When it comes to sexual intercourse and/or the act of foreplay, most men tend to focus the majority of their attention on stimulating one area; the main area some men would think. That "main" area is the vaginal region of a woman. Many men are quick to head finger or tongue first into a woman's vagina, thus neglecting some other important and sexually sensitive areas of her body. Some men don't even take the time to stimulate the vagina at all; they climb on top, press or shove themselves into a woman and thus become selfishly too quick in their efforts of achieving their own orgasm, and neglecting hers all together.
Most men think that if they can stimulate a woman's vagina that her ultimate satisfaction is guaranteed. However, this is not the case in every case and there are many other places on a woman's body that can bring about ultimate stimulation, satisfaction, and/or climax without the vagina ever being touched. Ten of these areas are detailed below.
1. The Breasts- Did you know that a woman's breasts can be one of the most, if not the most, sensitive and arousing part of her body? An intimate breast massage, when performed correctly, can be one of the most exciting and orgasmic joys a woman can ever experience; it also contributes to her good health as well. I'll explain. Did you know that regular breast massage can actually decrease a woman's chances of developing breast cancer? Many women don't even know this, so I know even more men are ignorant to this fact. Science has proven that underwire bras are one of the 1 ways women actually constrict the flow of blood to their breasts and after a full day of wearing a standard issue bra, a breast massage, when performed correctly, can release and move around the blood so the natural nervous systems inside the breast can flow correctly; but, it's not quite as simple as one may think and it shouldn't feel like a breast exam when it's being performed. Most men would assume a successful breast massage involves a squish, a squeeze, and even a pinch, and is performed like on any other body part. Back, neck, and other massages are completely different than breast massages and should be approached as such. A breast is not a muscle so the massage must be done differently to be effective. A correct breast massage will provide pleasure, stimulation, health benefits, and in some cases climax for your woman. The breast can be one of the most sensitive parts on a woman's body, more sensitive in some cases than the clitoris or other regions. Sensual breast massages can deliver volcanic orgasms all by themselves even with no other form of stimulus. Some key points to remember about a successful breast massage is it can:
* Dramatically lower the risk of breast cancer.
* Release toxins that can easily cause other breast related issues.
* Instantly lower blood pressure without much effort.
* Put her in the mood easier and quicker than any other area.
* Be intoxicating and relaxing and can easily lower stress levels.
* Build trust and comfort between new couples.
A great breast massage involves soft circular hand motions around the entire breast, with no hard pulls, presses, or squeezes; using your fingers and fingertips to stimulate the areola and nipple sections of her breast. Using baby or body oil as lubricant can be a positive contribution to the breast massage, and can also take away some, if any, rough textures that may be present on your hands.
When men think of a woman's breasts they become like newborn babies with one agenda in mind; nipple sucking. Nipple sucking is good, and can be an awesome stimulant when done correctly, but it is not the only form of breast and/or body stimulation. However, when nipple sucking do not be too aggressive and "excited" to the point where it becomes more painful than pleasurable. Soft and gentle sucking along with ticklish licks and slight nipples can do wonders when using your mouth/tongue to stimulate a woman's breasts.
2. The Neck- Many men know about the basic erogenous zones, or places on the body which stimulate sexual feeling; however there are many women who have particularly interesting and unique spots that one may have never thought to touch. One in particular being her neck. Several pressure points exist in the neck and for this reason many women enjoy it being massaged to relieve tension in the head and certain parts of the body; this can also be an excellent stimulation point and is one shared by many women, though perhaps in different areas. While the skin on a woman's neck isn't always particularly sensitive it can still be an excellent erogenous zone for psychological reasons. The neck is a very vulnerable spot, instinctively most people are very aware of this and some even have difficulty being touched on the neck for many different reasons. Knowing how vulnerable a certain area of the body is and having this particular area touched can be very stimulating to a woman. Being touched or massaged on the neck can both feel good and induce many different types of mental stimulation relating to the idea of being dominated. This small representation of being dominated can make a woman feel soft, delicate, and sexually feminine, while feeling her man is strong, skillful, and masculine; it can also feel a little bit dangerous, which is also a source of stimulation for many women as long as this interaction is not taken too far. Touching, massaging, and kissing the neck are generally great spots for arousal on a woman and in some cases maybe more sensual than some of the more obvious ones.
