I was totally devastated when I found my ex-husband's porn. After time to reflect I see that I was blind-sided because I believed we were working on our sexual relationship as a team. But that revealed to me that I was struggling with it on my own and he was doing his own thing without me. It must be about how you grow up. Young people today, for better or worse, are much more open minded about sexuality. Now I have a different outlook on it because my heart will never be open and vulnerable like that again. I see a man as an alien creature that will never live up to my expectations. I have to satisfy myself and I happen to know how to do it without porn. People become addicted to other people's energy and I only want to be addicted to myself. So I enjoy the company of men but don't let them put me in a trick bag when it comes to sex. They can't own or control my sex life just like I can't own and control their's.
I wrote a poem that fits this topic but it's not about a husband or even a boyfriend. It's just about men that I care about.
The Man I Love
The man I love is pure delight
I need his lovin’ day and night
His lovin’ takes my breath away
Locked in his arms I long to stay
All the ladies yearn for him
To have him they risk life and limb
They come to him to cure their ills
They fiend for him like magic pills
They bring their cart to push and pull
And pack it tight until it’s full
He makes them sizzle, bake and burn
Blush and ripple, toss and turn
They tell him he’s their God of love
And that they’ll never get enough
He tastes their nectar slow and smooth
And paints their world in rosey hues
Like pearly ooze the rivers flow
he leaves them glistening all aglow
His passion never hurts my pride
‘Cause I love to see him satisfied
Why do married men look at porn evem when they have a BEAUTIFUL wife? I have two reasons:
1. He's admiring the women in the movies because they're doing things his "beautiful wife" will not try, for whatever reason.
2. He's picking up tips from the couples, so that he can try new things with his beautiful wife. If he can do something new to spice things up, and make himsilf look like a sex god....then all the better!
I'm not saying you should be happy that the husband is watching porn....I just wanted to give a little insight as to why he might be doing it.
A woman is *NOT* Insecure because she doesn't want HER partner lusting after someone else, whether it's porno or anything else. That's not an insecure thing, that's a NORMAL, HUMAN thing. God created men to be monogamous. That's why he created him ONE woman. If he wanted men to have more than one woman, He would have taken more than one rib and had him two or three etc....God put it into a man's nature to be faithful to ONE woman. It's society that's putting all this other foolishness in their heads. If you don't believe me, run now and go get your (Basic Information Before Leaving Earth) book. One woman is complicated enough and hard to satisfy, let alone two or more. They can't even get it right with the one. One is MORE than enough for him. This "spread his seed nonsense" is just that NONSENSE. If it's about populating the earth....There have been women with imperfect bodies who have had three, four, up to six kids at one time, so when it comes to that populate the earth bull....God designed women's bodies to do amazing things. If a woman with an IMPERFECT body can pull that off, can you imagine what a woman with a PERFECT body can do. So knock off that "spread your seed" bull.
of course, it's disloyal (duhhhh) .... he's drawn away by his OWN lust and entice = death of the marriage !!!