On the DL in Jail: Men having sex with men in prison

Studies say that between .3% and 20% of the prison population are pressured or forced to have sex by other inmates. (The US Federal Prison System, by Mary Bosworth) In addition, a huge number of incidents go unreported. Many men in prison feel that having a sexual encounter behind bars doesn't make them gay or bi-sexual. But the real issue comes when they are released from prison and go back out into society - trying to live life normally as a heterosexual man.

The HIV rates for black women are soaring. In 2003, the rate of new AIDS cases for black women was 20 times that of white women and five times greater than the infection rate for Latinas, according to a report by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Black and Hispanic women accounted for 77 percent of all new AIDS infections in 1994. Nine years later, the rate was 85 percent, according to the agency. Black and Hispanic women made up 83 percent of reported AIDS diagnoses among women, although they represent only 25 percent of all women.

In Washington D.C. alone, black women represent 90 percent of women living with AIDS while making up only 62 percent of all women in the city, according to a report last year by the District’s Health Department.

What if a man, who had sex in prison, starts dating a woman once he gets out - is he obligated to tell her of his sexual encounters?

What if he didn't get an STD or HIV while in prison...does he still have a responsibility to tell her? Why or why not?

Why can't men on the down-low just be honest?

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Comment by Marsha E. Williams on September 16, 2009 at 12:32pm
I recently broke up with a man because I almost caught him in the act. There were a lot of little signs such as when I looked at his laptop and checked his history for sites visited ; a lot were of Craig's list m4m or t4m pages of which he was seeking someone to be with.

