Why do some Black Men feel the need to degrade Black Women to justify dating women of other races?

Why do some Black Men feel the need to degrade Black Women to justify dating women of other races?  (got this from Baisden Live)

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Well..... I've never dated a White woman and every other nationality is "fair game". I've asked a LOT of Brothers a question very similar to yours. I usually ask "Why don't you date Black women.....

Both the young dudes and the older guys give me pretty much the same answer... Black Women are too much drama.

My "own" personal thoughts are..... There are quite a few things about Black Women that ARE Different\Unique, and there is so much about a Black woman's existence that isn't shared by other nationalities. To "me" that's a good thing but..... it can take a different mindset to handle the educated, and upwardly mobile Black Woman.

Some Black Men are just NOT up to the task.

Being employed, and educated is NOT enough... Black Men need to have a stronger "backbone" to handle the challenges which a Black women can bring. Other cultures aren't nearly as challenging... IMO
Both the young dudes and the older guys give me pretty much the same answer... Black Women are too much drama.


Blk...funny thing is....if you have ever seen some Italian, Jewish, Hispanic and White women in action....they make Boomquisha seem like a cool summer breeze.....And their men admit it.....For every kneegrow thinking there is greener pasture instead of just pasture, there is a Tiger Woods, OJ or Steve McNair to show them that WOMEN WILL BE WOMEN...put ANY woman in a phucked up situation, hurt or disrespect her and the tune "HELL HATH NO FURY...." will play in full stereo ......And what is more ironic when I asked non-black men the biggest reason they are apprehensive about dating sisters was, it was ALWAYS based on dealing with the "black males" in the family and NOTHING to do with "drama" SHE brings to the situation...cause they even understand that the man generally tends to bring the drama to the situation.......

There is also a growing trend amongst young African American women dating nonblack males.....

Over here on the East Coast...when we see interracial couples....it is less about what one race couldn't offer and more about what that person COULD offer to someone...
This is so true. The white women I work with are no joke and give their men and everybody else hell!!! And you can watch any court show daily and see a white woman taking a black man to court over some drama. So all of the talk about white women being a cake walk is BS.
Co-signing there Sweetp. I have known a couple of my caucasian sistas' i worked with that were married to or had a live in boyfriend with a black guy. All the good sexing. The oral pleasure myth that they are know for giving. Being very pleasing and submissive to their man might all be true. HOWEVER, when they mess up(i.e. get another woman pregnant, cheat, have a job for 3 months then quit out of nowhere, etc) they don't play that crap. It's over and they will take them to court for whatever they feel they deserve they lost in the relationship.

Everybody talked about Anna Nicole Smith very badly when she was married to that old dude. But she treated him well so he decided to put her in his will. She might have been ditzy(hopefully I spelled that right) but she fought tooth and f*****' nail for all the money she was promised and felt she was entitled to in that will with her husband's son. So please read the fine print when having preconceived notions when believing myths dating outside your race.
Blk...funny thing is....if you have ever seen some Italian, Jewish, Hispanic and White women in action....they make Boomquisha seem like a cool summer breeze.....And their men admit it

AMEN!
Blk...funny thing is....if you have ever seen some Italian, Jewish, Hispanic and White women in action....they make Boomquisha seem like a cool summer breeze.... ... Oh CERTAINLY... When a woman is hurt she "will" usually bring the drama... as well she "should"... BUT... Let's be "clear" here.. OUR experience here in America has been a turbulent one and many times that turbulence plays itself out in our relationships.. I think it happens to "both" men AND women.

For every kneegrow thinking there is greener pasture instead of just pasture, there is a Tiger Woods, OJ or Steve McNair to show them that WOMEN WILL BE WOMEN...put ANY woman in a phucked up situation, hurt or disrespect her and the tune "HELL HATH NO FURY...." will play in full stereo... I don't know about that one... That would imply that Black women are just like every other woman and "this" is just NOT the case... IMO Black women are much more headstrong as a result of their experience... "other" women do not share "that" experience... Black men also have things which are unique to our existence and "other" men do not share "that" experience... I believe that many times these things play themselves out in our relationships. Being with a Black woman is a "special" pleasure as far as I'm concerned. What "other" woman is best to raise my daughters, and be a perfect mate for me. But of course "I'm Biased"...lol

