Black/Latino Connection: Are Latina women more likely to hike the ball than a Black woman?

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Comment by Sasha on August 11, 2009 at 8:50pm

No, what’s wrong with the family structure in my opinion (Not to be rude Muriel) is that men are not stepping up and handling their responsibilities. They’re not being good examples for their children, they’re not raising their children and they’re not taking their time and picking the right women to wed and start a family with. I get so sick and tired of hearing some of these men talk about how bad ALL women are and how we don’t know how to cook, clean, and take care of house and home, but they fail to understand that they pick these women to lay with and produce life with. These men chose these women who’re of no values or standards because she ‘gave him the eye’ or was ‘talkin about it’ and now he has a child from a crazy woman. These men care more about the ‘act’ that brings forward life than they do the consequences that comes along with creating life with a woman who’s emotionally, psychologically, and possibly physically unstable.

Don’t leave these women out either. Some women are so caught up in the idea of having ‘a man’ that they’ll settle for anybody just to be able to say they have somebody. I don’t know why it’s such a ‘cut down’ in our community (the black community) to tell a black woman “that’s why you don’t have a man”. But the funny part about this ‘insult’ is, the same people who tell these single women this are the people who either have multiple children from multiple partners, married and cheating (married man with a single mans mentality) or both A. and B.

We as black people don’t take our time any more. We want someone to lay with us in the biblical since without doing the work (conducting the research) that it takes to both be patient and wait. Learn who this woman or man is that you’re lusting (because it’s not love) after and figure out how he/she will be if you where to get married and have kids. Wait! Wait for a man or woman who’s hubby or wifey material to cross your path; think about the future and not just about the ‘here and now’. This is one of the reasons why we have women who’re not willing to ‘hike’ the ball because they’ve had so many run ins, relationships and bad experiences with men who’s arm is not strong enough to pass the ball for a TD (meaning he lacks morals, he has no standards, tact, or respect for himself or her). It’s not about the man leading as much as it is finding a man (or allowing him to find you) who’s worthy enough to lead. AND brotha’s waiting to find a woman who’s willing to go out for the pass or block for you just in case you have to scramble out of the pocket to keep from getting sacked.

When you fully examine this whole football analogy, you realize it’s all about team work. It’s all about both parties working together to come find a means to a better end. Meaning no one has dominion or higher authority over the other, because one hand can’t wash itself without the other. A quarterback can’t score a touchdown without his wide receiver, or his nose tackle hiking him the ball. He needs his offensive line; he needs his tight ends, running backs and receivers. There are so many intricate details that go into an overall successful, completed pass than just a quarterback having a good arm and telling a receiver ‘go long’. There has to be team work, there has to be a game plan and there has to be communications between the players on the field. A quarter back alone does not win the game MB.

Comment by CJfrom Jersey on August 11, 2009 at 8:50pm

No diffrents a ball is a ball its the way you point it.lol

Comment by Muriel on August 11, 2009 at 8:17pm

I do belive it all depends on how you were brought up. Not as much about race. I have very strong men in my family. However, the women are just as strong. Old school value are very important to me. I belived that men should lead the family. This is what is wrong with the family structure today.

Comment by Sasha on August 11, 2009 at 8:16pm

People, honestly, what’s the big deal. Find someone you’re compatible with who sees life, love and relationships the same as yourself so you don’t have this constant struggle over who’s the boss and who’s not

Comment by Sasha on August 11, 2009 at 8:11pm

Are you guys serious? Why are we still even talking about this? As Krisy stated (a Latina), it all depends on the individual and what she feels (or deems) should be the dynamics of her relationships. It amazes me how you guys have failed to mention the black women who did say that their men are the ‘boss’ and they’re second in command. And honestly, that’s their business. That’s the way they chose to live their lives so who cares?

But again, I have to ask; what’s the point? Out of all the serious topics of discussion (real issues that need to be addressed in marriages) why are we focusing on who’s the boss? And you can dress it up any way you like too, in calling yourself (or someone in the relationship) boss, you (meaning men) are placing yourselves above that of your woman. IT’s not a partnership if the husband calls all the shots and has all the say. And I personally wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where the only thing I can do is suggest things and he ‘take it into consideration’ Now, I’m not going to tell him what to do, who to dress and how to live, but I won’t be catching no passes anytime soon either. I have a great arm, I can throw a ‘hail marry’ in the last seconds of OT too (LOL). But when you instruct someone to ‘go long’ you are being bossy, because that’s what a quarterback is equivalent to, the field boss. He is the commander or leader of his team when they’re on the field. There for he can be bossy because he calls all the plays in the huddle and all the shots that he gets directly from the coach or offensive coordinator on the sideline. The team mates have no say in what’s going to happen next. The same in a marriage! If the man has the final say (regardless of what the second in command recommends) he is bossy; because he tells her what to do and when to do it. Simple as that.

