It's a package deal! Instead of cheating, why not date women together?
"I've heard all the things -- their marriage is not real, he's gay, she's gay, they swing. But at the end of the day, people have to believe what they have to believe."
Hmm...that answer doesn't exactly scream, "No the rumors aren't true." Her comment inspired this topic: Should a couple date another woman?
The most traditional idea of a couple is a man and a woman, but what happens when you throw another person in the mix?
Some would say that a threesome will break up a relationship, and that most who feel the need for one are bored and unsatisfied with their sex life. On the flip side, there are people out there who think it could be one of the most amazing sexual experiences you will ever have!
Recent statistics show that about 20% of the American married populations are swinging couples.
With over 70% of men having cheated, 60% of women, and over 50% of all marriages ending in divorce, when are we going to be intelligent enough to consider alternative relationships?
Bringing another person into your relationship is not all about sex. Why can't husbands and wives share the same partner and grow together instead of sneaking around?
Wives/Girlfriends would get more insight into their men if they were open to meeting the women their men were attracted to. Not to mention, avoiding the humiliation of being in the same room with the woman your man was creeping with.
Is it possible for your man to be in love with and committed to more than one woman? Assuming he is mentally, sexually, and financially able to support them, what's the problem?
And as the Other Woman, why let go of a man you are extremely compatible with just because he's involved, IF he's willing to introduce you to his current partner? This will allow everyone to be honest about his or her feelings and expectations. No more sneaking around to text, e-mail, or call. And no more fake business trips for secret rendezvous! WE will see you in New York, because, WE are dating. lol
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Comment by Sunshine on July 1, 2009 at 9:21pm -
I have never had a problem with my husband having another woman. As a matter of fact, I was the one who brought it up to him. As long as he takes care of home, then I'm good. I have met every woman that he has been involved with. He has never been the type to take advantage of this situation. If he were, I probably would not be okay with it. I actually ended up being really good friends with the last woman he was with. We talked and texted all day long, the three of us did things together, we spent Christmas together. In the end, despite everyone being very happy, she couldn't get over what other people would think.
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Comment by cindy moore on June 24, 2009 at 10:12am -
i hear about swingers all the time. i am not for couples switching partners, but if two people are in agreement i think it is just fine, for them. many men are having secret relationships with other men or other women or both, and the same for women. i have a problem when the man is not honest about something this serious, and the same for the woman.
Will Smith and Jada are a beautiful couple. i have always wondered that he acts a bit questionable in his movies and in appearances. his wife Jada is beautiful also, but i always wondered about her sincerity of their marriage i just do not pick up a signal of deep, one on one love. i pick up a contract agreement between the two.
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Comment by Alan Smiley on June 23, 2009 at 4:53am -
I'll be very honest with you,this scenario sounds great but reality wise the sex might be great but in no way shape or form is one man ready to handle two women on a emotional level,also our ego's and our insecurities would ever be to a point for most men to allow another man into a relationship like this.With That said a relationship like this would mostly be of benefit to the man and over time after the sex started to wane so would the relationship for all parties involved,for me I know I'm not strong enough to see my woman intimate with another man or even another woman far as that goes!! So this could never work for me at best It would be better for me to have a threesome with two unrelated women and call it a day, if you skip to the chase really that's what excite men anyway, not really bringing it into a relationship!!
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Comment by ♥ Indypendence ♥ on June 23, 2009 at 12:22am -
In my opinion this is just too much.
Why not just stay single? Why get married if you want to date and be sexually involved with others?
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Comment by Carolyn "Cray" Griffin on June 23, 2009 at 12:06am -
I do date other woman with my husband I am secure in our marriage and do not have a problem with it. I go the strip club with my husband, and watch porn with him as well; hell we even make our own porn. There is open communication between us; there are ground rules and neither of us over looks them. I feel our relationship is stronger, there is no drama and we never go to bed mad at one another, if there is a problem it is discussed. There are a lot of women, who can not and will not deal with the situation, but at the end of the day only my husband and I pay the bills in our household and do not care what anyone thinks of what we do or how we live.
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Comment by trugodson on June 22, 2009 at 10:50pm -
if 70% of all men cheat and 60% of all women cheat. then this means everybody is getting their slice of the pie anyway, correct? so why try and remove the thrill of a side piece? it will be no longer interesting if it was no secret.
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Comment by onerarejewel on June 22, 2009 at 10:49pm -
I don't mind a man having female friends as long as they are only friends but not when they are using the friendship to cover up a more intimate relationship. That's just me. Other ladies might be accepting of a man with several women as his significant others.
However, I firmly believe if two people are giving their relationship their all - then there's no room for a third party period.
As an adult, who is honestly cool with being the main lady? I'm not for being anyone's primary partner. At this stage, the only place that I will accept is 1st and only.
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Comment by Jahnese D. on June 22, 2009 at 10:47pm
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i agree with tanya!!!!! I think communication is the real reason some marriages end in divorce! If you can't talk to one another then whats the use of being together. And I'm wondering this..............would men be acceptive if their girlfriends or wives invited another male into their relationship?! Men you got to think about the things you say before you say them.I KNOW most men wouldn't go for that and i don't see how you could or would think of something like that!
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Comment by Tanya Holmes on June 22, 2009 at 10:28pm -
People, let's just get over it. We can't have it all. Think of the 80/20 rule. Taking this type of action could leave you kicking yourself in the butt because you lost that 80 for the 20 you pursued. I have been married for 6 years and with my husband a total of 11. Everyone has their problems, due to lack of communication and what we each wanted, I have cheated and so has he, we have agreed to stay together, I think we both just looked for that 20 we were missing at the time. I have seen many successful marriages and even relationships without marriage go through the same thing. My grandmother has told me on multiple occasions she had to go look for my grandfather or put him out over another woman. That doesn't mean its right but history has a way of repeating itself. I think honesty and communication will solve a lot of these problems. If I'm not giving my husband what he needs, he should open his mouth and say something and vice versa. This is the ultimate case of closed mouths don't get fed!
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Comment by MarchShowers on June 22, 2009 at 10:20pm -
I think thats a good idea. I would date a couple, SURE. But I will admitt, I would not date another woman if I were married.
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