As single women, so many of us are praying for that saved man. A man of Christ. A man with Christ's heart. Yet we rarley stop and take the time day to day, to make sure we as women are developing the characteristics of a virtuous woman.

Disclaimer: I am not challenging anyone's walk, just trying to get some more conversation going...LOL...

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Good question Miss T. We always hear about what the woman is looking for, but I rarely hear about what a Godly man is looking for.

V
I am looking for the same thing a woman is looking for. God fearing,honesty,trust worthy, compassionate,submissive...etc It is just easier to please a man but now we just aren't settling.
Hey All, I believe that in order to truly be blessed with a saved man that we as women must be God centered first. We have to be prepared to help, encourage and support him as he walks with the Lord. Needless to say that preparation can only be learned by reading God's Word and praying to Him for direction. We must be able to pray him up when we aren't even sure what is wrong with him. We must be able to understand that God's Will for that man is first and we are second. Most men don't want stressful relationships and we need to let God work on us and mold us into Godly women that will provide a stress-free environment. To be the Godly woman that every Godly man needs will only come through prayer and supplication. Be blessed and seek God in all that you do.
Where are all the Godly men at on this site? I must say, I am truly disappointed at the lack of response to this question. If you're out there, I challenge you to step up and respond to this discussion forum. We are waiting to hear from you guys. You got the floor, now speak....

Vee
Sydfoxx, I wouldn't say that I was necessarily concerned, however, I am very curious.

sydfoxx said:
I am still trying to figure out why (other than Biblical order, I guess) a woman needs to be concerned with what a man is looking for.. My thing is this: If you are somewhere being all that God has called you to be... The man will see you..But I am a radical Christian..I feel like Ruth. I don't feel like I should have to wait... If I present myself and make myself available as Ruth did with Boaz (cause ya'll know she picked him) am I wrong... If I see a decent God fearing man, doing his thing for Jesus, loving the Lord not concerned with what who has to say..Honorable reputation, clean, dresses nice, looks decent....am I wrong for putting myself in his path..He just may my "kinsman redeemer".... you never know if you keep sitting around waiting on him to approach you... I know that Proverbs says that HE that FINDETH a wife...../ But it did not say you could not help him find you..I'm just saying and giving all you God-fearing ladies somethingto think on.....
Thank you Purpose! I was really looking foward to many responses to this question. Come on fellas!

Purpose Driven Woman said:
Where are all the Godly men at on this site? I must say, I am truly disappointed at the lack of response to this question. If you're out there, I challenge you to step up and respond to this discussion forum. We are waiting to hear from you guys. You got the floor, now speak....

Vee
Thank you so very much for your response. I really feel this is the chance for men and women to have an open dialogue discussion about what we are looking for within the body. And I agree whole heartedly with what you said Christopher. We should have just as much discussion going on in this forum as the "other" forums. (If you know what I mean)

I like to ask questions that will make us stop and examin ourselves. Self reflection is a must in our daily walk.

To the men who have dated within the church, what has been you experience with women?

Christopher said:
God Bless awesome Question "T" with many or even endless number of right responses! I can only speak for myself though, and I can only say I'm looking for a woman who is totally in Love with Jesus Christ and, when we fall in Love with each other; that she will always be more in Love with Christ than she is with me and vice-versa because I believe this is the only way any of us can have a lasting Love!
Thank you Sydfoxx, you opened my eyes. For I have been looking at Proverbs 18:22 in another light. I appreciate your comment and to me a revelation. To God Be The Glory!

sydfoxx said:
I am still trying to figure out why (other than Biblical order, I guess) a woman needs to be concerned with what a man is looking for.. My thing is this: If you are somewhere being all that God has called you to be... The man will see you..But I am a radical Christian..I feel like Ruth. I don't feel like I should have to wait... If I present myself and make myself available as Ruth did with Boaz (cause ya'll know she picked him) am I wrong... If I see a decent God fearing man, doing his thing for Jesus, loving the Lord not concerned with what who has to say..Honorable reputation, clean, dresses nice, looks decent....am I wrong for putting myself in his path..He just may my "kinsman redeemer".... you never know if you keep sitting around waiting on him to approach you... I know that Proverbs says that HE that FINDETH a wife...../ But it did not say you could not help him find you..I'm just saying and giving all you God-fearing ladies somethingto think on.....
Great question T. I would like to hear more from the men to see if I'm on the mark here. I think like in all things we are believing God for, we have to have a passionate pursuit of Him first. When we are wrapped up in love with Him, we will be walking towards our purpose in life--whatever that is for each of us. Of course that means being conformed into the image of Christ, but I believe as we allow Him to mold us and shape us on the Potter's Wheel, as we are developing into who He created us to be, we will have peace, contentment and joy. We are being developed from the inside out and continuing to work on ourselves as we wait. I believe when we are in that place, it will cause us to be found. If he is a godly man, I think he'd be looking for a Proverbs 31 woman bearing fruit with purpose. Brothas, am I close?
Okay, I have to be a little carnal here--I have been told that men are visual creatures. So men, again, help us sisters out. Would it be fair to say that if we kept ourselves looking nice and decent, that wouldn't hurt the "being found" process, would it? Now I mean in balance--not spending so much time on appearance that we are not working on the spiritual development and character growth, but in balance. I know I wouldn't be mad about having a godly man who kept himself up--just keeping it real.
WOW,

A Godly Woman that said what Ruth really did with BOAZ.

I think the issue with saved men and woman in most cases is both are being timid and not moving forward in searching out to be with their helpmate. In my case, I am looking for a helpmate, a person that can help me get to the next level and I can help her get to the next level. In that, we both have to have a God Purpose, but in most cases, we focus on only one of our God Purposes, that we loose track on our other purposes that God has available to us (like finding our helpmate) Like any man, most times he wants a person that has his back and can help him discern through the issues that the family is faced with. I want a woman to:

1. Strengthen my weakness
2. Be able to weather a storm with me because I will weather ANY STORM for her.
3. Have an understanding of HER GOD Purpose and be willing to understand mine. And this is one of the toughest ones, be willing to "release" her will as I must be able to "release" my will to each other for one "OUR" new purpose of "Staying Together"
4. Working with me to get what "SHE" wants out of our union (this one is so simple, it is scary, uplift "me" to get what "HER" hearts and wants are. And have the understanding, willingness and desire to be the same vessel for me.
5. All of this in the rules and perimeters that GOD has laid out to us.

That is what I look for in my Godly Woman.
ps. If all of that is poppin, then I believe all of the physical, sensual, emotional, security things should bless our union.

Holla atcha boy.


sydfoxx said:
I am still trying to figure out why (other than Biblical order, I guess) a woman needs to be concerned with what a man is looking for.. My thing is this: If you are somewhere being all that God has called you to be... The man will see you..But I am a radical Christian..I feel like Ruth. I don't feel like I should have to wait... If I present myself and make myself available as Ruth did with Boaz (cause ya'll know she picked him) am I wrong... If I see a decent God fearing man, doing his thing for Jesus, loving the Lord not concerned with what who has to say..Honorable reputation, clean, dresses nice, looks decent....am I wrong for putting myself in his path..He just may my "kinsman redeemer".... you never know if you keep sitting around waiting on him to approach you... I know that Proverbs says that HE that FINDETH a wife...../ But it did not say you could not help him find you..I'm just saying and giving all you God-fearing ladies somethingto think on.....
Now that's what I'm talking about. Amen James. You will find the your other half, of that I am sure. And Sydfoxx, I hear you loud and clear. There is absolutely nothing wrong with helping a situation along.

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