Why Are blacks So Rude to Each Other? Improve Your Attitude Improve Your Life!

Why are blacks so rude to each other? Let me share something that happened earlier. I was a bit disturbed by something I witnessed today. I had a lunch appointment with a client that works for childrens services here. Our plan was to meet at her office and walk to a nearby restaurant. I'm waiting in her cubicle when the lady next to her comes back to her area with a young sister that was going off to no end on this lady. It was obvious the worker was sincerely trying to help her. but the young sister never let up and even became profane, and threatening.

Of course one thinks "couldn't be me when they see someone abusing the situation like that. But it made me think of the bigger picture. Images and memories of young black men in the streets came back where I have seen us try to kill us.

I'm not only talking about verbal or physical abuse either. I personally remember a business situation where I was selling a gentlemans home. Now first realize this man had been thorougly explained all proceeds he would incur from the sale of his home. Day of closing he forgets what he was just told and given in writing and accepted the day before.To the embarassment of the mans wife the man clowned even became profound. I had to excuse myself during this closing the escrow agent whom was black and I had known for years came to me and said "If you were white no way would he act like that." On that day I took a stand and let the man kill his own sale. sure I could have given up some of my pay to make it right. But my personal constitution wouldn't allow me to that day. I'm glad I didn't because a few days later the mans wife called me and completed the sale even tried to give me some tail! (ok I coulda left that out but it's real).

I'm far from being perfect but I do sincerely try to treat everyone as I myself would want to be treated -even when it inconveniences me. But some people don't get it. even in small things have you ever for instance went out of your way to hold a door open for someone and they pass you like F$#! you and keep walking no thank you.... why is it so hard for us to acknowledge and lift up one another? Some say we have a competitve nature that will never allow us this harmony. I don't believe it look at how we lived in the motherland before this time look to ancient Kemet, etheopia or any other african cultute before we were westernized. Yes those days have passed, and now we live here as one a part of the human family.

Our attitudes often turn other cultures off from interacting with us. Too often all they see is a stereotype. Yes a few ruin it for all. But I also say we all have the burden of self accountability in attitude and behavior to our fellow man of all shade of skin. ultimately we all should be a credit to our race-"the human race!"

We live in a nasty world. But we can choose to take a different road one perhaps less travelled but more fulfilling and rewarding. By not letting the world or our enviroment control our actions we become who we are and grow bigger than our surrounding or circumstances. Perhaps Carl jung said it best

"Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who
looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens."

Our attitudes radiates and attracts or repels blessings and people. Improve your attitude and you will thus improve your life.

this weekend and beyond may Peace & Purpose Be yours!


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Comment by Pitt on May 11, 2009 at 8:57am
@ celena:
Comment by Celena on May 11, 2009 at 8:34am
I'm from the South and there is a lot of Notherners and Midwesterns who are not yet acclimated to the idea of speaking as we do in the South. It pains me to pass another Black person on the street and they divert their attention away from you before you can part your lips to say " Good Morning"...with a smile.

Sad...just plain ole sad !!!!!!!!!!!
Comment by Pitt on May 2, 2009 at 6:12am

I applaud you and your husband for how you have raised tyour young men. The story you shared is a prime example of what i'm talking about
Comment by Michele on May 1, 2009 at 10:24pm
I really have to comment on this!
My husband and I have raised our two young black princes to respect themselves and others. We get compliments from residents and business owners in the neighborhood on how mannerable and respectful our sons are.
My eldest son, who just turned 20, and I were walking through the shopping plaza in our neighborhood, and I took note as to how my son spoke to everyone whom we passed. I remember this particular middle-aged black woman who was entering the door of a store we were leaving. My son held the door for her and said, " How are you doing today ma'am?" (sometimes he just tips the front of his baseball caps and nods to someone, if we are in conversation) She turned her nose up and did not acknowledge him in any way. Not even thanking him for holding the door for her! I was aghast! I believe I must have muttered how some of our people can be so ignorant. My son just shook his head and laughed it off. It didn't bother him in the least.
However, it bothers me that we as a people do not acknowledge each other in passing one another, or look out for one another the way our parents and grandparents did.
Some of us spend so much time 'hating' on each other, instead of uplifting one another.
Comment by Pitt on April 5, 2009 at 9:55am

my brother I believe just one man or woman can turn the tide as you do. but the willie Lynch letter is a hoax
Comment by KJ on April 4, 2009 at 8:56pm
In order to understand the reasons behind our actions toward each other, please read "The Willie Lynch Writings" "How to train your slaves" It will enhance the physicologial reasons behind our behavior towards each other. Study the princlples of Economic Violence also! Each will help you, the individual, to begin to mute the actions developed from 3 or 4 century-old training. It starts with one person taking action. Are you the ONE? I have been for the past few years.
Comment by Sunrise (AW) on April 4, 2009 at 2:22am
I have to say that Soojung said it in a nutshell. We as black people do not want to accept that some of us are still slaves in our minds. Why is it that we are the only ones who cannot come together and make our own communities prosper? Other races come into our neighborhood and make money off of us. As soon as we try to open a business in our own neighborhood no one wants to support it. We as black people need to reprogram ourselves. We are guilty of not coming together as a collective and enriching our own communities. I have worked with black owned businesses, and the first thing they want to do is buy a whole lot of material crap that makes them look like they have arrived, but are in debt and thier businesses are going under. Let's stop fooling ourselves, I know it's embarrassing to admit, but let's face the truth. We need to stop competing with each other and start working together.
Comment by Yolanda on April 4, 2009 at 1:17am
Comment by Soojung on April 3, 2009 at 11:46pm
let me put it this way: (*yes stereotyping but bear with me here) with Asians they tend to stick together because they were brought up to respect each other -there are rules within their culture as well as a defense mechanism to be together, work together and prosper together (ha ha communism in a nutshell...but again, joking aside and stereotype aside...) as far as the white people are concerned i've met very rude white people but many of them are nice -they are the first ones to invite you to their house (and the first to profile you) and they know that good business ethics begin with a smile...(well they made that up because a smile in other cultures mean different things. anyway) but for blacks throughout history white people separated you so that there wouldn't be power in numbers and that there was only banding together when there was something horrible happening (*i.e. MLK Jr. and Panthers) -you band together only for a short time yet as soon as you get thrown a bone you fight over the bone as though you've lost your vision. (*you talk the big talk of yeah we should help each other out and brotherhood but it's only talk) there was never really a time in history where you uplifted each other (only banded together against an outrage instead of banding together to actually network to keep a good advantage or build a foundation for future generations) instead so many black people have an attitude of i got mine get yours.
this is what i notice from a historical perspective
Comment by Pitt on April 3, 2009 at 8:19pm

while i agree with many of the things you say . I really find this one to be on point

"Truth is hateful, rude people are insecure with themselves."

I must admit i'm a blogger that sometimes starts at one pklace and ends at another. Many times i try to title the blog last. but in this instance because of what I saw today and what was on my mind i titled this one first. My point is Positive Mental Attitude and love for iothers is just as important as the title and intro issue



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