Smart Women Marry Rich! Is it really such a bad thing dating/marrying a man because he has money?


Men openly admit to marrying a woman for her beauty and for the great sex. So why are women frowned upon for marrying a man for financial security? If money issues is the number one cause of divorce, then why not have money at the top of your list of importance when choosing a partner?


There is a new book called "Smart Girls Marry Money: How Women Have Been Duped into the Romantic Dream -- and How They're Paying for It" by Daniela Drake & Elizabeth Ford.

The book discusses how it’s better to marry a man with good finances rather than to marry just for love. Knowing that that loving feeling doesn't last and that women have a "sell-by date," women should pursue the "gold digging imperative" -- finding a man while they still have their youth and looks.

Both authors say they "married for love, but reaped the consequences." They say that romantic love is never a valid reason to get married.


What do you think? Is getting married for money better than getting married for love? Why or why not?

Why are gold-diggers looked upon poorly, but no one says anything about a man who marries a woman for looks?

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Comment by Candace on December 30, 2009 at 7:07pm
Getting married for money is senseless, to me. What happens when the money runs out? Do you stay and make the other person miserable because you were in it for the wrong reasons? It's the same principle man or woman, looks or money. If you don't love someone or care deeply for them as a person regardless of what they have or how they look, then leave them right where you found them. Only a truly selfish and pitiful person would do otherwise.
Comment by Southerngal on December 30, 2009 at 5:47pm
What do you think? Is getting married for money better than getting married for love? Why or why not?

Marry for luv is better...unless your focus is money...But women and men think money bring them happiness............it do helps...........thats why people look at the point of each others income ...when dating ....they wants a man or woman with an income to keep things a float.That saying ...that luv don't pay the bills...they are dead serious...lol...

Why are gold-diggers looked upon poorly, but no one says anything about a man who marries a woman for looks?

Most women as you see plaster all over the media . TV....marry for money, finanical gain for their future..and after getting married they secure their future by pop out kids within 1 to 4 years their married ...For just in case things don,t work out the way they plan...
They are the BIGGEST GOLDDIGGERS..but their taken care of....thats why most of them do this...And the side women makes sure they get their cut in...lol...They keep everything under the sun to make sure of that..Some might have a baby as well ...its known to happen...

Some guys do marry for looks,but looks last no time.....you get older it changes...
Comment by sixfeetandsexy on December 30, 2009 at 5:44pm
OK...I am going to just keep it real...what woman does not desire to date a man who is finanially secure and can afford to take care of her if they are married. That doesn't mean that she can not have her own or that she can not take care of herself. At my age I definitly look for the security a man can offer me and my future children. As a single woman who have tons of friends I can honestly say I only know one couple who are happy. These are the women and men who married for that "romantic love". The last time I looked the divorce rate is over 50% so that to me says a lot about marrying just for "love". Especially when the #1 reason or divorce is..FINANCES!!! I do belive love has it's place but if the lights are off..the rent is due...etc there is not going to be much love or loving going on. And the last time I notices HIV is being spread by broke people also. And as far as the Tiger Wood situations goes...at least she is walking away with her $$$..how many of us women have been dogged out by the broke man and walked away with nothing but our tail between our legs. So if I had my choice which would I choose????
Comment by CyCy on December 30, 2009 at 4:54pm
I don't think it's wrong to look at a man's finances, it's just if that's all you're just marrying him for finances only then it won't work. Love is a feeling yes, and love doesn't pay the bills so look for things that both people are compatiable and will compliment each other. But throwing his finances in the probability pot is ok, just don't marry just for that, we already see how so many women who married into wealth are being treated
Comment by Joanna Morgan on December 30, 2009 at 9:41am
I believe everyone should be financially set and work hard to obtain it as I do everyday but, I dont loose respect for a woman who is concerned about her future and marry a rich man because he is going to marry her for something she hadsthat he wants to feel secure. I think before a relationship is established, both parties should be upfront about what they want most from one another and why they are in the relationship and if they are both cool than more power to them
Comment by Spiritus™ on December 30, 2009 at 6:48am

If you as a man or woman are not marrying for love - cos that is the Super Glue of a fulfilling marriage - then you're in essence guaranteeing to yourself that you will not remain in that marriage once the reason you married is threatened.

In any case, a man or woman who marries primarily for money is a CON ARTIST - I say this because they obviously have to convince the person they're marrying that they are marrying them for love.


Comment by DESTINY on December 30, 2009 at 2:42am
I do not want to marry for money. I want to marry a man that considers me in all his ways,,be the HEAD of the home & family. ( provide) not spoil us or bust your feet working paying for material things.I need to have the asurance that the family is alright .
Comment by grenetta on December 30, 2009 at 12:14am
I cannot serve a man who LOVES HIS MONEY. Cause one he will cherish and the other he will push aside. And I am not the one to be pushed aside. LOVE is not a dirty word when it comes to man or woman. LOVE is what is going to keep you together threw THICK OR THIN. Women who marry for Money very seldom have a Happy life with that man. Sure the Money is all glamorous at first. But what happens when that Money becomes that mans GOD. As the hair on my head he will choose MONEY OVER YOU
Comment by Crystal F. Lincoln on December 23, 2009 at 3:16am
I BELIEVE THAT I SHOULD BE MORE ABOUT LOVE THAN MONEY.... WHAT U GONNA DO LEAVE WHEN THE MONEY IS GONE??? DO U KNOW HOW HARD THAT WOULD BE??? COME ON... I KNOW WE HAVE TO PLAN FOR OUR FUTURES AND OUR CHILDREN'S FUTURES BUT WHERE HAS ALL THE LOVE REALLY GONE???
Comment by oTiandrao on September 4, 2009 at 7:05pm
SMART WOMEN MARRY RICH BECAUSE THEY ARE SMART ENOUGH TO PLAN THEIR FUTURE. NOT SAYING IT'S BACK I THE DAY WHERE YOU MARRIED A MAN FROM A NICE FAMILY AND MADE IT WORK AND POSSIBLY FELL IN LOVE. WHAT SMART WOMAN DO YOU KNOW THAT'S GONNA DATE A GOOD FOR NOTHING, BROKE MAN? IF SHE DID, SHE WOULDN'T BE ALL THAT SMART. WHEN YOU DO BETTER FOR YOURSELF YOU OPEN YOURSELF UP TO A HIGHER CLASS OF MEN; NOT NO JOB-HAVIN, ON THE BLOCK "GRINDIN", "LET ME HOLD $20 I'LL GET YOU BACK" MEN. WHETHER YOU "LOVE" THE BROKE GUY OR NOT IS IRRELEVANT, IF HE LOVED YOU HE WOULD TRY TO DO BETTER FOR HIMSELF AND NOT BRING YOU DOWN, I'M ALL FOR WOMEN FINALLY ACTING LIKE THEY HAVE SOME SENSE!


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