ow see this, " Charity (Love) suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;" and this "Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves." So what is to deny oneself but to love others and esteem others above oneself. What is it to take up the cross but to love...charity suffereth long and is KIND. Shalom. So it is the same commandment to love one another as Christ has loved us. Shalom a Shalom.