Is it wrong for a single man to decide to only date women without children?
By the time a man is in his 30s most of the women his age have children. Either they got them when they were in their late teens or early twenties. I dont want to make anyone feel like their children are liabilities when it comes to dating but when you meet a man who has no children, is it right to "expect" him to assume responsibility for your earlier life choices?
I believe that if a man is interested in a woman who has children then he should be prepared to treat her children as his own, but we all know there are issues that arise when dating people who have children with another person...whether that other person is actively in their lives or not. Issues the children have with their parent dating, issues with finances, issues with disciplining, etc., arent easy to deal with....not that they should be.
So, if a single man with no children decide that he only wants to date women who have no children, in order that they may build a life for themselves without prior baggage, he limits himself in his options since there are so few single women over 30 without children....but is it also disrespectful somehow to women who have been with men who basically didnt stay with them and take care of their responsibility? Is it a default penalty for the upcoming guy to bear the burden of another mans children and the womans mistake in the choice of previous men?
Ive met women who I gently rejected because they had children and they seem to really take it personally. I dont get it. Why? Why do women seem to think men are suppose to want them regardless of how they look, what they think or say, how they act, etc.? Why do so many seem to think that only men are supposed to "be prepared" for rejection?
How would you handle it? Would you ask upfront if a woman has children and then just not call her? Would you wait til youve gone on a date or slept together? If youre a woman with children and you met a man you thought was attractive and interesting enough to date, how would you want him to handle it?