Checking In: I love you, but you need to be a little sexier!

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Comment by Anita on February 2, 2010 at 5:50pm

This is a vital part of being in a marriage. I am always asking my significant other what do they want me to wear, not wear, do or whatever. I love making my man happy in and out of the bedroom. I am always searching the net having passion parties or attending them to get more ideas of how to shock my man into orbit. I love it.

Comment by Stephane on February 2, 2010 at 5:22pm

I'm not married, but if I'm with someone and we're about to be intimate, being intimate or even afterwards....if she's going to rub her feet against me, then they shouldn't be ripping the flesh off of me. Please. They should be soft and well maintained. Think Boomerang. If you can't get consistent pedicures, then go to CVS and buy the egg. Take care of them yourself. I don't think some women realize, some men are looking at everything.

Comment by CHERYL (BKA) Natural Beauty on February 2, 2010 at 3:27pm

Great topic! My dude is always telling me how fit I am even though I don’t work out and that I am so sexy and well put together. Well when we first got together, he was sexy as hell, like The Rock- the wrestler and now he really needs to get his sexy back! Don’t know if it’s all the coronas and Budweiser but he is starting to look a mess! And I fill as if a man wants his woman to be the baddest chick then he needs to step his game up and look his best for us as well.

The sad thing about it is, I’m starting to imagine his face on another man's body just get aroused lol!

Comment by Mark in the ATL on January 31, 2010 at 11:43pm

A popular comedian turned radio personality touched on this in his book. Women do need to keep themselves together once they get married. Too many women, and some men, tend to "let themselves go" after they get married. A little effort in "bringing sexy back" will go a long way in keeping the romance flame lit.

Comment by DeVaughn Irby on January 31, 2010 at 2:56pm

Being sexy is a figure of speech. Once time sets in and people start age all that sexy stuff seems ridiculous. Men still like what they like, but their wives and girlfriends won't stay looking that. Dressing like you did 20 years ago is silly. Try describing sophisticated rather than sexy. Sexy is for TV and the internet. Everyday people don't need to go through all that.

Comment by dynamite on January 31, 2010 at 2:00am

i was the one who let go of teh sexy in our marriage. i take full responsibity. I was in a car accident and used that crutch for about two years. My husband was very supportive. One day i noticed he was always cutting off his laptop when i entered, i have never been teh prying kind but i had to know. So i called to him one day saying dinner was ready. He came down as usual, and went up. When i opened it i almost cried. I was upset with me because i knew i had slipped. he was not looking at tiny women, but tall plus size, Queen latifah type,but women that look like me, or how i used to look. I pulled myself together and went to eat. Over dinner i tried to keep it to myself, but asked if he had cheated. I wanted to be mad, but really my personal inventory told me i was lacking alot. he said he loved me , thought about cheating but remembered our vows. I started working out and wearing the nighties i already owned. After loosing 18 pounda i treated my husband to a private show of his own. I sent hima link to a site that had who of all people, me posed various ways, showing him the things he was missing. After we burned a whole in the bed floor and counters, he told me that was confidence wa the sexiest thing about me, and when that left so dod his attraction. Things are much better now. This hint is not always a bad thing.