I got invited to a SuperBowl Sunday party at my sisters house (not my real sister but you know how we all become sistahs after a while). So I go because hey, I love football and great food. I put on my best because you never know who may be there ;) Anyway, I'm in the kitchen with my sister and in walks this tall, sexy brotha. He was about 6'4, light brown and he had lips like LL use to have. I play it cool because I don't want this brotha to know that I want him. But I turn and notice that the entire night, he's watching me like he wants to take a bite. I let my sister know I was interested. It's 2009 all of that waiting for a man to pursue a woman crap is way out dated. My sis puts a good word in for me and BAM!! we're on the phone the next night. Okay so I have to be honest and give some detail. 1st off, the brotha told me he just came home from jail about a year ago. I don't discriminate because we all do things that we have to pay for and hopefully we learn from it. Then the brotha says, " I got a lil baby mama drama." That should have been a red flag for me but I told him as long as it doesn't come to me we are cool. I told a little fib and said that I was seeing someone because I had an odd feeling that this was gonna be a crazy adventure. So the following Saturday I asked if I could make dinner for him. He said yes and then I decided to make it a double dinner date type thing. My sister was dealing with his brother so why not. We are at my house having dinner and he's all over me. Not in a disrepectful way. He was just watching me and licking his lips and smiling, grabbing my hand and holding when I walk pass. When he was leaving he asked if he could kiss me and I said yes. It was nice because those lips were magnificent. So a two weeks go by and we see each other again. To make a long story short, we did wind up being intimate. That was good as well. No complaints at all. The following night I get a phone call from him at about 6:45. I'm just walking in the house from work, ready to do homework with the kids, cook dinner and prepare for another day. This is how the phone call went:
"Hi pretty girl how was your day?" he says charmingly. I told him it was cool and that I was just getting in could I call him back once I got settled.
"Sure but before you get off I need a favor." I'm like...okay what is it? "Can you do it for me or not?" he asks. Depends on what it is I say. " I need to borrow like 30 dollars until Friday." Now my reaction to this was WTF? How do you, a grown 31 year old man, ask a woman you hardly even know for money? He gets defensive and starts saying that he didn't need to be questioned because if he wanted that, he would go home with his "Babymom". Come to find out, he lived with her at the time we were seeing each other and he asked me for the money because she locked him out the house. I could not believe this was happening to me. He continued to call me and leave me crazy msgs calling me a nut for not answering phone and that he really didn't need the money he just wanted to see what my reaction was gonna be.....until last week, I blacked out on him in a calm respectful manner. Letting him know how much of a turn off it was that he was asking me for money. His pride got in the way and he let his mouth say what he was thinking before he let his brain play a part and help him choose his words. He's a goner in my world but I just thought I would share and see what reactions I would get.
As always, thank you for your time and be blessed.....PEACE