Can you change a "Ghetto Thug" into the " Perfect Gentleman"?




You meet a very nice and loving man. As you get to know him, you find that he is very ghetto, his friends are "hood rats" and even his family is ghetto as hell! Your disappointed. How can this kind, sweet man have the mind set of someone who only sees the world as what's happening on the block? You think," this has to be some kind of mistake" or "am I being punked?"

Your nice and loving man has been raised in the ghetto and has ghetto mentality,but you see potential for greatness.

Can a woman change a "Ghetto Thug into the "Perfect Gentleman",and if so, HOW?

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Comment by TNPATL on June 21, 2009 at 12:22am
If you can't accept a man AS IS, then know you can't change him. A man who truly wants to change will take the steps to do so on his own.
Comment by Chunky Love on June 20, 2009 at 7:46pm
No! A woman can't change a man. All you can do is expose him to another lifestyle that is not a reflection of his block. But set a time frame that you are willing to invest into this man. If he doesn't start to act less ghetto, then that lifestyle is apart of his core personality.
Comment by dremac1.0 on June 20, 2009 at 9:34am
People don't change. they just decide to stop doing whatever it was they were doing. Sort of like an alcoholic. one day those women who love those thugs will learn it does not work out the majority of the time
Comment by Andigirl3 on June 20, 2009 at 6:36am
Don't waste your time. My ex was straight up thuggish and tried to move to the country by getting out of the hood he was from. Did he change? Hell no. He still had that thug mentality and moved his hood rat family in our home without consulting me. I felt direspected and I felt like a stranger in my own home. Girl, don't waste your time or your sanity by thinking you can change him. Save yourself now. RUN GIRL RUN. I'm dead serious. My family and I lost ALOT because I thought that my ex was a good man and had potential.
Comment by Renée on June 19, 2009 at 10:39pm
I do believe that individuals can change. In order to change, the individual has to want to make that change for himself. No one person is responsible for changing anyone else. A person can offer support and encourage the person who is wanting to change. Having someone who believes in you is sometimes all it takes for the person to stay on track.
Comment by BIG-BAD-SAM on June 19, 2009 at 10:03pm
ONLY GOD CAN REALLY CHANGE A PERSON. IF WE TRY TO DO IT,ALL WE MAY DO IS MAKE THINGS WORSE. I KNOW FOLKS BOTH MEN AND WOMEN THAT CAME FROM SHADY BACKGROUNDS. WE MAY BE ABLE CHANGE A PERSON TEMPORARILY. BUT REAL CHANGE COMES FROM GOD AND DONT MATTER IF THAT PERSON IS A THUG,HOOD RAT,CRACK HEAD,ETC...
IF WANT THE CHANGE TO LAST THEN LET GOD DO IT.


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