3. The Feet- While some women may find feet repulsive in general, others greatly enjoy a little attention to a part of their body which receives a lot of daily wear a tear. This is often a tender spot, and though the skin is toughened from constant use, when touched it can induce feelings of tenderness and caring that can in some cases be an excellent stimulant. Many pressure points can be found in the feet and some of these, when touched the right way, can stimulate feeling in completely different areas of the body which can produce very interesting forms of arousal. A foot massage, when done correctly, shows a woman that you are attentive to her needs and that you care enough to bring ease to areas of her body that may be stressed or in pain. Oil or lotion works as a great lubricant to help your hands glide gently up and down a woman's feet, using a little pressure to work out the tension, but being gentle enough for it to become more of a turn on and less of just a simple act of compassion to her. Compassion is great but attention is an awesome turn on like you would not believe.
4. The Stomach- The lower stomach is a very tender spot on a woman both physically and psychologically; not only does this part of the body lead to one of the most important erogenous zones, but it is beneath this skin that a woman carries her children which can cause a woman to feel very protective of this section of the body, even when she is not pregnant. Teasing this area with the hands or mouth gives the promise of moving toward an incredibly erotic spot and can be therefore used as a way of building up that tension, which can eventually produce a more fulfilling sexual experience. Running your fingertips across the lower stomach of a woman can be a bit ticklish for many women, but stimulating nonetheless. Slowly kissing around a woman's lower stomach and right above her vagina not only builds sexual tension and arousal, but it's also comforting to a woman when she feels that you can be gentle with the area where she carries life inside of her, even when she is not pregnant. Always remember Attention! Attention! Attention! Pay attention to those places that have been too many times forgotten.
5. The Hands- Like the feet, hands also have many pressure points in them which can awaken feelings in other parts of the body. This kind of indirect stimulation can in some cases be more arousing than going directly to the source. Touching the hand can also stimulate psychological feelings that are sexual; it can be viewed as tender and endearing, a sign of not only physical attraction but of adoration and though this may only be noticed by the subconscious, can still be greatly alluring. Hand massages work as great stimulants because they show that you are taking the time to pay attention to a part of her body that is commonly overlooked. It shows that you care and that you have a strong desire for being involved in whatever method it takes to please her.
6. The Inner Thigh- Bordering on a major erogenous zone without actually touching it can be a great way to tease a woman and in doing so stimulate her mentally and sexually. The skin on the inner thighs is often quite sensitive to the touch and may be very ticklish, so it is a good idea to be very careful when interacting with this part of the body. Laughter can enhance or ruin a sexual experience depending on how both partners feel about it, or assume it's meaning; be careful to pay attention to how she not only reacts physically to more ticklish spots but also how she feels in general; some women do not enjoy being tickled and will find this a complete turn off, while others will find it fun and exciting. If caressing does not work in this area a firmer touch or grip might be needed or perhaps use of the mouth and tongue rather than hands and fingers; experiment to find out whether or not this spot is the right one. For many women it is, and they may not even know it yet.
7. The Knees- While touching the inner thigh might be a way of teasing a more sensitive area, simply by not touching it the knees bring about much of the same feeling only at an even greater distance. A woman's knee may come into various contact with many objects throughout the day; bumping a desk, another knee if seated closely to another person, or even a friendly pat. Though none of this contact feels sexual it borders the thighs which when touched do produce sexual feelings. Lingering around the knee with the hands or mouth is a form of teasing with touch; it is personal but you have not crossed into strictly sexual areas; the buildup of such desire can produce strong sexual feelings and greater stimulation and climax.
