Well, I hope that no one will ever begin to hate love, because love is so, so, so much more than a feeling. Heartbreak, when someone does not love you the same as you do them, is sometimes the price we may have to pay in order to attain real love. This problem exist and it is unfortunate. It has happened to me and I was married to this person. Fortunately, I have gotten over him, but unfortunately the scars on my heart has not completely healed. I have learned a valuable lesson and that is to always hold your feelings in high esteem, and not just let yourself fall for anyone because oftentimes people will show you in the beginning that their capacity to love is extremely limited. Their cup is often empty. I have since gotten a divorce and I am moving slowly where as love is concerned. Solutions: Heal first. Then, if you haven't, fulfill the goals you have for yourself. Take better care of yourself. Help yourself to become spiritually, mentally, and physically stronger!Move slowly toward any new relationship. Never abandon love, because God is love!
I think that most people in a life time will experience some type of heartbreak; you can't let it break you, it may hurt, but you have to learn from it, and move on. I have experienced heartbreak twice (so far) but I still love the idea of loving and being loved. So I never let heartbreak mess up my future, nor my future of loving again. I pamper myself after a heartbreak; take in a spa weekend, hang out with friends, curl up with a good book and Mary J singing in the background....but after the time passes, you bounce back and you chalk it up to experience and growing (no matter how old you are), it's a form of growing...So my advice to all of you...when heartbreak comes your way, learn from it...as Jae said, let it make you stronger...strong enough to always love again!
I think we all have been there. We all have loved someone where the feeling was not mutual. You have no choice but to allow it to make you stronger. You have to continue to believe in love. I think we have a big problem when we start doubting love, because we allow it to pass us by when it's sitting right in front of us. We can only blame ourselves sometimes, because we have signs that the feeling is not mutual. If you take the time out to listen to what they are saying instead of being blinded by your feelings, maybe you will save yourself some of the heartache and pain. We must stop allowing people to string us along with words. Yes, it's true that you have no control over who you fall for, but you do have control over your actions. When you see yourself getting too caught up and the feeling is not mutual, you have to be strong enough to back off. Sometimes it's not that they don't care for you, it's just that you care too much for them. A person tends to get comfortable when they know they have you and they feel that they can take their time, because they know that you are not going anywhere. We have to realize that we give people that type of power and control over the situation. I find that if you show a person enough for them to see what you are feeling, but not so much that they will have control over the situation, you will usually see where their heart is.
Unfortunately it doesn't matter how much you love someone, how much of yourself you give your significant other. The point is you cannot make someone love you no matter how hard you try and sometimes you loose yourself trying to please someone else and before you know it you began to settle. It's hard, but you move on, LET IT GO and use the pain as a lesson learned. If you know you tried your very best, its his loss not yours. The best thing about a bad painful relationship is... everyday the pain subsides and your heart hurts a little bit less and then is when you realized that the relationship was a mess and God is not going to bless a mess! My grandmother use to tell me that all the time. She told me "Love is suppose to be soothing, calm and beautiful". I took the time needed to heal emotionally, so I would not carry that baggage to the next relationship because all men are not the same. After a broken heart and you've done all the crying you realize that mentally you were better off without that person and also realized that it wasn't love it was just attachment. We are creatures of habit and sometimes mistaken attachment for love..... LOVE DOES NOT HURT.
What do you do? I'm in this situation right now and I'm scared to death that I'm going to end up hating Love. I am truly trying to hold on to the hope that there is a good man out there for me. Deep down inside I know that I am too good for the treatment that I receive. I give and don't get i return. I just cant seem to understand why why I love this man sooo much. You guys pray for me cause this relationship or what ever this is, is about to drive me insane.
You love them anyway....there are a few different types of love, eros, agape and one or two others. You know real love when you still love that person no matter what....I am on good terms with most of my exs..and I still love them....not the romantic type of love...but a unconditional love.