Domestic Violence

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Comment by Lovely on November 13, 2008 at 6:48pm

They can't be helped by us
I'm so glad that Micheal spoke about this today because I was going to make a suggestion about this for one of his shows.
I presently getting out of a situation of abuse. His way of abuse is threatening me. He calls me at work all day and asks me who's around your desk and and my boss is like, stop the phone calls or you're going to have to find another job. He kept saying who are you dating, and I would try to let him know that it was only him no one else. For a whole year we argued until on night he choked me and threatened me that I put him out and stayed at my freinds house for awhile. I spoke with him and tried again after that (stupidly) and it's not working. Like Micheal Baisden said, there is no way we can help them. They need to seek professional help. Now I'm hiding my car, not answering my phone (all the time), making my kids call me all day, the kids can't really go anywhere. I don't know what to do. He comes by my house and kicks my door at 4:30 in the morning and wakes up the whole house.

Comment by Sheila Shavonne Rowell on November 13, 2008 at 6:45pm

While married to my ex, we were both on active duty in the Army. Things changed once I had my second son, and he began to stay out more, drink more, and once we were stationed in Germany, he began to get high more, and ultimately physically abuse me, accuse me of others, and I prayed everyday, and finally, my prayers were answered. As he beat me under the table, my sons were in their room, something got me up, I grabbed a knife, just to scare him off, but I almost cut his eye out and did not realize it until he sat on the couch quietly and bleeding. I felt bad, but relieved that all was not that bad. Knowing that I would not take the abuse anymore, we split, and I thank God that my sons did not grow up to abuse women, (they are 34 and 27 and on active duty Air Force and Army), and I have been single for 21 years and loving it. But, back in the early 80s, one of my mother's first cousin had been a widow for nearly 10 years when she began to date this African brother. He was good to her, but finally became too good to be true. He would stalk her at work, while she visited relatives and shopped. He became too possessive and violent, so she told him that they needed to take a break. He would still stalk her, place large amounts of money through her mail slot, although she really didn't need money, for she worked at the Chevy plant in St. Louis, MO. One day as she was getting ready to turn the ignition switch on in her car, he popped up at her window, pulled the trigger to her head, and she died instantly. This was heart-breaking and horrible, and he is now in prison still, I believe. I would rather live alone until the end rather than go through any type of abuse again, it is just not worth it, and no one loves you so much that they have to hurt you emotionally, physically, mentally or spiritually, we as human beings are woth more than that.