DOES BEING SINGLE MEAN YOUR ALONE ..
WHY IS IT WHEN WE MEET SOMEONE SINGLE WE ASSUME THEY ARE ALONE? If they are single that usually that means that they are talking to other people trying to find the special one. Doesn't mean they are sleeping with them but getting to know them ... do you have issues with that if you are interested in that person, they are still trying to find out if they are interested in you? So many people make the mistake thinking if they are interested in someone, that the person should automatically feel the same way even if they are treating them like they are the world ..
i know i have been called so many of dogs in my life i start barking one woof for no, two woof for yes.
In general I do not think that it is wrong to go out with different women as long as they all understand the situation. You have to make your motive known.
also- some people use the term "dating" meaning that they are looking for a spouse so that is their mission
and some just say: "I am going out"
Now just as men get the reputation of being a player and female can get a reputation for doing the same thing- just throwing that out there!
and a man can get past that reputation far quicker than a woman can
DOES BEING SINGLE MEAN YOUR ALONE ... No it doesn't
WHY IS IT WHEN WE MEET SOMEONE SINGLE WE ASSUME THEY ARE ALONE? ... probably b'cos we're alone, so we assume that the other person is too; bad assumption .............. The 'single's game' has changed, it's not what it use to be, ppl are engaging in & more accepting of, what i refer to as, surrogate relationships, like an FWB. Also, there are a lot of single ppl who actually enjoy sinlgehood & don't wanna be in an exclusive or committed relationship, especially when they can enjoy all the amenities of a relationship w/out the responsbility or commitment of one.
As for myself, l just assume that an attractive man isn't "hard-up" or 'hard-pressed" for attention from the ladies (same goes for an attractive woman) .... He (or she) may be "single" (single meaning; not in an exclusive or committed relationship) but that doesn't mean they are "alone" (alone meaning: not without affection from or friendship(s) with the opposite sex, doesn't necessarily mean it's sexual) or a person can be "single" but still has attachments to other relationships (FWB, jump- off, booty call/bed buddy ect) or there maybe "unfinished" business with an ex who's not completely X'ed out of the picture yet. ....
Dex, l think that the first few weeks, or first couple months of a new relationship (the getting to know you/each other process) ppl decide if the person they've met is a "keeper" or not and a part of that process, IMO, is also to give the person (yourself) time to "disengagae" themselves from any other "attachments" (Exes, FWB's, ect) they may need to loose themselves from. We all come to a new relationship with a past & smetmes there's a li'l "residue" left, so ppl need time to clear the slate, so to speak, before diving completely in.
The singles game has changed so so so much FOR THE WORST ... And I am just not with the games and because I am not, It leaves me with very few choices ... and I mean very fewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
As for myself, l just assume that an attractive man isn't "hard-up" or 'hard-pressed" for attention from the ladies
Misconception, I truly don't think I am all that at all but I told a lot that i am and its guys who are supposedly all that who get NO ATTENTION that we want because of that thinking .. i am not hard up but I am treated like i have the plague most of the time ... I get hit on by women who are most definitely not my type, i will leave it at that ..
And yes i agree with you on the part when you meet someone new, times is needed to disengage yourself from other weight that may be hanging off of you.. IJS
I just think a lot of us in here if content with keeping our "options" open. We all have ran across a guy or girl that were pretty nice, attractive and had decent conversation within the last two years. It's just not enough to give up our "options" status. Having options is having power in the relationship game. Once that is taken away from us and are single status turns to relationship, then we feel we're missing out on the one we really want. So we stay single until we find that person that knocks our socks off in every facet of the game.
Understand that a lot of us are in that place where we are having lots of difficulties starting a relationship again ... You are married and trust me when i say, it is the most beautiful thing that God has created... If it was up to me I would not be divorced ... if things ever start going south for you and your wife ... sit her down and you two talk and if you are on the same page with making it work ... then i promise you if you guys come talk to us we will give you 2 plenty of NEW ideas to come up with to start that flame again ....(if its out) ... What I would have done is not for everyone but it is and will always be for me .... I would have hit my knees more because God is the only one that can save or truly spice up a marriage ...
Very Glad to hear that!!!!
KEEP Working at it:)
oopssssssss, hard to keep up with these different names of who is a man or woman ... please forgive me ...
Marriage is hard work ...hhhhmmm tell me something in life that you are truly passsionate about that is not .... you get what you put in ... most times .... it takes 2 and its wonderful that you both recognize it ... for me its pretty much impossible without Christ ... I wont push my Lord down your throat, its just what has to be for me and my time will come again and then I will exercise my preaching again in my own life with my wife .... I so hope you 2 work this out because a marriage that is fine tuned and running well is beyond anything any of us can ask for ..