It’s Not Your Baby, Fool: Women who know he’s not the father, but still want the money!

The legal system is supposed to be helpful to families going through child support proceedings. After all, more than 1/3 of children born in the U.S. are born to unmarried parents. But more and more fathers say the legal system isn't in their favor. What happens when a father finds out his child, whom he has loved and paid child support for, isn't his? Here's a perfect example:

Childless man freed after serving time for child support violations

Frank Hatley spent the past year in jail for being a deadbeat dad. But there's one problem -- Hatley doesn't have any children. And the "deadbeat" label doesn't fit the 50-year-old either, his supporters say.

After a hearing, Hatley was released from the Cook County Jail in south Georgia Wednesday afternoon, with the help of the Southern Center for Human Rights.

Superior Court Judge Dane Perkins ruled that Hatley was indigent and should not be jailed for not being able to make child support payments. Perkins postponed a decision on whether Hatley should have to make any more back payments on child-support for a child who is not his.

In June of last year, a judge ordered Hatley to jail for failing to reimburse the state for public assistance that was paid to support his "son," who, as the court was aware, is not actually his son.

Hatley's attorney Sarah Geraghty, who filed a motion for his release, called it a case of "blatant unfairness."

Hatley is a hard-working man who demonstrated his desire to pay what the court said he owed, even making payments from his unemployment checks, Geraghty told CNN.

On top of that, "the state has no legitimate reason to pursue Mr. Hatley for child support -- he doesn't have any children," she said.

The story dates back to 1986, when Hatley had a relationship with Essie Lee Morrison. She became pregnant and gave birth to a son.

Morrison told Hatley that the child was his, but the couple ended their relationship shortly after the boy's birth, according to court documents. The couple never married and never lived together, the documents state.

When the boy turned 2, Morrison applied for public support for her son. Under Georgia law, the state can go after the non-custodial parent to recoup the assistance.

For 13 years, Hatley made payments to the state until learning, in 2000, that the boy might not be his biological son. A DNA test that year confirmed that there was no chance he was the father, according to court documents.

Hatley returned to court and was relieved of any future child support reimbursement but was ordered to pay more than $16,000 that he had owed the state before the ruling.

Latesha Bradley, an attorney who represented Hatley in that hearing, told CNN the argument for keeping Hatley liable for the back payments was that he had signed a consent agreement with the office of child support services. The court agreed that Hatley had to comply with the consent agreement for the period that he believed the boy was his son.

Court documents show that Hatley for the most part continued to make payments. He was jailed for six months in 2006 for falling behind on payments during a period of unemployment, but afterward he resumed making payments and continued to do so even after he lost another job in 2008 and became homeless, court records state.

Last year, he again became unable to maintain the payments and was once again jailed.

The circumstances of Hatley's arrest didn't feel right to many, including Cook County Sheriff Johnny Daughtrey.

"I knew the gentleman's plight and didn't know how to help him," Daughtrey told CNN.

About two months ago, when attorneys from the Southern Center for Human Rights visited his jail, Daughtrey alerted them to Hatley's case.

Should he just walk away from that child? Or should he still continue to be a father, and pay child support, for this child?

What about the mothers who find out their child isn't his, but still want him to continue his child support payments? What should happen to them?

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Comment by BRWNEYES on July 16, 2009 at 1:24pm
No matter what the woman says, in some instances, men should request a parternity test. If the man is in the child's life for a long period of time and finds out he is not the father of the child he JUST MIGHT stay in the child's life because he is now attached to the child. On the other hand, if the man is in the child's life for, let's say, 2 to 5 months of the child's life and finds out the child is not his then he will PROBABLY walk away from the situation without any emotion due to fact that the fact that mother is accusing the man of fathering the child.
If the mother says or finds out that that child is not the baby's father then she shouldn't be entitled to get any child support from that man who is not the father of the child. If she doesn't know who the father is then that's tough for her. She should be more conscious of how many men she sleeps with and use protection if she's going to be that sexually active. It's rediculous!
Comment by Fred on July 16, 2009 at 12:36pm
Swab you mouth...
Comment by Mary Robinson on July 16, 2009 at 12:02pm
I have a friend who was bamboozled into taking care of a child that he had never meet or seen other than photos sent to him from his ex. She staged the entire pregnancy after she had moved to another state... She had a friend who had just given birth as it would have been her due date of 9 months... the dude (my friend feel for it) because, he trusted her and still had feelings. Her friend would provide pictures of her child playing like it were their child often. They did not want to go through the court system because they had a trust in one another being that the break up was mutual. Nonetheless, he paid child support (obviously) for too long. He made plans to visit the child and the mother came up with excuses for him not to come. Eventually, the light came to surface; she finally told the truth but is NOT willing to reply the monies... I could be mad at any man, who would request a paternal test for his children...Women these days are shady when it comes to this matter for sure...Coming from a woman!!!!
Comment by Cassandra Smith on April 1, 2009 at 10:36pm
More importantly, sue her in cival court, if it turns out he IS the father in your state for mental anquish if your state affords you too. Then give the award, if any, to back support if necessary. I say this because some states allow adult children to sue absent parents for back support....yikes!!!! And you don't want the child coming to you at a later date.

