I got invited to a SuperBowl Sunday party at my sisters house (not my real sister but you know how we all become sistahs after a while). So I go because hey, I love football and great food. I put on my best because you never know who may be there ;) Anyway, I'm in the kitchen with my sister and in walks this tall, sexy brotha. He was about 6'4, light brown and he had lips like LL use to have. I play it cool because I don't want this brotha to know that I want him. But I turn and notice that the entire night, he's watching me like he wants to take a bite. I let my sister know I was interested. It's 2009 all of that waiting for a man to pursue a woman crap is way out dated. My sis puts a good word in for me and BAM!! we're on the phone the next night. Okay so I have to be honest and give some detail. 1st off, the brotha told me he just came home from jail about a year ago. I don't discriminate because we all do things that we have to pay for and hopefully we learn from it. Then the brotha says, " I got a lil baby mama drama." That should have been a red flag for me but I told him as long as it doesn't come to me we are cool. I told a little fib and said that I was seeing someone because I had an odd feeling that this was gonna be a crazy adventure. So the following Saturday I asked if I could make dinner for him. He said yes and then I decided to make it a double dinner date type thing. My sister was dealing with his brother so why not. We are at my house having dinner and he's all over me. Not in a disrepectful way. He was just watching me and licking his lips and smiling, grabbing my hand and holding when I walk pass. When he was leaving he asked if he could kiss me and I said yes. It was nice because those lips were magnificent. So a two weeks go by and we see each other again. To make a long story short, we did wind up being intimate. That was good as well. No complaints at all. The following night I get a phone call from him at about 6:45. I'm just walking in the house from work, ready to do homework with the kids, cook dinner and prepare for another day. This is how the phone call went:
"Hi pretty girl how was your day?" he says charmingly. I told him it was cool and that I was just getting in could I call him back once I got settled.
"Sure but before you get off I need a favor." I'm like...okay what is it? "Can you do it for me or not?" he asks. Depends on what it is I say. " I need to borrow like 30 dollars until Friday." Now my reaction to this was WTF? How do you, a grown 31 year old man, ask a woman you hardly even know for money? He gets defensive and starts saying that he didn't need to be questioned because if he wanted that, he would go home with his "Babymom". Come to find out, he lived with her at the time we were seeing each other and he asked me for the money because she locked him out the house. I could not believe this was happening to me. He continued to call me and leave me crazy msgs calling me a nut for not answering phone and that he really didn't need the money he just wanted to see what my reaction was gonna be.....until last week, I blacked out on him in a calm respectful manner. Letting him know how much of a turn off it was that he was asking me for money. His pride got in the way and he let his mouth say what he was thinking before he let his brain play a part and help him choose his words. He's a goner in my world but I just thought I would share and see what reactions I would get.

As always, thank you for your time and be blessed.....PEACE

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Comment by Sunrise (AW) on March 5, 2009 at 10:48pm
First of all, we all make dumb mistakes and believe me honey this was not smart. You could have aids. Do you realize that now you have to get an aids test every year because of this fool? Let me not call him a fool, he was just doing what came natural for him to do because men who have been in prison are con artist. Please take the time to get to know a person and do not let your hormones control your thinking. You have to hold yourself up as a woman and make men work for your affection. This will take time, so take your time. Peace.
Comment by Ramon on March 5, 2009 at 9:39pm
O.K. sista, Your first mistake was not listening to the little voice in your head when it told you to run when he told you that he'd been incarcerated and that he has "baby mama drama"...Your second mistake was that you slept with him to soon...You have to make "US"(men) apprieciate you as a person instead of objectifying you...Men like to be challenged both physically and intellectually...Now I personally don't believe in boring money from women period...but for those guys who induldge in boring money from women it must be someone that you know and trust...And finally he wanted to borrow 31 dollars...Now i'm not sure if you want to get involved with a man that doesn't have 31 dollars in the bank girl...I mean who doean't have 31 dollars?
Comment by DISTANTLUVA/DEBORAH on March 5, 2009 at 6:20pm
I'm sitting over here cracking up, literally....... let me get this right..... you get pissed off because he asked you for money. Here is what you say "Now my reaction to this was WTF? How do you, a grown 31 year old man, ask a woman you hardly even know for money?" and a few lines before you say "So a two weeks go by and we see each other again. To make a long story short, we did wind up being intimate. That was good as well. No complaints at all."
Please explain this to me as I really am laughing to hard to figure this one out. You give this man sex but yet when he asks for money you ask him how he's gonna ask for money from someone he doesn't know?????
Comment by Pamela Anderson on March 5, 2009 at 5:28pm
Girl you don't need that drama in your life.. Life is to short for brotha's not to have it together.. That's why I am glad I'm married to one hell of a man.. Don't get me wrong, I had to work this man like a full time job, but he's trained now and all mines.. Girl keep looking and pray, god will send you the man you deserve in your life..
Comment by Ms. Johnson on March 5, 2009 at 5:03pm
It good that u let him go. That is a lesson well learn. Just so this doesn't happen again. Check ur schedule when men call u. Do u get a call before 4pm and 7pm. Can't get intouch with him after 8pm or 10:30pm and alway getting the voices mail. In a hurry to get the panty. Also check out your conversation he gave up all the red flag at one it, but you wanted to try it out. Next time take a pass.
Comment by angiebmore46 on March 5, 2009 at 4:55pm
If you want a honest comment from me then here it is: You say you were offended when he called and asked for money. Which I can understand, but here is my concern if you two were only seeing each other for such a short time, then why were you intimate with him so soon in the friendship. Once you start being intimate with some men; they take it as an open invitation to ask for whatever else they want. They believe if they can be intimate in such a short time, then borrowing money or anything else would be no problem. I hope you don't take my comments as being offensive; just take the lesson learned and move on. Have a wonderful and blessed day.
Comment by Felmond Lisane on March 5, 2009 at 4:31pm
It is so hard dating now. Its like you need a full time P.I. , I go in a relationship now with the idea of friends with benefits and that way you want get hurt.
Comment by Timm Knight on March 5, 2009 at 4:28pm
Interesting....I personally would never ask a woman for money but there are plenty of guys who will. I think it's good not to start such a habit and you did the right thing, too bad after you gave him the bizness. lol


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