Are your family members jealous of your success?


Ok..this will be good for those who have the problem and for those who deal with them...

What are the signs of jealousy...do you know family members or friends who are jealous of you? How do you deal with them.

Is it possible that one can be jealous and not know it?

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Comment by Carol DuBois on April 20, 2013 at 4:54pm

I feel sorry for my friend she comes to me crying about the jealousy her cousins have toward her.  She feel they talk about her behind her back and they are verycompetitive toward her.  They keep her out of importain family issues if it is anything negative about them. They bring up things she has done in the pass every opportunity they get and try to embrass her around others.  They are not interested in anything she does unless she is sick.  I told her to keep her distance don't get involved with them anymore.  Just say hello and try to stay away from family events if she feels she won't be comfortable.  Did I tell the the right thing?  She is a wonderful person and does not deserve to be treated that way.

Comment by Miss Lovely on November 30, 2012 at 4:10pm

It's so sad when you have family members that is like that cause one of my family is jealous of how i look that is crazy and when i have a nice man in my life my aunt is jealous cause she want her daughter too have the same and they mad cause i don't have kids like everybody else keep having children by bunch of guys that is not me I want too be married when i give birth to my first child I just see things on another level

Comment by Blessd 1 on July 22, 2009 at 10:33pm
Unfortunately sum ppl dont like to c others succeed , i jus pray 4 them & keep a smile
Comment by rebecca allen on July 22, 2009 at 6:39pm
While I would love to say everyone in my family is supportive of me and we all walk off happily ever after-I can't! I have always been a beautiful person, inside and out with terrific potential for great things and in great physical and mental shape. I know it and they know it-they can feel and see it. But they try to quench it by putting me down, (even to my ex mates) by saying I am negative when I try to discuss a subject that might be contrary to theirs. To top it all off, I am of Christian belief.....enter the "shes crazy syndrome" they have draped around me and told others these things. But my Christianity will not let me hate on them. I react with love and positivity toward them. But this "poison" they have exhibited towards me have undermined everything I have tried to do-including raising my children. When I try to let my kids go around them or try to have a relationship with them, they fill their heads with this poison which affects my ability to influence them the way I should. They begin to react negatively towards me and the rules I try to put into effect for their lives. So, I come to the conclusion, I should stay away from them, and handle them with a long handle spoon, but that isolates us from them and vice verse, leaving us with no real family interaction. So, everybodys lonely, and frustrated not able to get past this "Iron fist of jealousy" that comes down on us everytime I try to get past it.It seems to follow me where ever I go. Now others that are not even in my family begin to act in a all to "familiar way" without really knowing why. I have a dream of being a singer, and being a literary writer and opening my own business etc....No man is an island and many times it takes two to tango. What would you do?
Comment by Adilah Salaam on July 22, 2009 at 4:44pm
I think my immediately family is great. I don't share my plans or goals with anyone I can't trust. I tend to stay away from the negative and try my best live a drama free life. There will always be haters but I have to keep it moving.
Comment by Sheilah on July 22, 2009 at 4:43pm
I have a sister who exhibits jealousy in NOT acknowledging anything you say that is positive information you wish to share. A recent example played out like this: "We are getting married in April, (showing engagement ring), instead of diamonds, we decided to go the Biblical route and have rubies as a constant reminder that the wife is more valuable than rubies." This conversation was over the phone. This same sister came over the house and I showed my little ruby chips in my engagement ring. Do you know ever finger on her hand held big ruby rings either polished or unpolished rubies. She made a big effort to throw them up in our faces when she came through the door. When I finally got to show my ring, she said "Umhm" and flashed her hand. When she left, my fiance and I discussed it and I told him she always acts like she's competing with everything I do and say. It was his suggestion that she was jealous. But it makes sense. I never prooffer any good news and she just seems to shine by talking of her good news without any input from anyone else.
Comment by Kamiikia on July 22, 2009 at 4:11pm
I think a big sign of jealousy is when family members start off by saying, "You think you pretty" or "You think cause you have a degree, you are all that!" When you flip, it's actually what they are thinking. Another sign is negativity and backstabbing.
Honestly, I don't deal with my family other than my Mom and sisters and a few cousins. Simply because my parents had to deal with family members jealous of them from both sides.
The key to dealing with them is don't with them or say hello and keep it moving.
I think one way they can not know it if it is embedded from generation to generation.
Comment by Cute&Sexy on July 22, 2009 at 11:22am
Nope. My family is far from jealous. We encourage one another. We talk to each other openly about finances and congratulate one another on successes. People outside my immediate family has said that I think I'm better then them, but I let that roll off my shoulder. I love my family and how close we are to one another.
Comment by TANYA B on July 22, 2009 at 10:59am
YES, I HIRED MY SISTER, SHE WORK 4 BOUT A YEAR AND BUSINESS GOT SLOW SO I HAD 2 LAY HER OFF I TOLD HER JUST 4 A MINUTE TIL BUSINESS PICK UP, ALL HELL BROKE LOSE SHE CUS ME DIRTY TOLD ME I THINK IM BETTER THE WHOLE NINE YARDS. BUT U FOR GIVE BUT U WILL NEVER FORGET IT.SO EVENTUALLY WE STARTED BACK TALKING AGAIN. BUT NOW SHE IS NOT SPEAKING 2 ME AGAIN BECAUSE I KNEW HER DAUGHTER WAS EXPECTING B FORE SHE DID, HER DAUGHTER IS 19. WE ARE IN OUR 40'S SO WHEN WILL IT END.
Comment by Carmar on July 22, 2009 at 9:00am
I am glad to see this post and to see that it's not just my family. I thought that all of the trifling, jealous people were related to me! When family members lie, gossip, and try to tear you down just remember that you must be doing something right or else you wouldn't be such a concern to them. A minister spoke on this very topic recently at my church and stated "DOGS DON'T CHASE AFTER PARKED CARS ! "


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