Should you date men in prison, or those who were just released?

Are you for or against it? Can you trust him when he says he's rehabilited? How do you, as a couple, move past some of the hardships this relationship might bring?

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Comment by Classy" Libra" on October 21, 2012 at 5:41pm

I do not think it is a good idea to date a man in prison or jail. They are scamers and they try anyway they can to try to get money from you. I had a friend who fell in ove with a prisoner doing over twenty years. She wanted to help him out by sending him some money. She sents him money and she never did hear from him again. She felt taken advantage of and she had a broken heart.! So ladies don't do it do not send money to aman in prison.!! Dont be a fool!!

Comment by Alana on November 24, 2008 at 5:35pm
Heck no you should not date no man in prison or fresh out of prison. First of all they are in jail - Hello, second of all they just got out of jail - Duh, and third you can do better, stop settling ladies!!!
Comment by jjaws on November 21, 2008 at 1:05pm
I have relatives who have been in prison,and they are successful Black men who came out and dated and even married with children.It does depend on what they are in prison for and how stable there minds are when they get out.One thing that a lot of the listeners said is they have women on their minds.Ibelieve that they should focus on getting settled down themselvesfirst before getting in a relationship.I dateded someone fresh out a prison and he was really over protected over me and would hurt anyone or anthing that he thought would harm me.That was really a situation that I was not use to and my family warned me.we broke up and he became a stalker and I had to go back and forth through the courts.He ended up doing time I from what I here he stays back and forth in the system.So Iwant say don't date a person from prison but please be very careful and listen to your love ones.
Comment by anb72 on November 19, 2008 at 3:36am
Since, I work in the jail most people do not have a clue on the thugs that comes in and out of prison. These guys do have sexual relationship with other men in jail, rape sometimes occur but gay men are turning these so call hard thugs out yearly. We have female officers, nurses, and maybe adminstrative staff that will work in the facility with the intention to find a mate. Most have little or no self-esteem. You would think that these women are ugly but, they are not. Some are beautiful to average looking. I knew one married co-worker who quit and gave an inmate her cell number. This inmate had 2 days to get out, but he was sleeping with other men in the unit. He told me that he was going to hook up with once he hit the streets. So women have these men tested before you have sex with them, because short or long term inmates or prisoner still have sex with men.
Comment by Karen Crow on November 19, 2008 at 2:10am
I dated a man in prison, i married him, and then i realized that it wasnt worth it. And i will never do it again.
Comment by Diane Boyd on November 19, 2008 at 2:09am
We do have to think about how many people are incarcerted for nothing, some are there because they could not afford a high paid lawer, but if a person have done there time they are still human. You do not have to fall in love with them, but they still need people or someone to have faith in them. Remeber there are people never been incarcerted, but still you can get hurt, God's give us another chance everyday, let give other a chance. We only get hurt if we let someone hurt us, we have control over our on mind and heart. so I would say it depends on the person,becuse life is what you may out of it, and we all have made mistakes be carefuly who you judge!
Comment by PixelMillionsOnline on November 19, 2008 at 1:30am
Ladies, what if the tables were turn the other way around? Asumtions are a given but reality is set forth. Women are in incarcerated for crimes you could only amagine. Men are being the public poster child for advertisement for nemerous of reasons, such as no job or job lost, child support when you have women on drugs, abuse, killing, or rushing down to the courtroom to file papers because he do not want to be invovle with them any longer. if there was a program to the fact that both adults were to place monies in a account - I think that men would have a greater chance of not falling into the pit and having a greater chance of provinding for the family they produce. This is whats going on today- no love for men and if women (some) keep on with the nagatively thinking that men (Black Men) mostly can not provide for thier needs but continue to down rate how a man is suppose act in public and behind close doors- we will never get pass this problem of passing our private life to the judges in the courts system around the world. Are you forgeting that they are just as human as we are?- They go threw the same thing of everyday life as well and come to court to judge you on the same topic. *WOW* Women, you have problems as well its not just about all men. * I'd said it and I'll say it again* You have problems also* Fix yourself before you place your assumtion on your mate. We need to sit down and think about ourselves before we place judgement on another individuals that may take a fall in their time of need. Everyone has a *female Or Male thats incarcerated* so no one shoould particularly pick or choose should be best in their life. Who are you and what are you doing to make society better is the question?

Family will remain intact if communication is key in the relationship from the door. A no hold bars- up front relationship goes for miles. Test it, it will work. Moral of this topic is never put down a person that has hard times in life and also everyone deserves a second chance in life and not only that but just think if you were to lend a thought to a friend or family member- you may just be offering them a new passage way of thinking of curbing thier bad habits into full blown knowledge of enjoying life and helping others. * Offer a total stranger a book to read* who knows, perhaps they could become major impact in someone life in their path.

Offer That Much- You Never Know When You Might Be In the Same Boat*

Keep up The Great Work Mike

Everyone deserves a second chance. Wake up!
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Comment by TAMMIE MCBRYDE on November 19, 2008 at 12:31am
HELL NAW............... YEP NOT HELL NO BUT HELL NAW LOL. MY REASON FOR THIS IS WHAT CAN HE BRING TO THE PLATE WHILE HE'S IN PRISON .HE MAY GO IN A MAN AND COME OUT ACTING LIKE LITTLE SUSSIE.I DON'T SEE MYSELF WAITING FOR A NOTHING BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT IT IS.IT'S LIKE YOU PLAYING LOTTERY YOU'RE GAMBLING WITH YOUR LIFE. IF YOU WRITE DOWN ALL YOUR PROS AND CONS AND SEE WHICH ONE WEIGHS OUT. SO THERE YOU GO HELL NAW LOL .THE WORLD WAITS FOR NO ONE. LIFE KEEPS GOING. SO SIT THERE AN WAIT AND SEE WHAT YOU GET ......NOTHING!!!!!
Comment by Baby Picasso on November 18, 2008 at 11:30pm
I personally say I would not. I feel like I would be putting my life in danger or at risk if I have a relationship with a criminal. I believe I deserve better. Im not saying every man who hasn't been to jail is a perfect angel but when you make a choice that is bad enough that you have to be arrested and put in jail, that tells me you have an issue.
Comment by gemn526 on November 18, 2008 at 11:30pm
I was with someone who is in prison. We were together for a little over 3 years. We met and were together before he went in and I stayed because I loved him very much and did everything I could to be there for him. Our relationship went sour because he has truth issues that I found out about 5 months ago. I can't say that I would never do it again because I will never say never. What I will say is that you have to think long and hard about being in a relationship like that. It really does take a very strong person to deal with the added stress of loving someone and committing yourself to someone who is in jail or prison.


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