Are purity rings only for virgins?

I have been celebate for nearly two years and now my twelve year old son is interested in dating so of course I had to have "the talk" with him again just as a refresher. I was thinking of getting him a purity ring and when I looked at them I saw a couple that I liked and I wonder if it was only for virgins. I thought it would be something we could do together just so he knows I am practicing what I will be preaching to him.

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Permalink Reply by Mary on August 15, 2011 at 10:58pm

Shadow who said the ring would be an insult? My son is currently in the big brothers big sisters program and he has a male in his life but I am his parent so since I am not a man I have to make choices that I feel will be best for him. As far as the man or a husband thing for me goes..... if you are asking for my hand I will accept otherwise I am still a single mom. I dont see the ring as anything other than a reminder of a commitment just as when a couple gets married the have a ring that is a symbol of their commitment to each other, I really wish you would try to speak clearly when you respond just so I can see your point, and you never did say why you said the ring would deflect the male role.

Permalink Reply by the SHADOW on August 16, 2011 at 9:35am

Mary,

when there is a MAN around preferrably a husband in the home or .... a PlanB, "big brothers", it resolves your boy into becoming a MAN .... a ring, ear-ring or like objects is ridiculous, for it replaces (deflects) the role of a MAN or MEN that's the insult .... you understand this whether you accept it is another issue .... ask your dad (smiles) ....

Permalink Reply by Mzjubilee2u on August 19, 2011 at 6:37pm

@Mary, he sounds like a hurt puppy who needs to take his anger out on any post. We don't owe them any explanation. I am a woman , therefore I understand. My son also had men who mentor him, I don't have to explain anything to someone who may not have children, therefore taking out his frustration on us wishing he could discipline his own. Men who talk like this have a pain within he has not dealt with therefore he lashes out at woman and their sons. Maybe his daddy was absent and he is wishing on a thought.

Permalink Reply by Mildred Combs Haslett on August 13, 2011 at 9:55pm

Do you mean that a positive male role model will be more suitable for a boy than a purity ring? Also, are you saying that women keep men away by wearing the purity ring? Just wanting to understand your message, which is a bit cryptic, Shadow :o)

Permalink Reply by Mary on August 13, 2011 at 10:07pm

Thanks girl I thought it was just me that was lost.

Permalink Reply by Mzjubilee2u on August 15, 2011 at 7:47pm

@Mary, Some things you have to overlook. We are walking in abstinance, dont know if he is. Really dont know if he is a man or woman. Anyone with no face has negitive comments means, why address his words when they are not man or woman enough to put up a pcture. We as woman find the ring to be a good thing. Instead of feeding into his words, pay him no mind and let him talk to his self or her self:)

Permalink Reply by the SHADOW on September 7, 2011 at 1:05pm

Mildred,

people not things (correct) .... things don't love back .... yes, "women keep men away by wearing the purity ring" .... yes, it's unconscience .... your motive is right, but method is wrong ....

Permalink Reply by Mildred Combs Haslett on September 7, 2011 at 3:34pm

Thank you for clarifying.

Permalink Reply by Mildred Combs Haslett on August 20, 2011 at 11:44pm

This discussion can remain civil, I'm sure. I believe we are able to disagree without being disagreeable. Mary and Mzjubilee2u, you are both so sweet. I do understand how certain posts may seem to be an attack on your parenting/values.

Shadow, I sincerely hope you did not mean to antagonize these women with the statements you made. I would hope you saw this discussion as an opportunity for you to present the male point of view. Some of the things you've said, however, seem to be questioning the way young men are/have been raised by these women. We don't have the benefit of facial expressions or tone of voice when we communicate online. Please consider how your words may be construed.

Permalink Reply by Mary on August 21, 2011 at 4:39pm

I asked the question so get some feelers on the topic but when it is said and done I will have the final say as far as what is best for my children. I would love to have a mans point of view on this I think he was just being mean.

Permalink Reply by Mzjubilee2u on August 22, 2011 at 6:53pm

@ Mary, I will wait on a man who knows who he is and he will be more supportive, more then trying to put us down. He has some personal issues he is dealing with his self. A real man will be supported. A man who had issues in his own life cant see the supportive side if he never had any. I will pay him no mind.

Are purity rings only for virgins?

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