First off this is not a man bashing post, though some may see it that way but then who really cares.
I am just really exhausted with all the excuse and topics about why black women are single and lonely. The last one about the church just made me think and everyone knows I am no fan of the church.
But let's be real, the reason black women turn to Jesus as their "spiritual" man is because they don't have a man. It is not the other way around.
We all know that putting Jesus and the church first helps them to do something they simple must do anyway, continue to exist and progress as a successful and productive human being despite that fact that they don't have a man.
But every time I see a thread, about why black women are single and lonely, black men are happy to jump on the bandwagon for each and every reason that lays the blame at the feet of women.
But let's look at the latest one, the black church. Why is this a problem? Since damn near 90 percent of black Americans categorize themselves as Christian:
Why would a black women being dedicated to her faith be a problem for all these black male Christians?
Seems to me it should create a situation where majority of the are married! JMHO.
I think we need to just face the facts, the reason most black women are single, is that black men as a whole are not as into committed relationships or marriage as other races.
The reason black women are lonely, is because they put all their self worth and self identity into whether or not they have a man in their bed or on their side. And this is why in the place of the black men they can't get to commit they put a man who is totally dedicated to them(in their belief) and that man is Jesus.
This crisis that we feel is happening is simply the product of two opposite views being merged together.
black men as a whole are not being into committed relationships or marriage + black women putting all their self worth and self identity into whether or not they have a man in their bed or on their side = CHAOS
Somebody has to change their side in order for this to move forward and women, sistas are starting to do that.
Now the problem seems to be that the same men, who aren't into committed relationships or marriage, also have a problem with women not making them a priority in theirs lives and expressing that they can exist and be happy without them or without them as a main factor.
C'mon Sons! You can not have it both ways.