And what is more ironic when I asked non-black men the biggest reason they are apprehensive about dating sisters was, it was ALWAYS based on dealing with the "black males" in the family and NOTHING to do with "drama" SHE brings to the situation... WOW... Really? Wondering "what" are they talking about? Why would a man be intimidated by the "men" in a Black woman's family... unless he was up to no good...lol

There is also a growing trend amongst young African American women dating nonblack males........ If that trend was as growing as the lesbian trend I would say GREAT!!... I don't know which is worse... the growing trends of gay Black men or the lesbian Black women.... But that's a WHOLE different discussion...lol What's amazing is that... Black men don't seem to be having "any" problems dating across the rainbow of cultures?? With as much as we have to collectively "work on"... it doesn't seem like those "collective issues" translate to less of a dating experiences??... Yea I know that's a different discussion too.
That would imply that Black women are just like every other woman and "this" is just NOT the case No..that is actually answering your statement Black Women are too much drama.
In all actuality....black women do hold themselves better with more pride when it comes to breakups....Ask Michael Jordan, Bob Johnson and Shaq.....and then ask Hulk Hogan, Mel Gibson Bob McCarthy and Christie Brinkley's husband...

Wondering "what" are they talking about? Why would a man be intimidated by the "men" in a Black woman's family... unless he was up to no good...lol
Who said intimidated? Where is that post that Bobby D put up about the "can the white man handle a sister"...or something like that.....those type attitudes...like he has no backbone or is weak and the constant "testing"....there are a lot of black men that feel all white men are punks or are at best scared of them just because they are black....oh wait...where is that video of the older white man knocking the s*** out of the younger black male on the bus.....yea...that nonsense...

Black men don't seem to be having "any" problems dating across the rainbow of cultures??

.....

And neither are DECENT young black women....especially those in college....the new generation of intelligent sisters are not going for bullshyt, games or anything not conducive of a positive bright future.....and I don't mean Boomquisha's daughter Elixir either...so sisters lose some athletes...but the loss of the caliber of sisters that are switching will be far more devastating to the black race...
No..that is actually answering your statement Black Women are too much drama.

Red Flag... Foul... Inaccurate... Come on Nia, how could you think I would say something like that? That's contrary to "everything" I believe?? Reading is fundamental to understanding Sis. I "never" said that "from me"... I said that many of the people I have talked to have said that and I went further to say that "Black women were my preference"

Wondering when and where did we stop communicating?

I agree that Black women DO usually hold themselves better and with more pride when it comes to breakups... PERIOD... Much of what's wrong with the collective Black woman is actually evidence of the "lack" of manly behavior of Black Men!
Single parenthood=Lack of father
Bitterness=Subhuman treatment by Black men
I can go on and on but the "fact" remains that "Women take their cue from Men.... Not the other way around"

A woman can have her shyt together and her man is "less" likely to learn from her....

When a Man has his shyt together, the woman is MUCH MORE LIKELY to follow.

Hell ... some women are so twisted that they will "follow" a worthless man and end up in prison, or dead.

What say you now
Blk...stop being literal ...lol

"your" statement refers to the statement in your post...regardless as to who said it...It's not changing "what" I am addressing which is that black women aren't any more drama than any other race of women ....Reading being fundamental has nothing to do with the content of what was stated....nice try though.....

A woman can have her shyt together and her man is "less" likely to learn from her....
I don't know about this one..."behind every great man.."...

Get out your feelings....I would never make the mistake of pairing you of all people with a white woman....lol... ;)
Stop being "literal" she says.... Lawd Lawd Lawd.... That's as close as you come to saying... Oh Big Daddy Blk, I misunderstood you...rotflmao

What's that sound I hear... Oh Damm... It's BW... Screaming something about "There's only ONE Big Daddy around here"... lol
That's as close as you come to saying... Oh Big Daddy Blk, I misunderstood you...rotflmao uh...no....

what is there to misunderstand about....

Both the young dudes and the older guys give me pretty much the same answer... Black Women are too much drama. ...smh.....

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