The Black/Latino Connection: Why are more Latino women dating black men, but fewer Latino men dating black women?

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Comment by ToYa on April 30, 2010 at 8:34pm

i agree with the part where fewer black women want to date out. i was like that kept waiting for the perfect black man to come around. i am now engaged and sabout to marry a dominican . he is like the best of two words...hes not too black not too white he is a cross between both and i am so happy with him and love him with all my heart...black women wake up and open your eyes or continue to be lonely

Comment by ladysonlight on August 12, 2009 at 1:53pm

First of all who would not want to date a brother?!!!!! This is just me humble personal view. I love Latino brothers accents, i love the way they move on the dance floor, however here in the South they are short. I am attracted to tall men. But i have a problem with the height issue.

Comment by Diane on August 11, 2009 at 11:48pm

As a black woman, I have no problem whatsoever dating Latino men. In my experience, Latino men are much more appreciative of black women in terms of our skin color, our hair, and our personal style. The latino men I have dated always made me feel beautiful, unlike many black men (especially in the south), who pass up most sisters because we're too dark, hair is too nappy / too short, we're too this, too that, etc. Why sit home alone waiting for a black man to know your worth? If a sister finds a latino, white, heck even an asian man who loves you and treats you the way you should be, she needs to go for it.

Now, as far as this notion that Latino women are more submissive and accepting, I have quite a few latina friends, some that I have known for 10+ yrs, and believe me they are just as independent, just as demanding, and get just as angry (if not more so) as black women when their men cheat. A word of warning: Any black man looking for a Latina woman because he thinks she'll put up with more BS than a black woman is in for a rude awakening, lol!

Comment by Lewis on August 11, 2009 at 10:09pm

I think men we tend to be more visual which makes us more open to dating any woman as long as we think she looks good. I have friends of many different races and generally what makes them not allured to black women is the false pretense that they are domineering and can't submit, not that they are not physically attractive. Hispanic males tend to be very traditional and don't want to be involved with a woman who they think can not submit. Black women as stated by a few folks below me have a since of loyalty toward black men and are least likely to step outside of their comfort zone.

Comment by Nathaly Rodas on August 11, 2009 at 8:32pm

me as a latina .. i LOVE black men ..

Comment by Berman Bennett on August 11, 2009 at 7:11pm

Latino women are built just like our sisters the texture of their hair and the tone of their skin is extremely exotic and very different. I think some of the brothers are perceiving that they're getting the best of both worlds, the bright skin and the long straight,(sometimes wavy, sometimes curly) hair.

Comment by Julia Fouche' on August 11, 2009 at 6:58pm

I think alot of black women are afraid of the unknown. I also think they are afraid of what their general community will say about them. I do think California black women are much more adventureous than other black women from the East or south. Girlfriends, date out side your race and don't worry what others think or say. Because there are alot of Latin men out there who think you're HOT!

Comment by CCotto on August 11, 2009 at 6:15pm

My $0.02. I am a Puerto Rican man married to a beautiful black woman. Of course this is not the whole story. I do not see an issue with race. Perhaps it is because my family as with many Caribbean families has people of all complexions. From skin tones as pale as to darker than Danny Glover. We have Taino (Native indian), black (slaves brought to the Caribbean), white (owners and enlightened people), Portuguese, Danish (owners and enlightened people), along with others.

People are beautiful, look beyond the cover. Maybe if we work beyond pointing out the differences we'll all be in a better place. In fact we never thought about race between us, until we were expecting and someone asked us if we were going to raise our daughter as black or hispanic. We are both from St. Croix, V.I. and saw each other as Caribbean people.

Also, I think that many hispanic women have been raised in a more traditional sense. This is your marriage, make it work. If a man cheats he is more easily forgiven by society than a woman and more people will tell a woman to forgive a man than the other way around (no matter the race). Can't stereotype because people put everything into making what they strongly believe, even a marriage/relationship, a reality.

Comment by GCB on August 11, 2009 at 5:36pm

Interesting subject….. I love Latino men!!! I have dated black men and white men but I have to admit that I think the Latino men are more attentive, passionate and very sexy!! I think there are a lot of black women who truly would like to date outside of our race but are afraid of what may be said, or maybe afraid of the cultural differences. I am speaking from my own personal experiences but I was happy to find out that the fear was just that my own fear. Please Black Women do not be afraid to experience new things with other races of men! I’m dating a Latino man and he is fabulous!

Comment by Nilsa on August 11, 2009 at 4:57pm

Well, based on my personal experiences, I've met and dated hispanic men who are controlling, manipulative, and with lots of ego. On the other hand, the african-american men, in particular the carribean men that I have met and dated were all great. Honest, gentlemen, open minded, and not intimidated of a womens success or education. None of them including my husband showed any controlling-manipulative characteristics. This might be one of the reasons as to why maybe a lot of hispanic, white, asian, and other races choose to date black men or men out of their race.However, in my family it has always been common for the men and women to freely choose who you want to be with, what its important is to seek happiness, success, unity, and good health among other optimistic things in a relationship.

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