Well i was wondering if anyone think that married men looking at porn is a act of disloyalty.  why do men continue to look at porn even when they have a beatiful wife ?  I think to some degree it copromises the expectations in the bedroom, really!!!!

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I don't think is a disloyalty but I do believe that for some people it creates a false illusion of what 2 expect out of sex but usually these are people who lack maturity.  I know many women who watch porno also and I don't believe they consider it as being disloyal.  Is more about visual stimulation.
^^This^^

I was totally devastated when I found my ex-husband's porn. After time to reflect I see that I was blind-sided because I believed we were working on our sexual relationship as a team. But that revealed to me that I was struggling with it on my own and he was doing his own thing without me. It must be about how you grow up. Young people today, for better or worse, are much more open minded about sexuality. Now I have a different outlook on it because my heart will never be open and vulnerable like that again. I see a man as an alien creature that will never live up to my expectations. I have to satisfy myself and I happen to know how to do it without porn. People become addicted to other people's energy and I only want to be addicted to myself. So I enjoy the company of men but don't let them put me in a trick bag when it comes to sex. They can't own or control my sex life just like I can't own and control their's.

I wrote a poem that fits this topic but it's not about a husband or even a boyfriend. It's just about men that I care about.

The Man I Love

 

The man I love is pure delight

I need his lovin’ day and night

His lovin’ takes my breath away

Locked in his arms I long to stay

 

All the ladies yearn for him

To have him they risk life and limb

They come to him to cure their ills

They fiend for him like magic pills

 

They bring their cart to push and pull

And pack it tight until it’s full

He makes them sizzle, bake and burn

Blush and ripple, toss and turn

 

They tell him he’s their God of love

And that they’ll never get enough

He tastes their nectar slow and smooth

And paints their world in rosey hues

 

Like pearly ooze the rivers flow

he leaves them glistening all aglow

His passion never hurts my pride

‘Cause I love to see him satisfied

 

There's nothing wrong with looking at porn,I've learned alot of things from it. You just have to remember that those people are acting and get paid to do that stuff,everything you see ain't meant to be done with your mate.

Why do married men look at porn evem when they have a BEAUTIFUL wife? I have two reasons:

 

1. He's admiring the women in the movies because they're doing things his "beautiful wife" will not try, for whatever reason.

2. He's picking up tips from the couples, so that he can try new things with his beautiful wife. If he can do something new to spice things up, and make himsilf look like a sex god....then all the better!

 

I'm not saying you should be happy that the husband is watching porn....I just wanted to give a little insight as to why he might be doing it.

NOT THREATENED JUST THINKS ITS IMMORAL
*POUND*
hate to break it to you realtor i'm not insecure, nor does this pose a threat, i just feel pornography on this level is immoral, and disgusting!  I'M NOT INTO WATCHING OTHER WOMEN PERFORM SEXUALLY, NOR DO I FEEL THAT A WOMANVBANGING ONE HUNDRED MEN IS MORAL AS WELL, I VIEW SEX AS A SENSUAL ACT BETWEEN TO INDIVIDUALS WHOM FEEL EACH OTHER ON A SACRED LEVEL, NOT TO BE STEREOTYPICAL BUT YOU ARE A MALE, AND OUT OF 24HRS IN A DAY YOU THINK ABOUT SEX 23HRS OUT OF THE TIME SO NATURALLY YOU AS A MALE WOULD ADVOCATE SUCH FILTH, I GUESS IT WOULD ALSO BE OK IF YOUR WIFE PERFORMING IN THOSE VIDEOS WOULD MAKE IT OK WITH YOU , CAUSE IF SO YOUR LYING TO YOURSELF, IF NOT THEN YOUR INSECURE,THREATENED ETC "" . TODAY MEN ARE BOMBARDED WITH NEGATIVE SEXUAL IMAGES OF WOMEN, SO WHEN THEY MARRY OR BECOME COMMITTED THEY ARE NOT ABLE TO FACE REALITY.   BUT THANKS FOR THE IMPUT
lol realtor i'm not mad i accidentily hit the caps button , and even though men and women have these negative portrayals and images they are exposed to , men process them differently, and i guess it all depends on what you define as sexy because there is sexy and then there is promiscuous, i dress with class and conserve , my god given body parts to leave something to the imagination, and men find me very attractive and say i'm sexy and classy not sexy and trashy to me porn is trashy. men seem to not know what they want. they want their cake and eat it too.  men want someone to take home to momma, then they want a slut in the bed room, i try to create a balance and hope it all work out. in closing one statement can lead to another subject , so we can do this all day, thats just my point it's all interelated, i feel when two individuals join in a union, thoughts instigate actions,so i do not feel MARRIED men ought to look at porn, and majority of the time individuals who indulge in porn have a hard time maintaining fidelity.  to me looking at porn except when your partner agrees to watch and partake is like cheating.  Isn't marriage based upon prinicibilities , and if you feel the need within a union to watch porn .  is cheating only physical , is marriage only physical, no marriage is emotional and mental, so i think porn without the consent or collaboration of the other partner is emotional cheating! thanks for your input.
There's nothing wrong with being a model daughter in law as well as a model wife, but to each her own. Lady in the street, but a freak in the sheets, isn't that how it goes?

A woman is *NOT* Insecure because she doesn't want HER partner lusting after someone else, whether it's porno or anything else.  That's not an insecure thing, that's a NORMAL, HUMAN thing.  God created men to be monogamous.  That's why he created him ONE woman.  If he wanted men to have more than one woman, He would have taken more than one rib and had him two or three etc....God put it into a man's nature to be faithful to ONE woman.  It's society that's putting all this other foolishness in their heads.  If you don't believe me, run now and go get your (Basic Information Before Leaving Earth) book.  One woman is complicated enough and hard to satisfy, let alone two or more. They can't even get it right with the one. One is MORE than enough for him.  This "spread his seed nonsense" is just that NONSENSE.  If it's about populating the earth....There have been women with imperfect bodies who have had three, four, up to six kids at one time, so when it comes to that populate the earth bull....God designed women's bodies to do amazing things.  If a woman with an IMPERFECT body can pull that off, can you imagine what a woman with a PERFECT body can do. So knock off that "spread your seed" bull.

of course, it's disloyal (duhhhh) .... he's drawn away by his OWN lust and entice = death of the marriage !!!

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