Living in Sin: Is shacking forbidden by the church? And if so, why do so many Christians and Muslims still do it!

So what is the real deal with this phrase "Living In Sin"? People who are or who proclaim to be bound in the word and worship faithfully, "Shack Up" every day! Can I get an "Amen"?

First coming from the biblical perspective (King James Version), here are just a couple scriptures people of faith have quoted regarding this subject matter:

Matthew 15:19
For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornication's, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:
John 8:41
Ye do the deeds of your father. Then said they to him, We be not born of fornication; we have one Father, even God.

Now making it plain:

Fornication is defined as: Consensual sexual intercourse between 2 person not married to each other.

As faith abiding individuals it is expected for there to be no fornication, intimate relations, snuggling up or getting buck wild with anyone that is not your husband or wife.

If you're shacking, surly you're doing the above; are you still heaven bound? I mean you are "living in sin" and all.

Isn't it the goal for faith abiding individuals to get married; before living together?

A study suggests couples who live together before marriage are more likely to get divorced. It is believed that some couples who move in together without a clear commitment to marraige may wind up sliding into marraige partly because they are already cohabitating.

Living together is considered to be more stressful than being married and just over 50% of first cohabitating couples ever get married.

With faith being a primary factor of not shacking for christians and muslims and the statistics of how many people who choose the route of living together don't make it to the alter, why still do it?

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Comment by Robert on March 2, 2010 at 2:40pm
All I can say is this... if I had shacked up with my wife BEFORE we got married not only would we have not gotten married, but we would have broken up (I'm not wasting time in a bad relationship). Shacking up didn't used to be required. "Back in the day" women has a very specific role, so did men... this was back in the halcyon days of a single-income middle class household. But things are different now. So many women have different views of what their responsibilities are, what is and is not acceptable, etc. that it really varies from woman to woman. So in this modern age, you don't know what you're buying until you get home and unwrap it--so to speak. This is one reason why divorces are so rampant in the post-womens liberation era.

I think everybody should shack up before marriage because it would (1) bring divorces down and (2) stabilize the core family unit.

But after my wife moved into my house after the wedding, damn near all hell broke loose. Her jealousy/insecurity went through the roof, she's trifling (keeps DIRTY house, don't ask why I didn't see it before, its because she lived with her parents), can't cook, and isn't open to input... If I point out to her the week old dirty dishes are funky she gets an attitude... If I point out to her that she only has three dishes in her repertoire and all are nasty as hell and she needs to use the damned cook book she got for Christmas, she gets an attitude... Not to say that these things are the only reason we're getting a divorce, but they are part of it.
Comment by Brian Franklin on March 2, 2010 at 12:30pm
I am sorry Mashael, but I completely disagree with you. Either you believe in the holy books of a religion or you don't. If the God of that religion wanted to change something with the times they would send you a new holy book. The religions adjust to the changing times not because they want to but because they would go out of business otherwise. An according to all of them sex before marriage is a sin and sinners go to hell.
Comment by Jam on March 2, 2010 at 9:52am
The Word (bible) means nothing to people anymore, why not do it you can still go to church and nothing changes everyone wants to keep that part quiet.No RESPECT FOR ANYTHING ANYMORE>>>.
Comment by Brian Franklin on March 2, 2010 at 9:44am
First let me say that I am an atheist and following are the comments of a non-believer. Sex before marriage is considered a sin in the three great religions. However, most Christians consider it a lesser sin even though there is no such thing as per the bible, sin is sin. Despite what ministers may say, over time, religions tend to change with the times. As humans become more enlightened so do their religions. If they did not we would still be stoning people, burning witches and committing genocide in the name of god.
Comment by Mashael on March 2, 2010 at 2:57am
First, I dont believe that shacking up leads to hell. It isn't the ideal behavior that God would wish for us, however, I do not believe it will keep you out of heaven.

God's instructions via the Bible and Quran are meant to be a guide for our lives. At the time they were composed we existed in a world in which marriage was a function of survival. In that environment, it was easier to maintain the idea that once bound, the two were eternally connected.

In today's society, marriage is not a matter of survival. It is a personal choice. Though we are all aware of the physical and emotional benefits of a committed partnership, we are not lacking a person to share the "labor" of the farm and home. Ladies without a man can still turn the dial on the central hair and keep warm in the winter without a man to chop wood for the fire. Gentleman without a woman can still eat healthy meals without a woman to gather the vegetables and spend hours preparing each meal.

Since we live in a modern world, these issues must be taken in a modern critique. We most certainly should marry and commit across a lifetime and we should not be cohabiting with someone who is not our spouse. But taken the easy life we now have, it is easier to avoid the strict rules laid by God.

That being said, many couples today are opting for what is termed a "non traditional coupling." Many have chosen to commit without the formality of a wedding and a marriage certificate. Many singles that I know believe it is ridiculous to believe that a piece of paper in the court house is necessary to prove your commitment. "That paper means nothing." The actions say these singles are of utmost importance.

Many of these singles are choosing more intimate commitment ceremonies with the vows standing as their union and not a paper in the courthouse. One friend of mine has strictly explained that he and his future wife will have their own version of a marriage certificate in the form of a contract the two of them have decided upon, which will explain what they willprovide for each other and how any separations will be handled, if God forbid they ever break up.

Are these couples not legitimate? Absolutely not. They are certainly bonded couples whether the state acknowledges them or not. 100 years ago there were no such documents to prove marriage. Why do we need them now?

Aside from that, back to the originalpoint...
those singles who float from one living arrangement to the next or going against the laws ordained by God for what is most healthy for our bodies and our souls.
While He is not likely to send you to hell for it, it will certainly cause you suffering and frustration. many of these temporary livign situations have resulted in children who end up in broken homes, not to mention many financial upheavals, emotional destruction, and other avoidable issues.

Whether you choose a traditional ceremoney and a marriage certificate or a commitment ceremony wiht a personalized contract, every couple should wait for a commitment to each other before sharing a home.

However,we're all grown and we all know, whether thecouple is living together or not, they are certainly doing the deed in the bedroom.
The reason there was initially a rule against this in the holy books was to prevent promiscuity... and we all know, today's people are promiscuous whether at THEIR place,HIS place, or HER place... any place is the right place to do the wrong thing.


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