulfill that agreement monthly. If you’re having a problem one month communicate that with the mother, you can’t squeeze blood out of a turnip.
Please answer these questions. For all the wonderful fathers, do you think your son or daughter should have all the necessary things and more? Should there be a strain in your son or daughter house hold because someone did not fulfilled their part of the agreement? Should relatives be involved? And the last question an important question, would you put your dreams aside for a moment to make sure your son or daughter is happy emotionally?
I hope I didn’t rub anyone the wrong way because that was not my intention. I’m just trying to understand the stigma behind the words “child support”. Also, to get fathers to take certain things into consideration, like the things that were mentioned earlier, health insurance, school, extra curriculum activities etc... When a mother calls and asks for money it’s not that we want the money, your child needs the money. I’m not speaking on behalf of all mothers just my experience dealing with certain situations.
Thank you for reading what’s on my mind,