Why does it have to be that way? Why does it have to be a constant power struggle between men and women? Why can’t we be seen as equals in the relationship/engagement/marriage and just call it a day. Wearing the title ‘boss’ is nowhere near as important as finding a mate that will be there for you when you need them most, love you, and respect you. When it’s all said and done, the two of you have to work together to make decisions that best for both your marriage and your family, and it takes both the man and woman to do that. GET OVER IT please! Is it really serious enough to constantly revisit this same issue over and over again when there are so many more important things in this world that can and should be addressed. If you’re a good man, handling your responsibility, being faithful to your wife and taking care of your kids then you have nothing to worry about (if you have chosen a virtuous woman to wed). No need for titles, because people who’re happy in their marriage don’t even think twice about such non-sense. Only people who have self-esteem issues and need that validation (manly reassurance) care about petty stuff like that.

Comment by Charles Only on August 11, 2009 at 7:34pm

Being from Brooklyn and having dated Latina Sistas, they support their man more and are more sexual, with less inhibitions.

Comment by Krisy on August 11, 2009 at 5:26pm

I’m a Hispanic woman and I do not believe that it has to do with race! Every male and female has there own opinion on how they treat there significant other, I do not believe that a specific type of the race determines how a woman treats her man sexually or relationship wise I.E. stereo types, I believe that it has to do with the type of woman and how she feels in the relationship that she is in. Not every Hispanic woman or man is raised the same way, that’s like saying every person of a specific type of race acts the same and has the same beliefs. Every person has a different personality and views about different situations weather its about love, sex, money, ect... No one specific type of race treats the significant other the same as the next person in that same race. Every one is different and has there own views and beliefs when it comes to sex and relationships… Hispanic or not the race does not determine how you treat your significant other or how open your sexual life is with that person, it has to do with the person itself! I’m in a relationship with a black man and my personal opinion I believe that a relationship is all about team work,(no matter the type of race) I expect my man to support me as well as I support him if he says hike hike I’m going to take the ball all the way to get the touch down! I do believe that the man is the boss in the household, it says so in the bible… but he is not to disrespect me just because he is the boss, I cater to my man as he caters to me as well its all about keeping each other happy and staying in love. He treats me as his queen as I treat him as my King, he appreciates me just as much as I appreciate him, and we both love and respect each other. So once again I am going to say it has nothing to do with race! Its all in the person and what there personal views are on love, life, and relationships. A black woman can be just as wonderful as the next, same saying goes for all other races, as well as being the worst its all on the person! Your race should not determine off the bat what is expected of you just because of stereo types and rumors, its not rite and its not fair… stereo types like that and rumors make people who feed into that information make it hard for GOOD WOMAN AND MEN to come into their lives.

Comment by Kevin Golden on August 11, 2009 at 5:19pm

Micheal Man, I am married to a Latino women in which we have 2 kids. We have had some differences raising them but it wasn't necassary because of culture. My wife doesn't speak spanish and made it clear to me when we got together I was like "hey don't cus me out in spanish". Hell she said I don't speak spanish I want you to understand what I have to tell yo ass. But she will hike the ball at times and her family is more modern than the typical American Mexican. I enjoy dancing at the Mexican parties but the real issue is the Mexican men are jealous as hell of their women, so you have to watch them when you are around them. Even though they don't even know your women. So my deal is they will hike the ball most of the time but when you make them mad they snap. She told me that little Mexican men are to controlling so her sisters and her dated anyone they liked. Micheal she too damn modern though I don't get know Mexican Food, but I love my Mexican Wife and I am attracted to all Latino good looking women. Not the little fat ones though. LOL LOL George Wutzzzz Up. Kevin G.

Comment by Special Kaye on August 11, 2009 at 5:08pm

Unfortunately, overall as a whole I think it depends on the age group. There are a lot of younger women (under 30) don't really know how to cook. I mean really cook at least a four course meal. And don't think about asking for anything homemade. As for cleaning, they may know how to straighten up, but not do thorough cleaning. As far as black women being lazy, sure there are some, maybe a lot, but I wouldn't say it's the majority. But I would go as far to say, that Black women are very head strong, dominant, loud and somewhat mean or firm. Test it. Go to a crowded mall and just sit in the food court and watch. Look at the different groups. Although, most there are probably teens or early twenties, but they will be same when they are older, unless they have a good mentor.

Comment by wanda l cortes on August 11, 2009 at 5:06pm

the reason Latino men don't date black women more often is because black women don't put up with bs.
an educated black women is a builder of her family,community and church,and will not cater to ego building.
I am a black Cuban Jamaican woman,that has been married to a Mexican man for 23 years.

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