Seems to me that, for black women to be considered happy, they must secure a lifelong relationship to be considered "wanted". Do you, the women, realize who is pushing this agenda upon you? Other women! Who says that, if you don't have a man, you are less of a woman? Men don't say that. The media pushes it on you every single day. I know many women that are grounded, well rounded, intellectual, wonderful women. Yet, with all they have accomplished, they need to be validated by a relationship tears them apart inside, and forces them to overlook the many wonderful aspects of who she is.
What's my point? To hell with finding love-look for somebody you really like! What happened to liking someone? You have to start somewhere, start there. Just focus on looking at the people you like instead of going straight to the love part. Love is great if you have it, but how many people do you know have a man or woman, but aren't in love? Married forever, barely like each other? They had love, but still, after all these years of marriage, can't find anyone to like or to like them.
Fall in LIKE! Love takes time.