I can't for the life of me understand why a man would get married and then still watch porn which is lusting after other females...filthy pigs at that.  If a man feels that he still wants to lust...notice I didn't say just look, I said lust after other females than shouldn't he just stay single? 

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kittytrue men will forever lust after all beautiful and sexy women because they are men.

My  dad told me many years ago ALL men want sex. Some men want more than sex from a woman. That is the woman they stay with for a while, and maybe marry. But notice the common thing is that ALL men want sex. Some men want it a lot more than others.

Hell Kirk Franklin's lil azz was addicted to porn at one time, or so I heard. His wife is gorgeous. Thats irrelevant though. Thats just what it is. I have no idea why men are like this. Ask some they may be able to explain in a way u will understand. I doubt it though because most women can't relate to men and can't fully understand the minds of men because they Are Not men.

I would take a man who watches porn over a man who blatantly physically cheats with other women, (or God forbid other men).

Thank you Miss J for your viewpoint.  My view is men who watch porn is cheating.  Lusting when you're married is cheating because our designer and creator said so.  I don't know more than them because I didn't create or design man or woman.  If they feel that way, then all I'm saying is STAY SINGLE.  Their not ready for marriage.

*Devils advocate*

 

No disrespect intended but I know SEVERAL married women who love to watch porn ALONE without their husband or S/O.  Let me just keep it real.  I don't care if you're married, dating or in a long term relationship but at some point everyone lusts for someone else.  It may be watching porn, a passing thought or just seeing someone on TV that you are attracted to.  I'd be willling to bet money that everyone on this site has had a "damn i'd like like to do Idris Elba or damn i'd like to do Janet Jackson" moment at some point in their lives.  It doesn't matter how long you've been with someone or how much you love them, boredom is real!!! To me it is what it is.  I'd rather my wife or girlfriend watch maintenance man Idris in a love scene on TV, than to go on the other side of town and meet maintenance man Joe who will actually check and change her body fluids.   

 

And for the record i'm a man who is not afraid to admit that I actually hate porn!!

Thank you Jmap.  Of course we have all looked at someone else and may have had a MOMENT of desire.  But porn is NOT a MOMENT.  It is a PRACTICE and it's wrong.  If a  person's relationship is boring or becoming routine than it's time to change up, or abstain for a while so the passion can build.  How do you feel about that?  Also, why do you HATE porn?

yeah J why do u hate porn?

Kitty porn is playing up a fantasy. Some folks get ideas from watching porn, I have.

I think whats most impnt is that your partner is only having intercourse with you and that it's not an addiction.

Everybody has some type of vice Kitty....thats reality. There are no perfect people. You gotta deal with something or u do need to stay single if u expect to have a perfect man that does no wrong and never ever lies and cheats and desires and lust after other women. As folks say when u get married, "your married, not dead or blind." You may find a man who never looks at porn, but he looks at magazines and pictures of nude or half nude women. If you go to the beach he may look at a woman with a bangin body and pretty face and get semi-aroused. What women need to realize is that this does not mean your man doesn't love and care about you, it just means that he's human. Not saying u should accept a man who is blatantly disrespectful to u and that ogles other women all the time and compares u to other women and how much better they look than you. But at the same time you can't honestly think that even your husband will never ever find another woman physically attractive besides you. Just like you will see handsome men with great bodies and think they look good.

The human body is not much different than a work of art. God is our creator and sculptor and we are works of art. Those who take good care of their bodies and sculpt them into beautiful works of art should be appreciated.

It's never wrong to tastefully and respectfully admire and appreciate a beautiful work of art. But as with Everything in life there should be a  balance.

Why do I hate porn?  I guess hate is a pretty strong word so i'll just say it's ok sometimes but i'm not crazy about it.  One thing is it's just so staged that I can't get into it.  I believe the best sex is spontaneous and not staged or planned.  Another thing is I don't like to watch someone else having sex if i'm not doing it.  I'm just being real.  Lastly, that damn music is awful!!!  LOL

ha ha.....ok Jmap.

I think the reason why men tend to gravitate toward porn they way they do is because ...

#1. Nature made us males in such a way that the primary way we are stimulated sexually visually. Notice that 97% the  appeal of porn for a man is the visual component ... what he sees or "THINKS" he's seeing !! The other 3%, if any, is what  he hears!
#2. Since time immemorial, men have been culturally and socially programmed to appreciate the female human form in primarily a sexual way. Especially in American culture ... the naked or semi-naked female form is used to sell anything & everything from A to Z. Porn is just another twist on that fact. Women by contrast, have been culturally and socially programmed to deny or downplay the effect of being visually stimulated by the naked or semi-naked male form. But truth be told women can and do enjoy male nudity to whatever degree they happen to see it. It's just a question what ... if any ... rationalization(s) they will use for admitting it.

Men have different reasons for viewing porn, but dissatisfaction with a spouse or S/O or their relationship isn't necessarily the reason nor cause for concern. Now, depriving a spouse or S/O of sexual attention in favor of in an indulgence of porn ... now THAT is cause for concern.

I agree mandinka...

At the risk of getting some womens shoes thrown at me...  lol   There aren't "many" men that will watch porn when ... They are getting "porn-like" lovin at home.  If a man (especially a married man) is watching excessive porn ... BEST BELIEVE he is NOT getting  that brand of sex at home. That's just the way I see it.

It's amazing the things that some women will NOT do in their own bedrooms??

Let's think about how far should a woman go to please a man.  If a woman wanted to do the golden showers or brown showers on you Blk_Phoenix or have you perform analigus on her...I mean tongue all up in her back door stuff and if she wanted to bring toys into the bedroom to shove something up YOUR rear (the same size as you), would you permit all this?  I believe totally in pleasing my man.  But there are limits.  You have some people who want to s***, piss etc....on you, and what you're saying is you're WILLING to do all this to please your mate.  How far are you willing to go Blk_Phoenix?  You see men always talk about how women don't want to try new stuff. Me personally, I love to try new things because I have an adventurous nature, but there are limits.  They complain women don't want to do this or that, but why is it that when it involves what we can do to YOU GUYS it's always a different story.  Please help me understand. Because frankly I don't get it.

Also, I know of so many women who have done it all and I mean it all for their men..and guess what...he STILL cheated.  Now, how do you think those women feel.  I'll tell you how most of the ones I know felt...some were suicidal, some couldn't get out of bed, some were institutionalized etc...hell no....like I said, there are limits.  Whatever a man won't let me do to him, I will NEVER let him do it to me.  Because it's not about pleasure that he's after, it's about degrading and trying to cheapen someone.  If it's good enough for me, then it's should be good enough for him.

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