Low Expectation: Do you expect your child to bring home A’s?

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Comment by Live Simply Healthy on January 19, 2010 at 11:22pm

I had my daughter when I was 19 just out of high school. Education was a top priority for me. I been in school her whole life and she is 20. I have a Masters in Finance, a Masters in Economics, a licensed cosmetologist, a certificate in Project Management and I was working on my MBA. During these years of me putting myself through school, my daughter learned to read and write at the age of 4. By the fourth grade she was reading at a 12th grade level. Her teachers use to complain they can't challenger her anymore. She maintained an A in every subject all of her years in school. She earned a four year scholarship to a college prep high school where she was well prepared for college. She is now in her 2nd year at Michigan State studying to teach. She speaks Chinese and Spanish great! Made the dean list her first semester in college. Keep encouraging your kids, read with and to them, talk to them about life and your life. Tell them how proud of them you are. Hugh and kiss them. Most important watch what you do around your them and who you allow them to be around. I kept my daughter in some kind of activity. She was so busy she didn't have time to mess up.

Comment by RicoFlexn on January 19, 2010 at 9:06pm

FYI: The American Schooling system is now sub-standard to the primary education systems in China, Japan, Korea, most of Europe and various Middle Eastern countries. If your children are NOT making A's as a result of MASTERING their educational curriculum (instead of begging, pleading, doing "extra credit work" for their grades), then your child is lagging EVEN FURTHER behind the rest of the 1st and 2nd world countries than his/her counterparts that are making A's. And FYI, I finished my high school education at 16, and was the number 11 graduate in my class (out of 245). I completed my bachelor's in liberal arts before I became a personal trainer. Tell your kids, that a successful high school education is a MUST if they want options/choices in life.

Comment by lioness on January 19, 2010 at 8:18pm

I EXPECT MY KIDS TO MAKE ALL A's. THEYRE NOT MENTALLY CHALLENGED SO THEREFORE I KNOW THEY CAN DO THE WORK! I EXPECT NOTHING LESS! I ALWAYS ENCOURAGE THEM TO DO THEIR BEST. A c IS TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE! THEY MAY AS WELL BRING HOME AN F! THAT'S DEFINETLY TERMS FOR PUNISHMENT.

Comment by Mstxscorpio on January 19, 2010 at 6:50pm

Tell that young man that Will Smith was offered a scholarship to MIT. Education gives you options

Comment by Allison Jones on January 19, 2010 at 6:02pm

Of course I do. I instilled strong study and scholastic work ethic within my child and let her know that she can do what she wants if she knocks out her work first. She's in college now and she is still an "A" student. I also emphasized the fact that her ONLY job is to go to school right now and while the opportunity to go to school is hers, she should take it. I also studied with her and got involved in more difficult studies before there was a problem. I think extracurricular activities should also be incorporated so children can be a part of something they enjoy.

Comment by Robin Kelly on January 19, 2010 at 5:01pm

No , MIcheal i dont expect my kids to bring home A's I demand that they Bring homes A's.. My family say that I push the kids to hard so what if i didnt they would find other things to do with thier free time like drugs gangs and oher nonsense .. I am that mother that would go sit in the class all day long just to see what going on. I will surprise them and the teacher so the teacher dont have to plan a lesson for me. and if I am there and they dont raise thier hands to give a answer or to ask a question before leaving that class I will ask them to explain to what the lesson was abut becasue you did raise your hand toanswer or ask a question that mean you got it RIGHT !!! I told them we have no room for C's and D's in my house if you dont understand a question ask the a dum question is a question not ask. So if they are looking for me to pay those Jordan to put on their feet then they nee to pay me with an A " Average in school. your grade slip and so do mommy with those things you want...
So yes i demand my kids to be an A" B" Student !!!! you can be soft with kids if you show no inerest in your child educatiointhen who will on Thursday nite that our family read nite we all chose a book to read that we like we read it to our self then we each take turns read the book out loud so if u dont know a word this the time we can help each other learn differnt things then we ask each other question about the book and after that we have game time for a couple minutes to reward them before going to bed . and yes my kids are A honor kids and I am so proud of them . You got to push them that waht they want!!

Comment by Happily Married Man on January 19, 2010 at 1:04pm

It's like pulling teeth to get our 14 year old son to talk and talk in detail about what's going on with him in school. These two or three word sentences don't cut it for us. We have to be vigilant in our efforts to stay on top of what's going on with him in school. His school has a website called "TeacherEase", which is suppose to be the bridge between the teachers and the parents, where parent can log on to see updated assignments, progress, test scores, communicate with the teachers through email etc, about their child. However, it's also like pulling teeth to get the teachers to input the information and do it in a timely manner. It does not serve a parent when the information is data entered after the fact. We can't help our son improve in something before the end of a marking period if the information is not entered in enough time for parent to know there's a problem. If an assignment is missing, late and the child can still submit it, we need to know that before hand and not when it's too late to make it up. However, that does not alleviate our child from his responsibilities. We expect nothing less than the best from him and for him, but boys are much harder to get to do what they need to do. Playing video games, watching TV is not allowed during the weekdays and if he's not up to par during the week, he won't touch or watch them over the weekend either. He has no cell phone anymore, because he wouldn't do the right thing when he had one. I recently took away his Ipod because he wasn't doing the right thing. I always stress to him that in life, there will always be consequences. Good consequences and bad consequences, but consequences nonetheless. If he can't be responsible at home and school, his future will be limited. I tell him to do what he HAVE to do now so that he can do what he WANT to do later. Our son is an extremely bright young man, but his priorities are really screwed up. Young people today just don't get it!!! Jawanza KunJuFu posed the question years ago to young people. he asked them "Which would you rather be, Popular or Smart"? Related to Peer Pressure among the Black Peer Groups. Kids today seem to lean more towards being popular. Thery have more of an interest in what they have on, how they look, whether they're cool, or fit in with the in crowd. To them, it's not cool to be smart and for us that's a problem.

Comment by TANYA S. on January 19, 2010 at 12:46pm

YES! YES! YES! I have 3 in the system....12th grade....5th grade and pre-k...I EXPECT AND DEMAND HIGH EXPECTATIONS FOR ALL OF THEM!