Then......Let us pray for these mis-guided women who will most assuredly suffer even harsher actions for their decisions. Cause we all know......Know one leaves this life without learning some real hard lessons or suffering some like same karma.

Whew! Best wishes gurl.
Comment by Ms Optimistic on April 1, 2009 at 10:08pm
I have always believed that both parents should be informed and held responsible for the wellfare of the child. I never imagined that I would be personally involved in such a case. My husband was recently served with a paternity suit for a child just before the child's 18th birthday. The mother never informed him of the child and although she now has our address, "she is yet to say we have a child together". Instead, he was greeted with a summons to appear in court and disclose all financial statements because he is obligated to pay until age 21. (This conception supposedly happened more than 3 years before we met.) We reside several states away from the mother and her child and no paternity has been established. He worked within a 10 mile radius of the mother's residence for nearly 3 years after the alledged conception as well.) However just to protect our family via legal representation, the retainer fee ws $5,000 (we did check around). Regardless of the DNA results, I feel the mother should be held accountable because either she knowingly denied him the right to be a father and know is asserting her right to be paid or she is making a fraudulent claim. We want men to "man up and take responsibility" for their actions but women must also tow the line of accountability. Said actions not only impact the parties directly involved but also many innocent people as well. I support any legislation which holds mothers responsible for willful deception regarding paternity.
Comment by LOTTAMAN on April 1, 2009 at 8:47pm
This is serious business ladies and gents, I mean there is a moral issue as well health mental issue as well. I mean for a man the purist thing in his life will be the woman he chose, and above that is his child. That is the lowest form of grimey for a woman to have a man think he is the father of a child. To think what could happen should he find out the truth... you women like playing with fire. That man could very well snap, and do you some bodily harm if not kill you. Then what if there is a problem with the child. Genetics, heredity all these things play a part, and then the child suffers. Females who do this are one of the lowest forms of scum on the face of the earth. God bless you.
Comment by ELAN OCCASIONS on April 1, 2009 at 7:19pm
That sounds like fraud to me. Take her to court for your money, if you have a relationship with the child don't forget about him or her. Eventhough the mother and father are trif, you don't have to be.
Comment by Carnell Smith PfV on April 1, 2009 at 7:04pm
Hi All, glad that you caught the show today. I can see many of you understand that it is not funny when paternity fraud strikes your husband, son, grandson, boyfriend or fiance.

Truth is a good thing. Somehow the truth is not told about the actual paternity candidates involved during the 60 day window of conception. A DNA test at birth to confirm paternity or at least completed at the first child support hearing would help with the facts.

Visit my blog to help spread the word about NC, PA and other states introducing truth-in-paternity laws.

You can know the truth and make an informed decision. How hard can it be to tell the truth?

Carnell Smith PfV
Comment by CoCo on April 1, 2009 at 6:51pm
It makes my blood boil when I hear of situations where men are caught up in situations like these because of greedy coniving women, who are only thinking about themselves in all Truthfulness. My ex-boyfriend, who's also a good friend, refuses to get a Paternity test, for fear of finding out that his lil girl is not his, and that he maynot love her as his own anymore (B.S.) Basically his girlfriend doing her and got pregnant while he was attending college in CA, she claimed he got her pregnant when he came home on a school break. Not to put all his business out there but the man always wears protection and on top of that pulls out at climax. Further more his friends/family were the ones to tell him about the rumor that she cheating on him, and may have gotten pregnant by this guy. He came home to confront her about it and she hid from him for TWO WEEKS! Her reasoning is because she was afraid of how he'd react. My friend was raised by his grandmother and was taught to cherish family especially children. Although the thought of being a father thrilled him, and he is a great dad, he is constantly being haunted by the fact that he did not take the test when he had the perfect opportunity to do. This grl knows that he's a good man and would do anything for family, and she preyed upon that.
I told him he needs to man up and take the test, God forbid something happens and the doctors need bloodwork or whatever and you find out that way that she is not yours. I preach to him take the test so what you can have some peace of mind, either way the cookie crumbles that child is yours now, and you are the only daddy that she's ever known, and the blame will be all on you if you take that away from her now almost 8yrs later....
Comment by latonya hale on April 1, 2009 at 6:48pm
what kinda woman would want to ruin childs life by telling him/her that lie knowing that there is a possibility that he is not the father! Triffling women like that make it hard for the real women like me!


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