I had a mentor whom recently passed very young at 61. He was a wise brother from the streets whom had become a pastor of a church. He had told me years prior that he saw a great work that God had for me to do and we would spend an hour a week in "counseling" for lack of a better word.
At the time of this particular discussion came up I was in a relationship that I really wanted to work. He made a statement that "cheating and lust aren't always the manifestation of me cheating with another woman. But that cheating occurs in his opinion when a man or woman masturbates he or she cheats on their mate. As always he wasn't being crititcal in a bad way he even shared his struggle with the issue.
Personally I think in todays world for single people it's a neccesity to keep one away from potential dangerous std's or the drama of indulging with someone you perhaps shouldn't or wouldn't. But we're talking about with couples. to me I think the practice would reduce "real" cheating because it will satisfy urges at times. sort of ones personal meditaiton indeed oneplay can be satisfying-Hey I'll be honest i bought my left hand a big diamond.....:-...! but then there's always someone that overindulges to the point they don't or can't perform smh...but anyway I got to thinking if massturbation's cheating then I'm going to likely be a cheating mofo all my life and matter of fact there are going to be a lot of cheating mofo's and moffoettes around the world! what do you all think?