Good or bad?

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Wow this is a great question....that I would like to know the answer to also...

I think if it is done privately (alone), it's good.  And not for someone else's satisfaction.  Once I was saved & celibate for two years.  Then I woke up one day and my hormones had peaked.  I gave in to someone and ended up in a spiritual fallen state that took me years to overcome.  I wish I had just masturbated and got pass it instead of entering into a physical relationship with someone.  I lost so, so much spiritually and live in regret for a long time. 

i struggle with this also. not really knowing if masturbation is wrong or right.i am not wanting to do something that is going to mess me up spiritually.

Hi, if I'm not mistaken; I'm pretty sure that God warns against self pleasure, but don't quote me. Me myself, I don't do it.

Hello Fam... Good God Blessed Sunday.

As someone who has been celibate 9 years, and having used to been a counselor to college students where we discussed everything from time management to finances, to date rape and sex and STD's and the list goes on and on,,, I think that we need to look at our bodies and our sexuality realistically and healthy. We as people tend to float the river of denial or demonize something that we do not want to take responsibility for or are not willing to accept,,, and as black people our communities are being destroyed by all the taboos and confusing messages and poor decisions we are making and let being made by others and placed upon us. I believe God gave us our bodies as temples in which to facilitate his love and values and laws through. The temple is sacred and we should protect it and maintain it and keep our souls as pure as possible (being human we are going to live with sin and we are going to be flawed...only God has a perfect, 100% pure soul) and that is where remaining celibate outside of marriage comes in,, but we do have hormones and feelings and we are in fleshly bodies and so God does understand that as humans we are going to live as such and humans do have hormones and go through puberty and our fleshly bodies desire physical intimacy and sex. Just as we have ostricized and punished and demonized our youth for expressing their confusing feelings and for following through with the physical desires they feel to be physically pleased by others, we have done it to ourselves as well. I do NOT think there is anything wrong with someone exploring their own body and for satisfying the feelings they have in regards to physical intimacy by way of exploration and masturbation. I think we should be talking with our kids more about these options and then practicing what we preach (i know us here in the group do but I mean on a grander scale among black people) and if we could stop making them fee they are horrible human beings that will rot in a burning hell for touching themselves or for trying to understand the changes their bodies are going through and for denying and surpressing their natural, God given feelings we might not have so many problems with teen pregnancy, and disease etc. in our comunities. I think not that we should just tell people to go out and masturbate, but I think we should allow and be more open to accepting and understanding a person getting to know their own body and to learn how to satisfy their own needs so that they will actually be better once they find their mate sent by God and get married to engage in sex with the other person.

I think kids should masturbate as should us adults. You cannot get yourself pregnant, and you cannot give yourself a disease. You hopefully know where your own hands have been... LOL! But seriously, I think that when we deny God given feelings (including men thinking they are NOT masculine or manly or straight if they express emotions especially crying) we are denying God and we are saying he does not know what is best for us and we are not honoring him. I mean I understand men being men and all that, but I am just saying the reason our society has decayed so badly and why men and women are so disconnected with each other is because we are disconnected with ourselves. I mean if you are disgusted by your own body and you do not like the desires and feelings you experience within yourself, why would anyone else. If I am unable to touch my own body, why would I think a man would ever want to touch it? Just saying!

 

So to come right out and answer the question, YES I THINK MASTURBATION IS OK. I think if you have to choose between self pleasure and being frustrated, confused or turning to other options then MASTURBATE, MASTURBATE, MASTURBATE!

@ amber i really like and agree with your comment. what you said about masturbation really helped me because i have been struggling with to do it or not to do it.i am a normal female with desires and feelings but i want to keep making better choices about my life and of course my body.
When it comes to masturbating, I leave it up to each person. What i may feel about it, you may feel different. We all have a conscience, and you are the only one who have to live with the decision you make. Be blessed:)
I do it. No guilt. And don't say , but you're a male.
@Ray, it does not matter if you are a male or female, if one has no guilt thats on them. Some get convicted while it does not bother others. What works for you is all good with me:)
its always bad .... !!!
Maturbation is much safer physically and emotionally than having sex with someone who doesn't care about you and getting out of God's will.  And, it's just not for young people ... it's for people period!  Ages 0-199.

Ms.Lisa,

that's your (idealogy) god .... the God of Christianity has "sex" in within marriage never self gratification !!!

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