8. The Ears- Not only do some women greatly enjoy a light kiss, or even bite on the earlobes but it is also here that her audio stimulation will take place. Many people have tried or at the very least know about "dirty talking" during intimate encounters, however many often forget that it is not so much which words are chosen, but how they are spoken. Know how to speak in a deep and sensual yet non-robotic manner, and also know which words will sound sexy and which words, when spoken, do not excite as well. This is an important part of a woman's sexual experience and this knowledge can be useful in stimulating a woman hours before you are able to be in a physical interaction with her; the waiting alone can be an erotic experience as it creates a pleasurable sexual tension in the mind and body. Leaving erotic and sensual voicemails work wonders at building up that pleasurable sexual tension, and the anticipation that comes from it may cause her to climax at the point of hearing what you said to her. Orgasms come in many different forms and not just from touch and/or sex alone.
9. The Forehead- When a woman is enjoying a kiss, all surfaces of her skin become very sensitive and enjoy being kissed. A gentle forehead kiss can cause an excitement and anticipation in a woman that you may not be able to see, but trust me it's there. Forehead kisses are endearing and compassionate. They show attention, care, and concern, but they also heighten arousal because of the control involved with forehead kisses. When a man is able to control his urges and a woman's responses, that lets her know that he is well able to control the happenings that take place during an intimate encounter. When a man can grab a woman by her shoulders, or hug her, and place a soft kiss upon her forehead while not delving into anything sexual and not allowing her to as well, he can show a woman that he is a man who is tender, gentle, and endearing but also one who can take charge and take control and that knowledge can cause a woman heightened arousal and stimulation.
10. The Lips- Hitch was right. Most women decide on the future of a relationship based on their first kiss. Whether you are ramping up for your first kiss, or re-vamping your kiss experience with that woman you care for, planting the perfect kiss can win a woman's heart and stimulate her sexually as well. When kissing create a sexual tension by getting close enough to her to kiss her but not kissing her at all; your kiss will have more meaning and impact once you decide to go forward with it. When a woman wants to kiss you but can't, or is trying to wait until you go forward and kiss her, she gets aroused from the wanting and desiring. It is your responsibility to increase her wanting and desires for you. Also you have to kiss with your eyes. Now you don't have to stare a woman down when you kiss her but when she knows that you are paying attention to her as you kiss her, it makes her feel beautiful and wanted. Not every passionate and great kiss happens with your eyes closed; no matter what the movies may tell you. For a woman, seeing that you think she is beautiful can be a lot more believable than hearing you say it. And as few women feel they are physically perfect, when a man is clearly attracted to her visually, she can't help but to feel loved and adored. You also have to respond to her and although this sounds easy, many men have complications with their responding. It only means that if she isn't slobbery, she probably won't want you to be, either. Same with aggressions and tongue. The more assertive she gets with her kiss, the more she'll appreciate your aggression. Also you have to use your entire body when kissing and not just your mouth. For many women kissing is an emotional experience and a woman responds to a man who uses his hands to stroke her face, his arms to hold her, and his chest to envelop her. A woman's lips when stroked and kissed will definitely heighten her need for you.
Many more unique locations on a woman's body may be found through careful exploration; it is important to remember that these spots can produce strong sexual feelings and should not be discounted simply because they are not the normal spot/spots a man attends to when having a sexual experience with a woman. A great deal of an enjoyable, sexual experience depends on both physical and mental stimulation and for that reason almost nothing can be discounted when trying to create a pleasurable experience. Such things as setting, aroma, and sound can be equally as important as touch when trying to arouse a woman. Knowing what your partner enjoys and taking the time to show them how much you enjoy pleasing them will often produce exciting, frequent, and memorable sexual experiences.
Lonnie J. Hamilton of The Core Being Consulting Group