He’s a player, living in his mama’s basement: Grown men living like boys!

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Comment by Edwin Walcott Jr. on October 11, 2009 at 7:53pm

Anyone at age 21 plus who still lives with their parents are really not giving their parents a break. Mom and pop raised them to manhood and womanhood, now is the time the parents should be able to live their own lives without the burden of grown folks living in their home. Guys if not employed, are lazy and mooching off of being home, some women who are in school may be an exeption, the ones who stay at home and be expecting are trifling and planing on mom to be a livein babysitter, that is not fair to mom at all.

Comment by Darrell Joyce on September 29, 2009 at 9:53pm

All depends on the circumstances. There is always something we don't know.

Comment by Wood's Woman on September 29, 2009 at 9:25pm

Well, I See Color Fam,

I can speak to this a bit. My brother in law lives with us. We, my husband and I have always said that no one around us will ever need a place to stay. We have opened our home to a number of people, friends and family alike. None have lived with us longer than a little over a year. We don't ask for money, groceries...NOTHING. We figure, we can't ask you for money and then except for you to get on your feet. This joker though has been living with us for almost three years now and has no plan or desire to leave! My brother is 27 (a year younger than me) and has no desires in life. I think anytime a person wants to do "grown man things" they need to have thier own "grown man house!"

Comment by Deborah Brown on September 29, 2009 at 7:50pm

I think if a person is grown whether manor woman, they should be on their own,however, if they fall on hard times and need a little help from their parents, I don't see anything wrong with that. As long as everyone agrees upon the same terms.

Comment by Maria P. on September 29, 2009 at 6:17pm

In this economy living at home may be a good idea for both men and woman.

Comment by Tuca on September 29, 2009 at 6:13pm

Culture thing: kids have to get out at 18 ready or not.
I am brazilian and I don't think it is right. I left my parents's house because I moved here. Otherwise I would live only if I get married. Before I worked and I helped with house bills, I was not a free loader and I am totally against free loaders.

Comment by Tiffany Stephens on September 29, 2009 at 5:28pm

I have a frirend who is 28yrs old and he have had several cars every six months he get a new car. He have had 3 apartments and siad he is moving with his parents to save money. Okay, now he want me to put the house in my name WTF I guess because I'm 23 I'm stupid. Okay another situation he asked me to get a loan out and sign for him to get a motorcycle I kneo when he was growign up his parents gave him everything and even to this day if he asked his parents for anything they will try to break their necks for him and he is not the only child he have 2 older brothers and theytreat them the same way. Both his parents wonder why neither of their sons are married and the one that is married he is trying to marry another woman WTF!!! Anyway once a man get a certain age his parents whould make him do something with his life go to school and get a job if they were supportative when he was younger they wont have a problem putting him out their house, instead they just gave him everything to get him out their face. My mom have a rule if the girls have a problem they can come home for a while but my brother she told him to figure it out and make it because its really different out here for a man then a woman.

Comment by Hershey Kiss on September 29, 2009 at 4:23pm

As a black man who was raised by both parents up until the age of 14, I can offer you my personal experience. My daddy had me and my brothers hustling from a very early age. What I mean by hustling is when we were old enough we would go to neighborhoods to cut grass in the summer and shovel snow in the winter. During the summer months we would get one of those summer jobs.

By the age of 18 I had completed high school and decided to go to college instead of the armed forces. Graduated from college. My point is the way a child is raised has a lot to do with how they conduct themselves.

There are situations where a man or woman may have to move back home - such as a sick parent..college graduate who having a hard time finding employment in today job market or maybe that person needs to pay off college debt. These situations should not last for years.

For the past 20 years there have been an increase in the number of single mothers. These mothers as we know have a very hard time trying to keep together. But the one big flaw I have noticed is how these mothers "baby" their sons.They don't learn much about responsibility from home or school and now we reaping the consequences. Also the single mother may enjoy the presence of a "man" in the house and I use the word man loosely. For a man should leave the nest and build his own.

Comment by Lashana Joyner on September 29, 2009 at 3:39pm

My older brother still lives with my mother. He has nothing and will not amount to anything if she continues this bad habit. He is 39 and I only know him having a 2 jobs in his life, where he actually used his social security number. Not too long ago, he had his wife and kids staying with my mother as well. She took care of all those heads. Now the wife is asking for a divorce and he continues to stay with my mom. I am the only girl of 4 brothers. There are 4 of us left and no one can get through to this brother. Cant teach an old dog new tricks. I feel sorry for his kids. They get taken care of by family and friends. It makes no sense. Need I mention that my mother has bought this son, same son age 39) 3 cars, 1 land rover, and 1 motorcycle. No one else has received this treatment from my mother. When we ask for help, she looks the other way. I really think I just had to vent. LOL

Comment by Bill James on September 29, 2009 at 2:50pm

No male ovr 21 should be living at home with his momma regardless of the circumstances, if the economy is bad its bad for his momma too, This crap about momma being sick "take momma home with you" As a man you must show some sign of being king and you can't be king in momma's house. We hear this garbage about "I'm helping momma" momma don't need that trifling bum she knows the business, propbably raised a numbr of kids and has been taking care of herself for many years. In my culture the mommas are loving these sons like they were lovers(yeah I'm black) some of these clowns are straight pimping their moms, eating sleeping and living free all while riding on rims that cost more than the car there attached to. These mothers are to blame and need to wake up because they are destroying the spineless losers they call sons

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