When we first got together and after I had moved in I found a really short rubber d**** in his closet behind something and when I asked him about it he said that the person who lived there prior to him left it I had him throw it away . The last thing that happened was his phone was under my name and I went to the site and looked at the pictures he had taken of his penis and he had sent them to the man of which was the one I almost caught him with. The guy came all the way from Dade county and they met in Orlando at our office. But my natural instinct was what made me go to the office on Saturday I had never done that before.
The worst part of it all is I got used in the process I am now out thousands of dollars and worrying as to how am I going to save my home. Unfortunately, we also have the business together and I decided to work a couple days and let him have the rest of the week. I can't stand looking at him, the whole relationship was a lie. Thank God my girlfriend was with me when I addressed it with him other wise I may have gone to jail. PLEASE CONTINUE TO ADDRESS THIS PROBLEM IT DOES EFFECT NOT ONLY THE WOMEN THEY ARE WITH BUT THE FAMILIES AFTER THEY COME DOWN WITH AIDS.
Comment by Jean Wellman on September 15, 2009 at 11:00pm
No on has the right to take away my choice! Be honest!
Comment by CJfrom Jersey on September 15, 2009 at 7:42pm
I think he should tell the truth. If more people tell the truth things would not get out of hand. Stop the spread prople would not get infected and this could be avoided by not spreading STD or HIV when will we ever learn.
Comment by Brian Barnes on September 15, 2009 at 6:53pm
I served nearly 20 years in the Michigan Prison system and I speak on behalf of those who are behind bars and those who are free who have never indulged in homosexual activity. There are some men I know who have engaged in homosexual activity while imprisoned, but these were acts of clear volition. Only a tithe of one percent of men are raped in prison, contrary to popular belief of those who have never lived in that world. Primarily, the first law is of preservation. That entails, in my opinion, the security of all that is a human being, sexuality included. As a glimpse to what the imprisoned mind suffers, The loss of one's freedom, doubt of a positive future, concern for losing loved ones as one grows older, just to name a few, are so earth shattering that the last thing on my mind was a weak and feeble attempt to curb my sexual hunger. As a freed slave, nobody ever asks "how much did you learn in there," or "how did you serve out your time," they ask "how did you avoid being raped,"or "did you mess with other men?" Of all the trouble a heterosexual prisoner suffers, sex with another man is the least of these thoughts.
Those who are guilty of homosexual activity should be forthright in admitting to their past, the whole of it, and allow that woman to make a just decision for her and her loved ones. Conversely, I find it discriminatory and for taste of better wording, unaware of the circumstances, that some of the most intelligent and beautiful women actually lose great men because of their refusal to date a man solely based on his prison past. In fact, I see far more lesbianism out here than anything, but it would be a judgment call on seeing that woman after learning that about her. In 3 short years of freedom, I moved into a high rise in Downtown Detroit, bought a new Cadillac, operate a successful business, now in its one year celebration, built like hell, and I am single by choice. My life is a great one, and imagine how much better it would be knowing that my Queen waited to take her throne beside her Muhammed, Malcolm, or Mandela, ex-prisoners, like me, who had a second chance and were not on the Down Low!
Comment by Kenneth L. Williams on September 15, 2009 at 6:52pm
I heard you guys on the radio heading back to work and that i was going to crash. When the sister said 90% of men in jail get involved in some sort of homosexual activity in jail. WOW. I'm like the sister who commented before, what about the ones in the military or all male schools. Mike don't let the sister's off the hook. there are boat loads of DL, Bi sisters running around these street too.
Comment by Jimmy Donnell III on September 15, 2009 at 6:38pm
A lot of times women will not accept the fact that a man has had sex with another man for a lot of reasons. One is a woman feel like she doesn't need to be put in that situation. But at the same time a woman must understand the importance of a man. There are a lot of issues that men in general go through. A lot of times men just need a woman to stand by them for support, love, and not for just sex. One of the least favorite thing on peoples list to do is pray, but it is the only way to a better and way of living.
Comment by sparkle thomas on September 15, 2009 at 6:36pm
My brother did three years in jail and I know a couple of other dudes that have or are currently doing time in jail. I don't think that men go to jail and just all of a sudden have sex with men because of there circumstances. I think if he always a man to have sex with him or have sex with a man it was in him from day one. It just didn't get there when he went to jail, jail just made it easy for him to do. This falls in line with a down low man and if he had sex with men in prison he will do it outside of prison. I don't think noooo straight man, true straight man despite his circumstance would have sex with another man. There are other ways to get off, like masterbation and having sex with the female guards which I think happens more often than not. I know my bro didn't have sex with a man while locked up because I know my bro and we talk about everything.
Comment by Melissa Venable on September 15, 2009 at 6:12pm
i have been a correctional officer for 10 years inmates have told me anal sex with a man feels like a woman some inmates have no choice they are raped the aids population is horrible in jail u know which inmates have aids by the medication they take i see women visiting a man i know has been raped or has had sex with another man jail ,rape, n the down low is worse than u think!!!!
Comment by Entice on September 15, 2009 at 6:07pm
I've heard your talk show on my way home about men on the DL that were in prison and now release, but what about men in the military. I know this may raise some eyebrows, however i know some men whom have girlfriends, fiancé's, wife and kids. I will not mention any names but there are men whom live that double life in the military but no one ever touch that subject.
Comment by Juanita Meria Sheckelford on September 15, 2009 at 5:27pm
"Kudos" For, those male and female partners that remained faithful to those locked up. Its not that women don't ask questions we sometimes surpress the critical questions. Look, I never been in this situation but I do know women we need to be real with ourselves and our lives. Its sad to know that OZ isn't just a TV show its our reality. If these men ain't gonna tell us ladies we need to look for signs. Its not benefiting anyone if the topic isn't being disscussed. First, of all a man fresh out of prision should be red flag number one. However, I do feel a man is obligated to tell the woman because she wasn't under any before they began dating. GET OUT OF THE MIND SET THAT IT CAN'T HAPPEN TO ME!!!! When, yes it can if you play dumb with your body. Even if the man doesn't contract the diease in prison you can also get from bad blood transfusion, shooting needles, open sore to blood contact, and though sexual intercoarse. So, the fact of the matter is it doesn't matter how you contracted it at the end of the day its the same diease. It make plenty of sense for men in prison if forced to have sex lie to the women outside. Because chances are they want to forget it happen until it contiues the duration of the sentence being served. I really think some of these men are getting use to the idea without any tries to the gay/bi-sexually community. Some, of the men are finding that they like who this experience has created and figure we women won't understand. But, that has to be our decision and not one to taken away from us. Trust, me fellas we got this.......be honest ....and make your momma proud of you!!!!


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